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Originally Posted by Designbuilt
What I'm trying to get at is that you have to really WANT to get inshape, you can't just hint at it.
But at about the 15 month mark, I told her that enough was enough already, and she was upset at first, I apologized, but since, she's been exercising and watching everything she eats.
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These are two very good points. Firstly the person has to want to make that change. I tried for years to ask, encourage, offer, drive, cook, shop....anything to help kick start my wife's re-entry into a healthy lifestyle. The more I did these things the less interest she had in it. Excuses are piled on excuses. But.........if she asks questions in or wants to go to the gym......I accommodate. If she asks or says she is getting fat or feels out of shape I don't disagree though. How would that help? Playing along with the obviousness of that kind of lie is just silly. I don't have to be an ass.....but I'm not going to lie either. If you hate being fat.........do something about it. Complaining isn't going to get it done. If you aren't going to change for yourself....I certainly don't want to hear any bitching about it. If you don't like my opinion.....don't ask either......I'm going to tell you the truth. Funny how people always want the truth until it is about negative physical aspects.
Now.........if I have a problem with her unhealthy lifestyle and physique and she didnt.......I'm not going to change her and wouldn't even try. That is my issue not hers.