Thanks Jello. It's kinda nice to know that I'm not the only one who has to deal with this. This guy is unbelievable at times. He's in his mid-50's, a martial arts instructor, 5'8" maybe, good build for his age and insanely outspoken. A loud talker type if you know what I mean?
We actually had a physical altercation last Thanksgiving at our house. We stayed up pretty late partying with most of the family, drinking, playing games. Anyways, the next morning I walk out of my bedroom, hungover, and he comes up behind me and grabs my sides. It startled me and I asked him to stop and he still kept doing it. I turned around, grabbed him and through him up against the inside of the door. My wife intervened and I walked away and told him I'm not some little kid he can play grab ass with. We had a few more words and he ended up leaving in a huff. I paid the price with my wife for several months after this. I thought we were done then, but we managed to work through it.
So, he came into town last night for an overnight visit. I bought some killer steaks, wife made an awesome salad, I had Corona's on hand (his favorite) and was really trying to welcome him. Things were cool for awhile and then we were sitting in the living room around 10pm and he brought up this youtube video about police brutality and the US becoming a police state. He's a conspiracy theory guy. I mentioned that I don't envy the cops in my city because of all the crazy, messed up people they have to deal with. Well, he didn't like that and started to raise his tone. I asked him if he could talk quieter because we have neighbors upstairs and down and he just got more irate. I then made the mistake of mentioning that this was "my house" and as soon as I said that he got up and looked like he wanted to fight me. He was yelling at me, calling me all kind of names. This was in front of my wife and kids and in my home! I almost called the police, but made a last second call not to. My wife seems to make excuses for him and tells me that I just need to be quiet when he's around. She loves her dad more than anything and I know that blinds her to a large degree.
We're talking of separating now, but we will see? Like I said earlier, we've been going through a rough patch for awhile now, but this may be the hair the broke the camels back. I sure as hell hope not, because I truly love my wife and kids more than anything in this world. I have some things I need to work on to (anger issues) and so that's what I'm going to be concentrating on more starting this week. I used to go every Saturday, but have slacked off lately. I have access to a great men's counselor that I've seen over the past few years.
Prayers would be greatly appreciated brothers....