I'm bored at work and figure what the hell, why not get some people's opinions on my issue with my girl. I would talk with my friends about this one but my friend's women are friends with my woman so it might get back to her accidentally...
Anyway, my wife and I have been together since we were kids, like young highschool. We are still relatively young and I love her to death and I never want to hurt her feelings.
When we first got together, I had a type and boy was she it. Short, thick, brown hair and ass like a black girl but shes white. 12 out of 10 in my book. Anyway we have been together for 8 years now, I am into bodybuilding/powerlifting/just being a gym rat, always have been since before we got together. She played some sports in school, dance that sort of thing. She was always a chubby girl but as I said I dug it.
8 years later and I still love her more than life itself, but my physical attraction to her has diminished. No I'm not getting tired of the same old thing, she has gained alot of weight and not in all the right places.
Anyway, I offer to take her with me to the gym, she says "I don't want to go to the gym with you". I offer her advice on diet and nutrition she wants no part of it. Granted I don't expect her to listen to everything I have to say, but short of getting on my knees and begging her to hit the gym, eat better ect. I've tried everything.
Basically, I don't want to sound vain as I love her more than anything in my life and am very grateful to have her as my wife. But its getting to that point where I find myself going through the motions with her especially during sex, and its really hard for me to finish sometimes. But any advice on maybe something I can do or say that might push her in the right direction?
And I would really like to avoid being forth right with it as she has always seen herself as the average one in the relationship. and I'd rather live in misery for the rest of my life than hurt her feelings and make her cry.
Any advice, thoughts, comments please cuz I'm outta ideas.
Anyway, my wife and I have been together since we were kids, like young highschool. We are still relatively young and I love her to death and I never want to hurt her feelings.
When we first got together, I had a type and boy was she it. Short, thick, brown hair and ass like a black girl but shes white. 12 out of 10 in my book. Anyway we have been together for 8 years now, I am into bodybuilding/powerlifting/just being a gym rat, always have been since before we got together. She played some sports in school, dance that sort of thing. She was always a chubby girl but as I said I dug it.
8 years later and I still love her more than life itself, but my physical attraction to her has diminished. No I'm not getting tired of the same old thing, she has gained alot of weight and not in all the right places.
Anyway, I offer to take her with me to the gym, she says "I don't want to go to the gym with you". I offer her advice on diet and nutrition she wants no part of it. Granted I don't expect her to listen to everything I have to say, but short of getting on my knees and begging her to hit the gym, eat better ect. I've tried everything.
Basically, I don't want to sound vain as I love her more than anything in my life and am very grateful to have her as my wife. But its getting to that point where I find myself going through the motions with her especially during sex, and its really hard for me to finish sometimes. But any advice on maybe something I can do or say that might push her in the right direction?
And I would really like to avoid being forth right with it as she has always seen herself as the average one in the relationship. and I'd rather live in misery for the rest of my life than hurt her feelings and make her cry.
Any advice, thoughts, comments please cuz I'm outta ideas.