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I've been dating my boyfriend for a year now. We live together. He is a captain of tugboat and works away for long periods of time. I'm 29 and he is 41., anyways, he was away for 5 months in Africa and i wanted patiently for his return with emails and phone calls everyday, I don't mind waiting on him at all because I love him and he makes me happy. Well that was until while he was home for couple months I found out he was on dating sites and messaging girls on facebook trying to get them to go to dinner after we had gotten into an argument, he used the whole oh she is just an old friend and it wasn't going to be anything more than dinner excuse. Yeah right. So then he departs again making trips to Puerto rico, and logged on his email and seen that he was also on latin America cupid trying to meet up with girls there too.. his excuse then was well we were arguing and i thought it was going to be over, but as long as we're together you have nothing to worry about.. blah blah blah. .. now our arguments. . I'm not being vain, but i am a very attractive female, 13 years younger. Extremely honest and trustworthy and would never ever disrespect my man, I believe you should treat people how you want to be treated and if you want to live like a whore or do as you please then just be single for christ sake. So our arguments are that he never gives me any attention, no affection, doesn't hold me at n8ght, not touchy feely, all about himself and what he wants to do, never makes me a priority. . And you would think that if your away from your woman for months at a time and she's hot and wants to have sex 24/7 you would be all over right? Am I missing something here? He has a very good woman and was still trying to seek outside of the relationship, . So far I don't know of anything happening so i didn't leave him.. but who knows if he has done something or not.. I have never dealt with any of this from a man.. he keeps making me question myself, and i know i shouldn't do that, I haven't done anything wrong.. and I'm kind of stuck in a hard place because I've been going through a nasty custody/divorce battle for over 2 years now that will finally be coming to an end in october, and i was almost tempted to just leave this unhealthy relationship alone but if I move out it will not look good for my case.. I will look unstable.. and it's not that I don't want to be with him. In the beginning he was such a sweet heart and all about me but then that all went out the window, he says he is trying and wants to make it work, but he is also gone again off shore and will be gone at least two months before I see him again, so who knows if he's just singing that tune while he is stuck on boat with 5 guys and wants me to stick around for his emotional needs.. it's like I'm only here at his convenience. . If things don't get better I don't think I can deal with this much longer.. I just want my man to be good to me and me be good to him and us be happy and in love. . Is that even a thing anymore? . I hear all these stories and i am beginning to give up in humanity.