alittle advice about my ex

[blackssmagic]

well, i dont know where to start... i feel like i know the answers but for some reason just cant go thru with them. this is what happened, 2.5 weeks ago the lady that i have been dating for the last 1.5 years was messing around on me. i am 30 and she is 22, yes i understand the age difference/mature levels but i thought hell why not. she moved clear across the country to be with me. she has very few friends and little to no money. mind you this woman when she moved in with me in my house couldnt balance a check book, boil water nothing, i took her by the hand and did and showed her everything. we traveled all over the place did everything togther. so she starts a fight with me that i dont show her enough attention/affection/sex. she didnt go more than a few days without getting some if that. i had my second major ankle surgery in august and still take meds for it and have to sleep with a bag of ice on my foot but she didnt understand that. so the fight carries on for 2 days, finally i say to her that there is something more going on, that this fight is bullshit. she swears up and down that there is nothing going on. so she tells me that she is leaving for good i say fine i am not trying to keep a woman that dont want to be kept. she starts crying and beggs me to tell her that i love her and dont want her to leave. so i say lets go upstairs get in bed and start tommorrow off like a new day. for 35 mins we are laying in bed she is kissing me telling me how much she loves me, as soon as i fall asleep she gets up walks over to my side and says i cant do this. well thats it i go to her car and get my garage door opener from it and her cell phone is ringing(funny it was in the car in the first place), i pick it up and its a text message from some guy. she is in an academy to be a corrrections officer at this time, it just so happens to be a guy in her class. she swears that nothing happened and i tell her fine i am going to read the text when she says all we did was kiss. well that was it get the fuck out, if i could have ran i would have caught her and probably went to jail. she leaves the house with just a handfull of items. i start reading the text mesages and they started talking to each other on the 18Nov so 4 days prior to me kicking her out. this is the best part, he is 22 and lives with his mommy/daddy. i havent talked to her until 4 days ago when she calls me and says i have 5 mins. we end up talking for 2 hours with no solution. i have been calling her, her mother, her father telling them that she needs to get her shit out of the house. i even bagged it and put it out on the front porch but she doesnt come to get it. she was supposed to pick it all her stuff for the last 3 days and nothing. she even has the balls to have this guy call me and demand different things in the house(even this guy is crazy), i tell him dont ever call me again and if she needs something then tell her to call me. so she calls me again last night and says i cant come and get my stuff until the morniing at 0900 hrs, i tell her she has no respect for me to have this guy call me. so she calls me about 20 times last night and all i keep doing is telling her she never loved me and that she has no respect what so ever. here it is 1020 hrs and she hasnt called or comeover to get here stuff. i told her last night that she made a big mistake on this one and she will learn the hard way. so what do you think is going on?

 

[Crowler]

Sorry to hear your troubles it must be a REAL heartache.

She is confused and has no idea what she wants but she probably wants someone more her age who likes the silly things 22 year olds like.

If you are smart and much more mature than she, and I think you should be, you should know what you want and that is a mature women not a girl.

Ship her items back to her parents house via UPS, call her with the tracking number, change your locks(if she has a key) get an account on Match.com and find a women and leave the girls alone.


CROWLER

 

[OuchThatHurts]

I agree with Crowler and have one more question...

As I read all that, my thoughts were entirely, "What the hell was this guy thinking???"

I'd wish you luck but after that experience, I think your next relationship will be a lot different (for the better). Just make sure you don't repeat the mistake.

 

[Philips]

Sounds tough,,, In my opinion I would sell the chicks shit or throw it in the garbage and start lookin for a new chick as soon as your ready, but I would definitly start doing whatever it took to get this chick off my mind. Sounds like right now all she doing is stirring up drama and trouble and I dont know about you but I hate that shit. Ditch her and like crowler said start lookin for someone else.

 

[blackssmagic]

I agree with Crowler and have one more question...

As I read all that, my thoughts were entirely, "What the hell was this guy thinking???"

I'd wish you luck but after that experience, I think your next relationship will be a lot different (for the better). Just make sure you don't repeat the mistake.

funny you say that because that was my thought..............

she called me friday night saying she needed her stuff and that i wont let her come back home...and that its getting cold out, all i could do was laugh, and tell her to have him buy you stuff...honestly its hard, i can say that i invested myself in this one

 

[BOOMSHAKER]

Black, you did the right thing and kicked her to the curb! Put her shit out on the front porch, tell her if she is not here by what ever time you give her it's going out to the curb for trash! You are not responsible for her being so F-ing lazy that she can't come get her shit from you! You owe her nothing brother! Leave her a message to come get it off the curb! Loose your cell number and change it!

However if you see thats its her calling and you still pick it up 20 times in a row knowing its her, then you are not helping but hurting her by induldging(?) her with her mind games. Cut the shit short and move on. Good luck bro.

 

[vitor]

I agree with everyone, it is over, you realize that. You gave her lots, she took advantage of you so Fher. My .02 cents, stop calling or picking up alot, tell her once and for all come over this weekend, get your stuff or you are going to box it up, leave it on the porch and its no longer your problem.

Its easy to say do this or that, but to actully do it, is the hard part. You dont need a woman who will cheat or kick you while your down. Atleast you found out now before you didnt something dumb like marriage etc..

 

[Rob Roy]

D.T.B.
DUMP THAT BITCH
Pawn off her shit that is of any value, throw the rest away and stop answering the phone.
D.T.B.

 

[PHIL HERNON]

Let her go

PLEASE, let her go. Telling her she has no respect for you and that she never loved her will not changer her mind. She wants to move on and that is her perrogative......you are not married. Word of wisdom....Never date ANY GIRL under the age of 26..DANGER ZONE. They have no idea what they want yet or who they are. Will she regret it later? WHO THE FUCK CARES IF SHE WILL.......move on.

 

[Kaiser]

Phil!

Never date ANY GIRL under the age of 26...

This sounds so familiar! Sort of like what I told you a couple of months ago. Glad you understand it man.

 

[OuchThatHurts]

This sounds so familiar! Sort of like what I told you a couple of months ago. Glad you understand it man.

Yeah but you told me I should consider dating heavy, black women... WTF?!?

 

[Kaiser]

Yeah but you told me I should consider dating heavy, black women... WTF?!?

Why's it gotta always be a black thing with you?

 

[blackssmagic]

heres a great update her mom is coming out here to visit and they want to go to dinner next week to talk, seems she had her plates suspended because i had canceled her car insurance and she has no money what so ever.

 

[TestPolska]

I think you handled it perfectly man. Said get the Fuck out, boxed her shit up, sent her packing. Her mom wants to have dinner with you? Call and respectivly decline saying me and your daughter are done, she made a mistake, mistakes are unacceptable. I wish you all the best.

Then leave.

By the way I envy how you can kick her to the curb so fast, I had a real tough time with that once. Your doin the right thing bro.

 

[ScorpioGirl]

She's not coming to pick her stuff up because she still wants to have a connection to you. Take it to Goodwill. I see no reason to have dinner with her parents. She is a big girl and needs to clean up her own messes.

The sooner you get rid of her stuff and stop talking to her and her parents, the sooner you can move on and find a healthy relationship.

Good luck to you!

 

[iron fist]

well first of all dont throw or sale her stuff. this will only come back to bite
you in court possibly later. box her things up sit them on the porch, call her
and tell her you want to talk. when you see her pull up, call the police, they
should get there quick, if you tell them theres going to be a problem. tell them
whats going on and you want her to take her things with her. end of problem.
that makes it all legal.
another way you can do it if you want revenge, is to tell the mother you want
to talk to her alone. sweet talk her out of her panties and then tell your ex-girlfreind all about it. that really will make her hate you and leave you alone,
especially when you tell her that mom was twice as good in bed! lol

 

[OuchThatHurts]

She's not coming to pick her stuff up because she still wants to have a connection to you. Take it to Goodwill. I see no reason to have dinner with her parents. She is a big girl and needs to clean up her own messes.

The sooner you get rid of her stuff and stop talking to her and her parents, the sooner you can move on and find a healthy relationship.

Good luck to you!

Damn straight! Well said.

 

[blackssmagic]

She's not coming to pick her stuff up because she still wants to have a connection to you. Take it to Goodwill. I see no reason to have dinner with her parents. She is a big girl and needs to clean up her own messes.

The sooner you get rid of her stuff and stop talking to her and her parents, the sooner you can move on and find a healthy relationship.

Good luck to you!

thats strange you say that........the only number i have for her is of the freakin guy she messed around with...so i call him to tell him she needs to get her shit and all of it, he says she doesnt want it, but yet all her mail still comes here...she has her checkbook, all of her clothes, birth certificate just everything, she is playing the i am scared to come and get it role.

 

[ScorpioGirl]

thats strange you say that........the only number i have for her is of the freakin guy she messed around with...so i call him to tell him she needs to get her shit and all of it, he says she doesnt want it, but yet all her mail still comes here...she has her checkbook, all of her clothes, birth certificate just everything, she is playing the i am scared to come and get it role.

She isn't scared....she's manipulating you.

Have her mail canceled at your address. Give her 24 hours and then remove ALL of her belongings from your home. Don't worry about feeling bad because it's what you need to do for YOU. She's had numerous occasions to deal with the issue; she's just choosing not to.

 

[blackssmagic]

She isn't scared....she's manipulating you.

Have her mail canceled at your address. Give her 24 hours and then remove ALL of her belongings from your home. Don't worry about feeling bad because it's what you need to do for YOU. She's had numerous occasions to deal with the issue; she's just choosing not to.

yah your right she might be altittle scared because if i could have ran that night and caught her well thank god i just had ankle surgery and cant run..... i hate to say it but its nice to see her struggling.....