alright i need to vent a little.

Got Juice · Mar 21, 2005

alright guys/gals i need a little venting cause its 2:20AM and i cant sleep. i have a huge thing for work tomorrow and im up at 2am not sleeping.

my GF started working at this sports bar and tonight this girl wanted her to go out after work. so her friend calls me and ask me if i will go with them. i say yes, but i decided i really really need to sleep. i cant be irresponsible with my job, i need to be 100% tomorrow. the thing is i am worried to death about her, because she is in the city by driving by herself. and i know she is fucking hot and i hate dudes always hitting on her. its bad enough i have to live with it while she is working, now its 2am and i cant stop thinking about shit. i trust her but i still am a little worried about her. i told her ass to be home no later than 3:30 that gives her 30 mins to get home after it closes. am i crazy or what? probably am, but ahh well. lol

peace,
GJ

Mr Pickles · Mar 21, 2005

5:30am bro... she come home on time??

Got Juice · Mar 21, 2005

she got home about 3:45am. she had to wait in a praking lot for her GF's mom to come and pick her friend up because her friend was drunk.

she got home shit hit the fan, she aint going out after work anymore!!!

thanks for the concern,, lol

GJ

Jrflex10er · Mar 21, 2005

atleast she's ok man....Fucking pisses me off with all these sick fuckers out there now. You just never know now days.

rAJJIN · Mar 22, 2005

well

GJ,
I am one of them Over protective, Jealous, Insecure type that Oprah
always warns women about.

Damn you shoulda just went it maya been less stressfull then wondering?

PHIL HERNON · Mar 22, 2005

Here is my take

Let he rgo do what she wants to do . If she wants to go out with her friends over you, let her go. It will show you early on in the relationship that you A) REALLY DO TRUST HER, B)Will find out if it becomes a trend now rather than later once you are married C) If you really love her or just lust her.

Nemesis79 · Mar 22, 2005

Yup bro 3 45 is not that bad bro...girls are always testing guys to see if their is trust..once they know you trust em things get better i'd understand if she came two hours late..you can be protective but to a certain limit..my girl likes it when i get "jealous" I am not but just fake it...and then ignore it..so there's a good balance.

u'll be fine it's good to keep a check on your woman..but dont' overdo it.

vitor · Mar 22, 2005

Dude that is a sure fire way to lose her, let her go out from time, to time you do the same, being controling = turnoff central,

Got Juice · Mar 22, 2005

no man, its not that im jealous because im not, sure a little everyone is.

she works at a bar and gets hit on night and day, i dont say a thing. i never even comment, she'll tell me something that some guy did or whatever and ill just laught about it because its her job and she has to deal with it. it doesnt bother me, i have been in there and im 10X better looking than most people who go in there.

but when its like 3am and she is in the city at some bar i cant sleep at night because im worried about some fuck doing something to her drink or whatver. i just cant sleep peacefully while im worrying. im not worred about her cheating on me though.

i never tell her what to do or call her throughout the day checking on her, as a matter of fact she calls me usually. does anyone else worry about the loved ones while they are out and you are trying to sleep or am i crazy??????

later,

GJ

PHIL HERNON · Mar 22, 2005

Personally

Thats not the kind of relationship I want, so I dont or should say didn't date women who wanted to stay out all night with their friends. I wantd someone who wanted to spend time with me and visa versa.

Got Juice · Mar 22, 2005

yeah phil im the same way bro, i want a girl who gets off work and comes home to see me, which is what she always does.

after talking about it the whole reason she wanted to go out is because she really likes this girl that she works with and wanted to hang out with her. she tried to get the girl to come over to our place but apparently she likes this bouncer at the place where they went.

my GF and her best kind of stopped talking so now my GF doesnt really have a friend, it sounds kind of sad when she told me.. but i actually understnad how it would be a bummer. so she just really likes this girl and likes hanging out with her but she now understands she cant do it after work at 3am.

im glad we got everything worked out, all is well. i see her point and she sees my point. only after a little yelling though.. lol

and i appreciate all the comments from you guys!!

later,
GJ

Iabadman · Mar 22, 2005

GJ .......Listen to Phil on this one .......I have worked in the bar / strip club scene since I was 17 .A girl that wants to go out and do the late night bar thing or the after hour get together thing is just asking to fuck up and disrespect the relationship . I can't tell you how many girls that I got on that were at these after hours get togethers[ and no I don't drink or do drugs , but most at these things do ] only finding out at a later date that they had boyfriends , husbands , or fiances .[ I would never hook up with some one that is attached knowingly] I have many horrible stories about women that I could tell . And these so called friends never have any respect for the girls boyfriends / husbands .They just want someone to go with them that will draw attention.
Let your girl do whatever she wants , don't wait up , question , or check up on her . If you are with her then trust her , but just know if these are things she enjoys [ getting attention from losers that just want to fuck her and being around drugs / alcohol] . Then bro dump her fast and save yourself the trouble . Girls like this are a dime a dozen. It is the girl that is not co dependant that chooses to be with you and enjoys quiet one on time with you that you are seeking . Girls that want attention and like to go out and " dance " with the girls are an accident of the heart waiting to happen IMO.Never try to control or use guilt tactics on a chick . It doesn't work , it makes them lose respect and they end up just being sneakier . Say your sorry for being upset and worried . Tell her you were wrong for getting so worked up .[ that it was the work thing getting to you ] Tell her she can do what she wants , that you trust her . then sit back and pay attention . If she wants to go out tell her she can go without you and to have a great time . Don't trip at all . If she does it again in the next month or so after , offer the same thing , if she bites get rid of her bro . She is still searching for something that isn't you .....take my advice . Never show insecurity with a women . If they smell it ,you are in trouble .........Take care ......I hope work went OK ......I am glad you have your priorities straight.....Good job ! .......

tbonus · Mar 22, 2005

Ok, is it possible for her to want to go out dancing? Just curious. I don't really dance, but my wife likes to. We go out every so often and I will fake it, but just not a dancer. Couldn't a girl go out with her friend or friends say once a month and hang out? Does that mean she's out fucking somebody? I guess I just trust that my wife will come home and after shaking her ass for a few hours, come shake it for me. Granted, she doesn't go out with her friends too often, but maybe every 6 weeks or so. Usually they just go out for dinner, but sometimes they'll go to a club. And even rarer, the husbands and boyfriends will all come along.

Iabadman · Mar 22, 2005

Sure tbonus ,she could just like to dance ......only you know your wife and the people she goes out with . I am just saying I have seen alot of bad behavior out of these women that just like to dance .........But bro , you sound very secure and trusting . Sounds like your relationship is strongand healthy so you are fine ......but most people aren't in that category I am afraid to say . You should hear some of the fuck up shit I have seen women that were attached do over the years - absolutely trerrible. But there are some great women out there no doubt .......sounds like you found yourself one of them .......cherish her bro ......not easy to find .....

Vander_V · Mar 22, 2005

If the woman truely loves you this kind of shit would never happen

Got Juice · Mar 22, 2005

alright fellas, im taking your advice and putting it up in a little storage compartment in my brain. if this shit happens again im going to pull it out and open it up on her.. haah

i honestly think things are cool now, and i dont think ill have to worry about her going out late after work hours. she understands why i was upset. so we will wait and see.

later,

GJ

vitor · Mar 22, 2005

Got Juice, Try to go out with her once in awhile doing the late night night club bs, then do some stuff you want to do. I see what you are saying, and as long as she is inviting you and its not like you cant come its all good.

Got Juice · Mar 22, 2005

yeah i usually would go out w/ her its just i had work early and it was a sunday night!!

thanks vitor, btw i just voted for your gal, nice!

later,

GJ