Any had success w/ Anger Management Therapy?

[WARLORD_123]

This is a serous inquiry. Also before any of the resident smartasses considers a "lower your dosages response," know this: I am currently off cycle, and my fury issues exist reguardless of the presence of elevated testosterone. I also have enough self control to walk away from most "aggrevating situations." The problem is I do harbor a case of GSD (General Shitty Disposition), and have for several years now so I find myself aggrevated often and tend to live the life of a hermit as a result. The only people I communicate with are my brothers from my old unit who I served in combat with, and of course my occasional dialogue with my fellow bodybuilders here on PM.
This obviously affects my personal life as my wife enjoys having a social life and the mere presence of alcohol and those drinking it and communicating at a volume level above what I deem appropriate instantly infuriates me. Plus mearly hearing people discuss certain current events or badmouthing our fighting men sets me into a very dangerous mental state, and I have to leave immediatally or Ill end up incarcirated. I have never layed my hands on my wife or anything like that but I am prone to smashing shit. And given that Im 6'3 and around 290 pounds these rages are overwhelmingly destructive and dangerous. It is very embarrassing after the fact as it is usually set off by someting very simple that I just was unable to get away from before the switch fliped to smash mode. I have at the request of my wife went to a VA clinic to discuss how to control the fury with a professional, but they just wanted to pump me full of meds, which I will not have any part of. So I was just wondering if anyone here who harbors similar issues and what they have done to help to control there anger.
Also please remember that I am posting this as an attempt to find a solution, not a pisssing match about things that upset me so if our views differ please start a different thread about it as I dont want to argue with anyone I just would like some possible helpfull suggesstions. Thanks.

 

[Wana B Big]

yes i used to be like that,the uncontroled violent smashinng the house up,steering weel lock road rage sort of stuff. It was in my 20s,i still from time to time I feel pissed off but no violence,my girl might not agree though l.o.l. Yes anger managment helped but it was the break up of my first partner after eight years together which made me realise no one likes a violent ,pig headed, bloke.
Get the help you need!

 

[rotty]

I think if it is something that you truly want then it will help, but you really need to want it to work. Good luck

 

[doug1]

If I was in the service as you were(thank you for that)I would be very carefull about what I watch on tv. Stay away from the mainstream media(Fox News is a good alternative,Colmes still pisses me off though). Even most of the news in general will get me fired up, you know stories about child molesters, judges letting criminals walk, etc. I like to sit and smoke cigars when the weather is appropriate, very relaxing. Try to watch funny sitcoms, Seinfeild reruns still play for an hour every night on TBS(i think). What type of music do you listen to? Rock music is probably not the best even though you may prefer it. Read the Bible for a while each morning, consider the good things in your life as the day is starting out. just a few things that may help.

 

[Gunsmith]

I'm in your boat bro ,I get mad at the general public because I feel that 90% of them are retards that should have been killed at birth. And your right about it being distructive , to your home ,car ,relationship and carreer. I was like this all through highschool and was actualy tested twice for steroids because of my temper on the ball field and that was years before I ever tried anything.
I ended up hurting a guy realy bad over a stupid arguement that esclated into him pushing me and I lost it , I had to go to a head shrinker and class for "rage controle" the classes actualy irritated the piss out of me but the Dr help a good bit explaining to me that I had what she calls an "alpha Male" complex , meening that I feel the need to be in total control of all situations I'm in and basicaly making sure I'm the domonate person , I though about this and relized that it was semi true and I was doing it with body language.

I still have a very short temper but have been able to manage it as I get older , basicaly just by taking a step back and trying to think and focus on the situation thats bothering me and if in a couple seconds I can't get it strait I just walk off and ask myself why Iwas getting upset and was it realy worth it. I had some talks with my family Dr about this cases and he wanted me to try Zanex so I got a few and tried it and low and behold they work. I go through periods where it worse than others , I guess kinda like being on the rag , especaly around the holidays when the general public seems worse than ever so I take 1/2 a Zanex in the AM and it helps throughout the day. I'm actualy better off when I'm on a cycle unless I'm on Tren , but it seems to put me at ease when im on a cycle. Dieting or being hungry in general make s it bad as does ECA stack.
My head Dr at work was horrified when she read me past reconrd and my hobbies , 22yrs of martial arts , 16yrs of power lifting and body building , 4 differant C.Q.B. schools and one police marksman school , all that with a realy bad attitude?? but after talking with me and being around me in a"friendship" type enviroment she ok with me and no longer things I need to be in a cage!!

But realy bro , find somthing that you can get your head into and focus on , it sounds kinda gay but Yoga realy works as does the meds , just don't let the Dr.s jump you of into a high dose , start very low and work your way up.

 

[mrsoul]

I HAVE BEEN SEEING A THERAPIST FOR SOME TIME NOW AND MY ANGER PROBLEMS HAVE SUBSIDED QUITE A BIT. ALL ANGER COMES FROM FEARN AND THERAPY HAS HELPED ME TO SEE EXACTLY WHAT I AM AFRAID OF. I KNOW IT IS HARD TO ADMIT THAT WE ARE AFRAID, ESPECIALLY AT 6.3 290, BUT THE ANGRIER YOU ARE, THE MORE SCARED YOU ARE. I HOPE YOU WILL SEE SOMEONE TO GET TO THE ROOT OF YOUR TROUBLES.

 

[doug1]

Dieting or being hungry in general make s it bad as does ECA stack.

yeah, you beat me to it, if your dieting then just stop. enjoy eating again, some nice meals with your wife. doesn't mean you have to be a pig and gain weight back, keep the meals in moderation. how long since you took a break from training? take two weeks off and be a "normal" person. give yourself time when driving somewhere, my anger goes through the roof if i'm in a hurry and i starting hitting traffic and red lights and construction...

 

[Gunsmith]

My first shrink tried the whole scare thing and having to confront the "inner child" I think that this is some shit that they are tought in school , shee pushed and pushed this on me for weeks till finaly it pissed me off and I told her to figure it out and call me

 

[pimpman]

man i hope you find the help you need i was the same way and only led me getting shot and almost died.by the time i got to the hospital i was pronounce dead and they brough me back with the shock shit to my chest.that didn't stop or help me.it did for a while but then it came back which landed me in jail for pulling out my gun at some group of guys.i served no time for it due to the fact my close friend is captain of the police unit and helped in my case but i ended up with a feloning in my record for life of agrevated assult with a fire arm.did 3 year of hell probation lost my concealed fire arm license and my security license and can never become a us citizan.not to mention try appling for a job and see what happens.now im much better i have to admitt finding god help me but i think back and i could of killed someone for my dome fuck ucontrolable anger.it's not worth it.find the help you need.best of luck to you

 

[SouthernMuscle]

I don't know if you've got kids or not, but I was EXACTLY the way you describe before my daughter came along. I still hate the club scene, can't watch the news, hell I even hate going to the f*ckin grocery store when it's remotely busy, I get soooooo damn pissed, but just when I think I'm about to wreck the place, I think about who's gonna be there to take care of her and make sure she's safe if I'm in jail? And then I realize that nothing is worth that. I do alot of things differently now, she's even the reason I put my seatbelt on when I get in my truck

 

[mrsoul]

My first shrink tried the whole scare thing and having to confront the "inner child" I think that this is some shit that they are tought in school , shee pushed and pushed this on me for weeks till finaly it pissed me off and I told her to figure it out and call me

that is unfortunate. my therapist has never pushed anything on me. no offense, but your response is typical of someone who is resistant to change. peace has to come from within. if we wait for outside circumstances to create peace we are screwed. i by no means have mastered or even gotten good at this, but hopefully knowing is a start.

 

[Dezzy]

This is a serous inquiry. Also before any of the resident smartasses considers a "lower your dosages response," know this: I am currently off cycle, and my fury issues exist reguardless of the presence of elevated testosterone. I also have enough self control to walk away from most "aggrevating situations." The problem is I do harbor a case of GSD (General Shitty Disposition), and have for several years now so I find myself aggrevated often and tend to live the life of a hermit as a result. The only people I communicate with are my brothers from my old unit who I served in combat with, and of course my occasional dialogue with my fellow bodybuilders here on PM.
This obviously affects my personal life as my wife enjoys having a social life and the mere presence of alcohol and those drinking it and communicating at a volume level above what I deem appropriate instantly infuriates me. Plus mearly hearing people discuss certain current events or badmouthing our fighting men sets me into a very dangerous mental state, and I have to leave immediatally or Ill end up incarcirated. I have never layed my hands on my wife or anything like that but I am prone to smashing shit. And given that Im 6'3 and around 290 pounds these rages are overwhelmingly destructive and dangerous. It is very embarrassing after the fact as it is usually set off by someting very simple that I just was unable to get away from before the switch fliped to smash mode. I have at the request of my wife went to a VA clinic to discuss how to control the fury with a professional, but they just wanted to pump me full of meds, which I will not have any part of. So I was just wondering if anyone here who harbors similar issues and what they have done to help to control there anger.
Also please remember that I am posting this as an attempt to find a solution, not a pisssing match about things that upset me so if our views differ please start a different thread about it as I dont want to argue with anyone I just would like some possible helpfull suggesstions. Thanks.

Yes, I hear you bro. I'm looking for a good therapist right now. My anger is really effecting my life, as I almost lost my job today because of my outburst. I've lost two jobs because of it. Don't be afraid of getting help

 

[WARLORD_123]

I appreciate the all of the advice, thank you for the suggestions and examples. I will continue to seek out a good rage management therapist.

 

[Uluwatu]

When you find a good therapist, the one word of advice I can give you is to be completely honest in every session. Therapy is not an easy thing to go through, because it gets down to the "real" cause of your problems. You will lead a happier life if it is not filled with anger.

 

[mrsoul]

When you find a good therapist, the one word of advice I can give you is to be completely honest in every session. Therapy is not an easy thing to go through, because it gets down to the "real" cause of your problems. You will lead a happier life if it is not filled with anger.

big bump! honesty is essential.

 

[doug1]

there isn't always one big underlying cause that once we figure it out that we can now deal with it and everything will be fine. we can't control circumstances, but we can control our reaction to circumstances.