.gif "IP Gear")
I never thought I'd ask for advice on this part of the board, yet here I am.
If anyone has any reasons that it's better to be with someone, please spill 'em! Seriously, I need some. I gotta work anyway, that'll never change. So what can someone tell me to help me see the light that so many of you see? The reason that being with someone would make my life better. To be with ONE person for the term of the rest of my natural life...with no possibility of parole.
Some of you might say, "Grow up?" I'd say, "Why?" I support myself, my things, travel as I want to, watch my health, don't party, date who I want.
Why does "growing up" mean the fun has to stop? We give so much effort to become what we are. And as soon as we can, we celebrate out accomplishments by beginning a lifetime of compromise to someone else's wishes. It doesnt make sense to me.
We spend a lifetime in education, work and the gym to make ourselves the best we can be. So why would we settle down with anyone after making such a marketable package? I just can't see the logic. After all we've done to become what we are...well rounded, successful, learned and attractive...what can ONE PERSON give us that we can't have without them? Why would we date only one, when we can date many?
Question is: Is anyone here, NOT looking to be in a steady relationship? It seems my limit is about 3 years. After that, Im bored and just dont see the logic in being with someone and bored, when I can be alone and entertained.
I have no problem talking to and meeting women. So I'm lucky in that way.
Im 37, so by now, I should be afraid of being alone and childless. But both of them bring a smile to my face. I love dating. Love it! and kids? I just don't see it. Big investment...low return. I know, I know,..."The smile on your child's face when he looks at you..." Right. Ill take the smile on my latest GF's face at a 5 star in St. Petersburg, Russia.
I did try marriage once. It was awful. So, not doing that again soon unless I find someone I just adore. I gave away my house and one of my cars last time. No regrets, it was a good deal for me. It was like a scene from SAW IV...I would have chewed off my own foot to get free of that marriage. A house? Pssht...take it. I can't even remember the address.
"What about love?", you may ask. Well, it comes and goes.
I've had a GF for a few years, no cheating, and of course, she wants to get married and have kids. The thought this brings to mind for me is, "FUCK THAT!". Marriage I can take or leave and kids, that's a negative. Im too selfish to be awakened by crying 3 times a night for several years, so, just...no. She knows my feelings on kids. I find fullfillment in work, dating, training, improving my home and investing when possible, reading books, martial arts. So many things that just don't require me to be tied to someone FOREVER.
The ONLY reason I can see to be in something like this is financial back-up. Ive been on my own financially since 15, so Im used to taking care of myself. Thru college, I've traveled all over the world and I live abroad now, so I handle it. But it would be nice to have someone else behind me, for once. But not THAT nice.
Im at a critical fork in the road. If I let her go, it'll mean I really am unable to settle down. Im not afraid of it. But it would be easier if I could just be normal.
Any advice?
If anyone has any reasons that it's better to be with someone, please spill 'em! Seriously, I need some. I gotta work anyway, that'll never change. So what can someone tell me to help me see the light that so many of you see? The reason that being with someone would make my life better. To be with ONE person for the term of the rest of my natural life...with no possibility of parole.
Some of you might say, "Grow up?" I'd say, "Why?" I support myself, my things, travel as I want to, watch my health, don't party, date who I want.
Why does "growing up" mean the fun has to stop? We give so much effort to become what we are. And as soon as we can, we celebrate out accomplishments by beginning a lifetime of compromise to someone else's wishes. It doesnt make sense to me.
We spend a lifetime in education, work and the gym to make ourselves the best we can be. So why would we settle down with anyone after making such a marketable package? I just can't see the logic. After all we've done to become what we are...well rounded, successful, learned and attractive...what can ONE PERSON give us that we can't have without them? Why would we date only one, when we can date many?
Question is: Is anyone here, NOT looking to be in a steady relationship? It seems my limit is about 3 years. After that, Im bored and just dont see the logic in being with someone and bored, when I can be alone and entertained.
I have no problem talking to and meeting women. So I'm lucky in that way.
Im 37, so by now, I should be afraid of being alone and childless. But both of them bring a smile to my face. I love dating. Love it! and kids? I just don't see it. Big investment...low return. I know, I know,..."The smile on your child's face when he looks at you..." Right. Ill take the smile on my latest GF's face at a 5 star in St. Petersburg, Russia.
I did try marriage once. It was awful. So, not doing that again soon unless I find someone I just adore. I gave away my house and one of my cars last time. No regrets, it was a good deal for me. It was like a scene from SAW IV...I would have chewed off my own foot to get free of that marriage. A house? Pssht...take it. I can't even remember the address.
"What about love?", you may ask. Well, it comes and goes.
I've had a GF for a few years, no cheating, and of course, she wants to get married and have kids. The thought this brings to mind for me is, "FUCK THAT!". Marriage I can take or leave and kids, that's a negative. Im too selfish to be awakened by crying 3 times a night for several years, so, just...no. She knows my feelings on kids. I find fullfillment in work, dating, training, improving my home and investing when possible, reading books, martial arts. So many things that just don't require me to be tied to someone FOREVER.
The ONLY reason I can see to be in something like this is financial back-up. Ive been on my own financially since 15, so Im used to taking care of myself. Thru college, I've traveled all over the world and I live abroad now, so I handle it. But it would be nice to have someone else behind me, for once. But not THAT nice.
Im at a critical fork in the road. If I let her go, it'll mean I really am unable to settle down. Im not afraid of it. But it would be easier if I could just be normal.
Any advice?
Last edited:
