Cheating or not

[gonzaga]

Do you call this cheating if your spouse sign up on match.com
and wink on a couple of people.

 

[kmasterflex]

Bro i wouldn't call it cheating, but i mean why is she on a dating site? sounds like you should maybe ask her what is going on maybe you have i dont know. If she is looking for someone else i would get out that is my 2 cents and i dont know what is exactly going on in your situation.

 

[gonzaga]

We have are ups and down like any other marrieage.but
I saw her email and saw that she subscribe so I confronted
her and of she turn everything around that is my fault by
seeing her email.So I moved out and 8 days that I'm gone
she sign up and wink back on a couple ofpeople.

 

[kmasterflex]

bro its not your fault for seeing her email you should be able to Trust your wife g/f what ever that is she should not be hiding anyting from you what a relationship is based on is trust so from what your saying she has had this for a bit if you dont have any kids with her i would jam yeah life will suck for a min but move on cut your losses you dont need that shit there are alot more girls out there man i mean im no pro at this kind of thing maybe some of the other bros on here can give you a little bit better info

 

[gordo14]

This is a tough one.

Is it cheating physically? No. Emotionaly? Yes. It is wrong. Especialy if you are married. Maybe it was her way of getting your attention. Maybe you need to talk and find out why she feels she needs to be on that website. Why is she looking elsewhere for attention.
Or maybe its her way of looking for something bigger and better. I've noticed alot of women will stay in a relationship they think is failing until they find something they think is better. But in the long run the grass isn't always greener on the other side of the fence.
If you are married i would try to talk to her about it. If the relationship is not salvagable, you will be forced to move on. Because i garauntee if she continues on a dating website, the next step is a date. Maybe more.
Best of luck.

 

[OuchThatHurts]

Would like to say she's trying to meet friends but nah, it's cheating. If the two of you are married, then she owes it to you to say she wants a divorce and is now dating around. There are men at the other end of that internet wire. She's shopping. Plain and simple.

 

[BOOMSHAKER]

Do you call this cheating if your spouse sign up on match.com
and wink on a couple of people.

We have are ups and down like any other marrieage.but
I saw her email and saw that she subscribe so I confronted
her and of she turn everything around that is my fault by
seeing her email.So I moved out and 8 days that I'm gone
she sign up and wink back on a couple ofpeople.

If she were talking to her friends on Myspace, or facebook, then I would say maybe not. BUT match.com is for one thing and one f@cking thing only HOOKING UP! so yes! it's 100% cheating! And good for you on moving out! If she is pissed that you snooped thru her email, why did she then leave it there for you to find???

 

[OuchThatHurts]

If she were talking to her friends on Myspace, or facebook, then I would say maybe not. BUT match.com is for one thing and one f@cking thing only HOOKING UP! so yes! it's 100% cheating! And good for you on moving out! If she is pissed that you snooped thru her email, why did she then leave it there for you to find???

^^^^ Everything he just said too. Agreed.

 

[thebrick]

You should immediately leave this relationship and tell her to enjoy her tour on match.com. Especially when the hot hunk in the profile pic turns out to be some middle-aged, saggy-ass sack of shit

 

[gonzaga]

I been out of the house for 4 months now and she kept
telling me that she won't work out the till I move back in.
But I told her i don't see any changes on her part that she
is really sorry for what she's done.But her excuse is she did
sign up on match.com because of me keep telling her that
I'm not happy and I don't want to be in a marrieage.I told
her if that's the case u should of just file for divorce then.
Now she just telling me that she just want to move on if I
don't want to move back in to work in our marrieage.Beause
she can't work on the marrieage if we don't leave together.

 

[MissyM]

I wouldn't call it cheating, but I wouldn't be okay with it either. Very disrespectful of her to do that to you.

 

[EasyEJL]

I been out of the house for 4 months now and she kept
telling me that she won't work out the till I move back in.
But I told her i don't see any changes on her part that she
is really sorry for what she's done.But her excuse is she did
sign up on match.com because of me keep telling her that
I'm not happy and I don't want to be in a marrieage.I told
her if that's the case u should of just file for divorce then.
Now she just telling me that she just want to move on if I
don't want to move back in to work in our marrieage.Beause
she can't work on the marrieage if we don't leave together.

I dunno, if you've been telling her you want to leave and aren't happy, then why does her doing this surprise you?

 

[gonzaga]

Because she always say how much she loves me to death.
She never do anything to jeoprodize the marrieage.So I
never thought in a million year she would do that to me.

 

[EasyEJL]

Because she always say how much she loves me to death.
She never do anything to jeoprodize the marrieage.So I
never thought in a million year she would do that to me.

Maybe that all is true, but if you are telling her you don't want to be with her anymore, and want to end the marriage, how long do you think she should wait before looking for someone else? Why do you get to choose when it ends and not her?

I'm not saying that what she did was right, but that you have no real cause to be angry about it. for all she knows you've been with other women since you've been unhappy.