I was married twice and my 2nd I was married 21 years and knew her for 4 years before and I never would have thought in a million years she would ever hurt me with the things I did not do. I never cheated or hit her, it was about all the money I made and she did'nt. But love and hate can turn so quick and they use any and everything against you to benifit there situation. My X put a restraining order on me New Years Eve and I never once touched her or argued with her. I had not seen her in 2 months. She claimed I was selling drugs, doing ASS and hit her. She also said I hit my daughter. Needless to say all charges were dropped after my daughter showed up in court with me. This was done to benifit her side of this devorce(money). Take my word when a lady is upset anything goes so keep your stuff to yourself and you will never have a problem. I'm not saying every lady is like this monster. But I will never tell anyone something I do not want the world to know. My first X was even worse, I caught her in bed with one of our friends. Thought I would have learned. Trust yourself, you know you can count on that.