Experience Dating a Hasbian (Ex-Lez)?

[DrivingForward]

Anyone ever date an Ex Lesbian? I've heard they're now affectionately called "Hasbians"... once they figure out that being attached to someone who has sleeveless flannel shirts, a mullet haircut, and a lousy atitude... yet lacks a cock-- is a really lousy situation!

Anyway-- To my question:

I've been flirting with this Bartender at this restaurant I am a regular at. Shes pretty (in a pissed goth kind of way), definitely finds me attractive, is super attentive, etc. She is 25, was a lesbian for 7 years, and only recently dated her first man for 6 months.

The other night we went across the street to another bar and had a few drinks. Come closing time we were mauling eachother in the parking lot. I wanted to take her back to my place, but she was on her rag..

So... Since we share an attraction, and I really like something about this girl (not sure why... just do) I'm gonna see where this goes. I do have a few hang ups about it. She still has alot of Lesbian friends who want her to be lesbian with them (She says she still is attracted to snatch, but needs a man..). Told me that if we dated, we could have 3-somes with other women (JACKPOT... but something worries me) and she gets reeeallly indecisive about stuff. One night shes begging me to come see her, the next she wont return my txts, then next shes texting me "where you been stranger?"

I normally don't have trouble getting a woman under control, but the circumstances in this case have me confused as to the best course of action.

All of this is made worse by the fact that I want her... largely because shes a challenge. Most women just give it up, this one I have to work for.

Whats my best course of action?

 

[king1033]

Ticky situation I dated a girl who was a lesbian and we were just really great pals that we would hangout out a lot and get it on but I was more of a friend with benefits because I realized above all else she is into girls at the end, what you gotta do is not set yourself up for failure dude just enjoy the time you spend with her but dont expect anything. Because the girl I was seeing I could just see at the end of the day she loves girls (ya know its one of those things you cant really figure out why especially if your telling yourself "but i was being such a gentleman etc) just gotta relax and whatever happens happens. She is still friends with me to this day and is unofficially married (laws) to the chick she was seeing when I was hanging out with her, both great people perfect for eachother. I always live life as "we cant always have everything but when the good comes and wants to stay then hold on to it for as long as it will let you and if its forever then consider yourself lucky but if the good wants to leave then let it and just grow from that point." just relax man I can tell your digging this girl which is awesome just realize she is just another person and just enjoy the time she lets you spend with her dont have any exxpectations because thats when people get "attached" and no one likes a clinger. You never know like you say maybe she just hasnt had good dick in awhile that greatly influences a girls motives and behaviour whether she realizes its the reason or not. so that classic saying "hope for the best but expect the worst" can apply here because that way you will be just fine.

 

[DrivingForward]

It would be much easier if I kept the standard "hit it N quit it" mentality...

Instead my intent resides somewhere between an honest desire to have something significant and a bizarre social experiment.

 

[njpooldude]

i read everything, but the only thing i saw was 3 some....

 

[godzillaballs]

You better really know what you're doing around the vaj, that's all I'll say.

 

[ICU11b]

Your considering a relationship w/ a lesbian? Am I understading this...? Not much of a future here. Just heartache. Walked into a club one night & saw an associate of mine making out w/ two fairly unattractive lesbians/bi... He looked at them, looked at me and said "hey, two fives make a ten!". True story.

 

[DrivingForward]

i read everything, but the only thing i saw was 3 some....

NJP-- Bro, you're alright!

You better really know what you're doing around the vaj, that's all I'll say.

Funny you should say that. I'm actually a very sexually confident person. I've been involved in a number of casual and open relationships with women and never once feared that there was something better out there.

That being said... The other night I had one of those "lucid dreams" we all tend to get on cycle. I was having morning coffee with a lesbian I had just banged and asked her how it was... At first she said "great!" but after I pressed her, she admitted "eh.. mediocre.. you seemed really tired and worn out".

WTF kinda dream was that? Most of my lucid dreams regarding sex are all alpha-male type conquest of various fertile women... Think Conan the barbarian style...

Your considering a relationship w/ a lesbian? Am I understading this...? Not much of a future here. Just heartache. Walked into a club one night & saw an associate of mine making out w/ two fairly unattractive lesbians/bi... He looked at them, looked at me and said "hey, two fives make a ten!". True story.

I spit out my coffee when I read that! Shes not a 5... More like an 8.

 

[totalrecomp]

I would love to give you advice as I dated a les for three years. Problem was I didnt know till the end.........bitch.

 

[king1033]

Your considering a relationship w/ a lesbian? Am I understading this...? Not much of a future here. Just heartache. Walked into a club one night & saw an associate of mine making out w/ two fairly unattractive lesbians/bi... He looked at them, looked at me and said "hey, two fives make a ten!". True story.

HAHAHA that is sooo hilarious!!!! That gave me a good laugh...

 

[Trainwreck80]

Whatever you do, update us if you wouldn't mind. Having never been in this situation I'm curious as to how it plays out.

 

[YoungNJacked]

Whatever you do, update us if you wouldn't mind. Having never been in this situation I'm curious as to how it plays out.

im guessing along the lines of your handle name, lol!

lesbians are never gunna change their ways, most of them are bipolar, and its why they are into women. talk to the chick and check out what meds she is on..............if she is on valium..............RUUUUUUUUUUUUN! lol

 

[pesty4077]

Well actually if she still wants to with a man, she is not a Lesbian, but a Bi-sexual. No offense, but you don't have a good choice for woman, do you? She sounds like a slut.

 

[klowndog]

As with any relationship, if you start thinking about plans, commitment, etc., you're putting you dick on the wood block. Whether or not she swings the hatchet is the question. You never know what could become of this, it could be your soulmate.

My uncle was married to a beautiful woman for five years who had been a swinger before they were together. One day she said"Im a lesbian", and her "stud" came and picked her up in her Jeep Wrangler, with the top down, flannel, mullet, Busch tallboy and all. Left my uncle and their daughter.

Seeing that happen as a youngster, when a girl Im seeing says she has played with girls before, it throws a red flag.

Just try to look at as a hit n quit basis for a while until you find out more about her. Don't let her know that youre doing that though, cause lesbians are super sensitive, make her think you are really into her and see what happens. Pay extra special attention to her snatch, and kiss her very lightly, that turns them on.

Make sure when you do bang her, just put it straight in her ass, no questions asked. Just go straight for the hole. They like that the best. ANd be sure to call out her mothers name during sex, it is a sign of respect for them, as they are Matriarchal in nature.

All in all, my best advice on this is:

Better to have lost at love than to never loved at all.

 

[YoungNJacked]

As with any relationship, if you start thinking about plans, commitment, etc., you're putting you dick on the wood block. Whether or not she swings the hatchet is the question. You never know what could become of this, it could be your soulmate.

My uncle was married to a beautiful woman for five years who had been a swinger before they were together. One day she said"Im a lesbian", and her "stud" came and picked her up in her Jeep Wrangler, with the top down, flannel, mullet, Busch tallboy and all. Left my uncle and their daughter.

Seeing that happen as a youngster, when a girl Im seeing says she has played with girls before, it throws a red flag.

Just try to look at as a hit n quit basis for a while until you find out more about her. Don't let her know that youre doing that though, cause lesbians are super sensitive, make her think you are really into her and see what happens. Pay extra special attention to her snatch, and kiss her very lightly, that turns them on.

Make sure when you do bang her, just put it straight in her ass, no questions asked. Just go straight for the hole. They like that the best. ANd be sure to call out her mothers name during sex, it is a sign of respect for them, as they are Matriarchal in nature.

All in all, my best advice on this is:

Better to have lost at love than to never loved at all.

bwahahahahah! that shit had me LMAO!

 

[klowndog]

I wouldnt put too much stock in her being a lesbian. It seems like that has been the "in" thing the last 10 years or so. Girls think thats cool now. It doesnt matter if shes lez or not, if she's a hot chick, you have to be secure about yourself. It is hard to find a hot chick that you can comfortably let out of your site without thinking someone else is gonna take her. Just play it cool man, if it works great, if not you will find another better one, but letting it burn you up inside isn't going to help. Remember you were happy before you met her, and you can be happy without her too. YOU are the most important part of the equation, remember that.

 

[aeliop]

Pick up the red "BAD" phone

Commisioner Gordon This is the time you need to pick up the Red "BAD" Phone and call Jason "Iabadman" ..........This thread has his name written all over it. When he sees this I am sure he will be able to help you out and enlighten everyone.

 

[aeliop]

As with any relationship, if you start thinking about plans, commitment, etc., you're putting you dick on the wood block. Whether or not she swings the hatchet is the question. You never know what could become of this, it could be your soulmate.

My uncle was married to a beautiful woman for five years who had been a swinger before they were together. One day she said"Im a lesbian", and her "stud" came and picked her up in her Jeep Wrangler, with the top down, flannel, mullet, Busch tallboy and all. Left my uncle and their daughter.

Seeing that happen as a youngster, when a girl Im seeing says she has played with girls before, it throws a red flag.

Just try to look at as a hit n quit basis for a while until you find out more about her. Don't let her know that youre doing that though, cause lesbians are super sensitive, make her think you are really into her and see what happens. Pay extra special attention to her snatch, and kiss her very lightly, that turns them on.

Make sure when you do bang her, just put it straight in her ass, no questions asked. Just go straight for the hole. They like that the best. ANd be sure to call out her mothers name during sex, it is a sign of respect for them, as they are Matriarchal in nature.

All in all, my best advice on this is:

Better to have lost at love than to never loved at all.

I have to admit this sounds a little crazy but you are a "Master Cocksmith" so I gotta believe you.

 

[ronnie0072]

I'd put up with a lot of shit for a long time if 3 somes where a regualr happening and not frowned upon. GL bro

 

[JohnnyPro]

I had a girlfriend who had been a lesbian all her life. She thought a man couldn't connect to her emotionally the way a woman could. We fell in love and she had never been with a man before. But, she never lost her desire for women and that caused problems. But I have heard stories of lesbians getting married to men and having kids and everything, so don't give up.

 

[gears]

Anyone ever date an Ex Lesbian? I've heard they're now affectionately called "Hasbians"... once they figure out that being attached to someone who has sleeveless flannel shirts, a mullet haircut, and a lousy atitude... yet lacks a cock-- is a really lousy situation!

Anyway-- To my question:

I've been flirting with this Bartender at this restaurant I am a regular at. Shes pretty (in a pissed goth kind of way), definitely finds me attractive, is super attentive, etc. She is 25, was a lesbian for 7 years, and only recently dated her first man for 6 months.

The other night we went across the street to another bar and had a few drinks. Come closing time we were mauling eachother in the parking lot. I wanted to take her back to my place, but she was on her rag..

So... Since we share an attraction, and I really like something about this girl (not sure why... just do) I'm gonna see where this goes. I do have a few hang ups about it. She still has alot of Lesbian friends who want her to be lesbian with them (She says she still is attracted to snatch, but needs a man..). Told me that if we dated, we could have 3-somes with other women (JACKPOT... but something worries me) and she gets reeeallly indecisive about stuff. One night shes begging me to come see her, the next she wont return my txts, then next shes texting me "where you been stranger?"

I normally don't have trouble getting a woman under control, but the circumstances in this case have me confused as to the best course of action.

All of this is made worse by the fact that I want her... largely because shes a challenge. Most women just give it up, this one I have to work for.

Whats my best course of action?

You don't, by any chance, live in Nashville, do you? I swear that every girl that tends bar in downtown Nashvegas is a snatch hound.

And threesomes are cool and all, but you almost need a script when you're doing it. My fiance and I hooked up with a girl that she knew last year. It was a first for all three of us. It was hot, but we were all so fucking intoxicated, we were off our game. It was pretty sweet waking up with two babes in the bed, knowing that we had done the nasty the night before. It would have been much better if my head didn't feel like the space shuttle was launching between my ears.