FEMALES input on this please

[suparay]

OK i got some crap going on in this relationship here.. we been together for 8 months now the first 3 months were EXACTLY what was looking for it was amazing everything the way she acted the wa she made me feel the way she treated me... well some things have changed.... shes hardly home she goes to work gets off goes tan and then always finds somebodys house to go to for awhile she atually works at a GNC store which is how we met.. so when she closes at night she dont get home till 10 or later... i wake up early for my job so i go to sleep early plus the hard trainingi need my rest... then like thrusday night we rented a movie relaxed on the couch together went to bed well friday we were both off around 11 am i sat on the couch besides her to spend a lil time since we both off and she asks dont u have things to do... which i did but i wanted to spend some time with her...... i do love her... she tells me she loves me.... i really DONT think it would be cheating or anything we had a convo about that when we first got together and we boh agreed it u want someone else then why be with each other any way... do u think its just she likes her time to herself which IS A LOT like in my opinion way to much... do u think we r growing apart or do u guys think im just being a fool about this

 

[Avz]

Why the hell are you asking for females opinion on a manly problem? Tz tz tz.. Listening to women is what go you in this situation in the first place. When your in love or when ur in love with the idea of being love it's easy to over look common sense. If you can give some more detail on what you think went wrong I can clear things up better. First off after dating a girl for two or three months her crazy side will come out and the bitch will test you extra hard. You fail her test and she starts disrespecting you and making you her bitch. Now in my relationships the girls can't get enough of my attention and would literaly watch me take a shit if I let her. I'm sure your girl was crazy about you too when you just started dating. This change in behavior is a big red flag and what she's doing to you is crossing the line and the bitch needs to be checked. I don't know one girl that would rather spend time with her friends than with me. Every girl that's into a guy will ditch her friends to be with him. Only time she would hang around her girl friends is if she's single, has guy problems or lonley. Knowing this I'm pretty sure she not spending time with her girl friends. Your not living together are you? You gonna confront her about this. And don't be afraid to be harsh on her.. You shouldn't have let this shit get this far. This major disrespect and you allowed it happen. Now go check her ass.

 

[wasp]

dump

 

[countrychic]

Why the hell are you asking for females opinion on a manly problem? Tz tz tz.. Listening to women is what go you in this situation in the first place. When your in love or when ur in love with the idea of being love it's easy to over look common sense. If you can give some more detail on what you think went wrong I can clear things up better. First off after dating a girl for two or three months her crazy side will come out and the bitch will test you extra hard. You fail her test and she starts disrespecting you and making you her bitch. Now in my relationships the girls can't get enough of my attention and would literaly watch me take a shit if I let her. I'm sure your girl was crazy about you too when you just started dating. This change in behavior is a big red flag and what she's doing to you is crossing the line and the bitch needs to be checked. I don't know one girl that would rather spend time with her friends than with me. Every girl that's into a guy will ditch her friends to be with him. Only time she would hang around her girl friends is if she's single, has guy problems or lonley. Knowing this I'm pretty sure she not spending time with her girl friends. Your not living together are you? You gonna confront her about this. And don't be afraid to be harsh on her.. You shouldn't have let this shit get this far. This major disrespect and you allowed it happen. Now go check her ass.

ummm wow I don't know if I would be that harsh because you are going to get no where.

This post makes me giggle.

 

[countrychic]

OK i got some crap going on in this relationship here.. we been together for 8 months now the first 3 months were EXACTLY what was looking for it was amazing everything the way she acted the wa she made me feel the way she treated me... well some things have changed.... shes hardly home she goes to work gets off goes tan and then always finds somebodys house to go to for awhile she atually works at a GNC store which is how we met.. so when she closes at night she dont get home till 10 or later... i wake up early for my job so i go to sleep early plus the hard trainingi need my rest... then like thrusday night we rented a movie relaxed on the couch together went to bed well friday we were both off around 11 am i sat on the couch besides her to spend a lil time since we both off and she asks dont u have things to do... which i did but i wanted to spend some time with her...... i do love her... she tells me she loves me.... i really DONT think it would be cheating or anything we had a convo about that when we first got together and we boh agreed it u want someone else then why be with each other any way... do u think its just she likes her time to herself which IS A LOT like in my opinion way to much... do u think we r growing apart or do u guys think im just being a fool about this

I think you need to be open and honest with her. Tell her how she is making you feel. Maybe she does like some time to her self but doesn't realize the way she is going about it is hurting you. Put yourself out there see how she responds.

 

[MonkeyBoy]

I think you need to be open and honest with her. Tell her how she is making you feel. Maybe she does like some time to her self but doesn't realize the way she is going about it is hurting you. Put yourself out there see how she responds.

I agree with countrychic, be honest and be to the point, tell her exactly how you feel. For all she knows, she might think its fine that you guys don't hang out as much and not bothering you at all if you never speak up.
My girl talked me into going to see her therapist with her ( don't laugh ) and honestly, it was a great experienc. Most people just don't communicate there feelings, they beat around the bush and expect the other to understand what they need or what...be direct and tell them exactly what you want/need. The doesn't mean she will do whatever you want but she will know exactly where your coming from.

 

[marilyn]

yikes

I wouldnt follow the harsh advise either...no girl will go for you checking her ass, or telling her what time it is, or calling her names....You don't seem like you would do that.

Country Chic is right...talk straight, be ready for the response...at least its honest, no matter what..it will be better than how your feeling now

.....and there are many more experienced members with the right idea and good/real relationship advise for you be careful with harsh disrespectful words. You want solutions, not more problems or battles.

Good luck.

 

[suparay]

Why the hell are you asking for females opinion on a manly problem? Tz tz tz.. Listening to women is what go you in this situation in the first place. When your in love or when ur in love with the idea of being love it's easy to over look common sense. If you can give some more detail on what you think went wrong I can clear things up better. First off after dating a girl for two or three months her crazy side will come out and the bitch will test you extra hard. You fail her test and she starts disrespecting you and making you her bitch. Now in my relationships the girls can't get enough of my attention and would literaly watch me take a shit if I let her. I'm sure your girl was crazy about you too when you just started dating. This change in behavior is a big red flag and what she's doing to you is crossing the line and the bitch needs to be checked. I don't know one girl that would rather spend time with her friends than with me. Every girl that's into a guy will ditch her friends to be with him. Only time she would hang around her girl friends is if she's single, has guy problems or lonley. Knowing this I'm pretty sure she not spending time with her girl friends. Your not living together are you? You gonna confront her about this. And don't be afraid to be harsh on her.. You shouldn't have let this shit get this far. This major disrespect and you allowed it happen. Now go check her ass.

LMFAO YES INDEED LOVE IT.... but no really i wish i could go about being like that and everything stay cool lol..... welllllll anyway i did talk to her about it she claims she is jus stressed with bills and shit and taking it out on me i dont know i have backed off a lot we still together but im on the edge and gonna see if these lil things change if not then i shall move on thanks for all the input

 

[njpooldude]

LMFAO YES INDEED LOVE IT.... but no really i wish i could go about being like that and everything stay cool lol..... welllllll anyway i did talk to her about it she claims she is jus stressed with bills and shit and taking it out on me i dont know i have backed off a lot we still together but im on the edge and gonna see if these lil things change if not then i shall move on thanks for all the input

yea man.. to me that doesnt seem honest. Shes stressed about bills so she hangs with other ppl instead of you? lol

Not to be a jerk but she doesnt seem as interested as she was, or you were smothering her way too much.. which can happen, we have all done it... Like you said, back off, see what happens... One thing ive learned over the years is there is NO shortage of cute girls and deff no shortage of crazy ones hahahah

 

[mrs bapper]

yea man.. to me that doesnt seem honest. Shes stressed about bills so she hangs with other ppl instead of you? lol

Not to be a jerk but she doesnt seem as interested as she was, or you were smothering her way too much.. which can happen, we have all done it... Like you said, back off, see what happens... One thing ive learned over the years is there is NO shortage of cute girls and deff no shortage of crazy ones hahahah

Yeah from my point of view I fully agree with njpooldude, and yes theres plenty of cute girls out there, but I don't think they are all crazy hehe..So good luck I hope you get it sorted and don't get to hung up on it!!

 

[suparay]

yea man.. to me that doesnt seem honest. Shes stressed about bills so she hangs with other ppl instead of you? lol

Not to be a jerk but she doesnt seem as interested as she was, or you were smothering her way too much.. which can happen, we have all done it... Like you said, back off, see what happens... One thing ive learned over the years is there is NO shortage of cute girls and deff no shortage of crazy ones hahahah

theres too many damn crazy ones seems everyone i meet so far is crazy... i ono maye i needa jump state

 

[mrs bapper]

theres too many damn crazy ones seems everyone i meet so far is crazy... i ono maye i needa jump state

Come on give us gals a chance we re not all crazy!! LOL

 

[suparay]

Come on give us gals a chance we re not all crazy!! LOL

lmao lemme sleep on that one ill let ya know what i decide

 

[mrs bapper]

lmao lemme sleep on that one ill let ya know what i decide

Ok then let me rephrase that, there are some crazy girls out there, but don't forget there are some decent ones left in the world too...lol

 

[gin]

OK i got some crap going on in this relationship here.. we been together for 8 months now the first 3 months were EXACTLY what was looking for it was amazing everything the way she acted the wa she made me feel the way she treated me... well some things have changed.... shes hardly home she goes to work gets off goes tan and then always finds somebodys house to go to for awhile she atually works at a GNC store which is how we met.. so when she closes at night she dont get home till 10 or later... i wake up early for my job so i go to sleep early plus the hard trainingi need my rest... then like thrusday night we rented a movie relaxed on the couch together went to bed well friday we were both off around 11 am i sat on the couch besides her to spend a lil time since we both off and she asks dont u have things to do... which i did but i wanted to spend some time with her...... i do love her... she tells me she loves me.... i really DONT think it would be cheating or anything we had a convo about that when we first got together and we boh agreed it u want someone else then why be with each other any way... do u think its just she likes her time to herself which IS A LOT like in my opinion way to much... do u think we r growing apart or do u guys think im just being a fool about this

Maybe you should talk to her about how you feel, don't be a cry baby though.
If she gets bitchy with you just ask her how would she feel if you were to do those things to her!?
Show her that you care but also make sure you don't let your gards down, you care but you don't need her to live your life...
She may not be cheating on you, but keep your eyes open!!!!
Sometimes us girls when we get a cold shoulder from our partners we have a tendency to want them more (SOMETIMES)!
And sometimes when a guy gives toooooo much and tooooo soft in a relationship it pushes us away, I'm not saying that thats what you are but remember that respect goes both ways!
Good luck!

 

[duke123]

Bro,I feel your pain.I am not a female and have been in your position before with my first wife.About the same time span also.Everything was great in the beginning.Especially the "bada bing bada boom".So I figured that she really loved me and I dug my heals in and wanted to start a serious relationhip.We moved in together and I started playing house.Problem was smothering her and didn't realize it.She even made some comments like "why don't you go out with the boys".Stuff like that and she would hang out at her GF house instead of hanging out with me.Long story short.Had i given her some space and probably like had been mentioned already"acted less
interested" it might have worked.Those are forsure signs that she is feeling,smothered,pressured,having second doubts.Shit like that.I wold give her some space first and see what happens.Don't spill out all your feelings and emotions to soon.Hold some back for later.Dude above all remember.You are dealing with a FEMALE.Need I say more!!!Good luck.I hope it all works out for you.Falling in love is easy and fun.Keeping it that way is the challenge.

 

[jalsmiley]

any update bro!?