Getting big........

[Jeremy24]

Hey guys, what is with our obssesion of being large. I had this conversation with my girlfriend last night before we went to bed. I was sitting ther eating my eggs and oatmeal.......and she asked me. She says " honey when do you think you will be big enough?"

i couldnt answer her. Now im not the largest guy by any means. But to her im large and im bigger than most of the guys at our gym......

Finally i just said " i dunno babe"

Now she has no problem with my lifestyle, the eating, the training, supplements, etc... Actually she is very supportive, always reminding me time to eat or making me meals etc........and of course sometimes she jokes with me about it, but its fun.

But can anyone else relate with me on this. It seems like im always looking at myself saying id like my shoulders to be larger or my quads are to small etc.......when in reality we are so much larger than the average person walking around.


I dunoo just alittle ranting!!!!!!!!

 

[pumpt73]

I know exactly what you mean bro. When I was in grade school and early in middle school, I was the little fat kid. I was 245 at 5'5 when I started playing football in 7th grade. I have been 5'5 ever since. I had already been wrestling a few years, but my freshman year, the weight came off. I started wrestling at 189lbs.

Now during my high school days I found being so short, I could train heavier than most. I was the first in 7 years at my school to bench over 300 (365) and also set my school's squat record with an 805lb squat. Well, box squat anyways. You know the ones with the chair under your butt.

After school I balooned up to 305 and started to train again. I came down quite well actually and over the last few years have picked up quite a bit of knowledge.

With me, I just like to be big. I enjoy not looking like every skinny guy under the sun. I love the fact that I can't wear Hollister or Abercrombie clothing. Honestly, I would never want to be under 200lbs. People gawk at us, but I think it's great that we're different. Being different is what makes life so great at times. I love being able to fit in 2XL shirts that are actually 2XL. Not the ones you find in stores to pump up the 140lb twiggy kids ego!!!!

 

[jdchaffin]

by most standards of this board I'm by not means large. But compared to the average guy standing 5'7" its clear I'm not normal. And like you I always see myself as small. I'm always trying to improve over yesterday. My girlfriend is also very supportive and doesn't mind that my eating and supplementing and training make me different than most people, but she doesn't like the thought of me getting bigger. When ever I make a little progress she lets me know right away and says thats enough. It feels trapping at times. Getting bigger is a goal I've been working towards for 12 years. I never had an end goal, it was always "how big and how good can I be?" I want to do whatever I can to make her happy but to give up on this would be to give up on the longest lasting goal/dream I've ever had.
So basically in many ways I sympathise with the OP.

 

[1bigun11]

I know exactly what you mean bro. When I was in grade school and early in middle school, I was the little fat kid. I was 245 at 5'5 when I started playing football in 7th grade. I have been 5'5 ever since. I had already been wrestling a few years, but my freshman year, the weight came off. I started wrestling at 189lbs.

Now during my high school days I found being so short, I could train heavier than most. I was the first in 7 years at my school to bench over 300 (365) and also set my school's squat record with an 805lb squat. Well, box squat anyways. You know the ones with the chair under your butt.

After school I balooned up to 305 and started to train again. I came down quite well actually and over the last few years have picked up quite a bit of knowledge.

With me, I just like to be big. I enjoy not looking like every skinny guy under the sun. I love the fact that I can't wear Hollister or Abercrombie clothing. Honestly, I would never want to be under 200lbs. People gawk at us, but I think it's great that we're different. Being different is what makes life so great at times. I love being able to fit in 2XL shirts that are actually 2XL. Not the ones you find in stores to pump up the 140lb twiggy kids ego!!!!

Damn bro, you nailed it.

 

[Alex A]

the problem with this damn obsession(bodybuilding) we are never big enough in our minds! or lean enough for that matter.. Many times in contest shape i felt fat!

 

[Tom]

exception

i am currently 5'9" tall and 217 but not as lean as i'd like to be. i would be more than happy to walk around at a hard ,muscular 195. i have no desire to be 240 or more.

 

[knucklehed]

i am currently 5'9" tall and 217 but not as lean as i'd like to be. i would be more than happy to walk around at a hard ,muscular 195. i have no desire to be 240 or more.

same here... 5"9" and my weight is going up right now preparing for a contest. But when all is said and done I'd like to be a lean healthy 195-205. Maybe my age is a factor but I don't really feel the need to be big.

 

[donjoy]

One word: Insecurity

I don't know if that is always the case. Some people just like looking better than others. Having sex appeal, size, strength, definition etc...is just one more manifestation of a person's competitive nature.

Now, you bring up a valid point that in some cases insecurity will lead to this desire to be bigger.

Though if that were the only reason I think you could make the same argument for anyone who wants to be better at anything.

Why do I go to the driving range once a week to work on my golf game? Insecurity? Maybe sometimes I just like to crush golf balls because it's fun.

Why do I study hard in law school to try to edge out others for that top 10%? Insecurity? Maybe, I think I could live with the top 20% though.

I just feel like it is competitive nature that will lead people to reach for what is sometimes a lofty goal.

 

[Jeremy24]

One word: Insecurity

Not so much insecurity......im 6'2 so it just seems like i have to pack on some serious mass to look as thick as someone 4-5 inches shorter than me

 

[Stylz]

the problem with this damn obsession(bodybuilding) we are never big enough in our minds! or lean enough for that matter.. Many times in contest shape i felt fat!

This is so true as it's a never ending battle, once we've gained enough size to reach a specific goal we feel fat only to diet down to a single digit BF% to feel skinny again......................

then once we finally feel we've reached a happy median where we're maintaining enough size and conditioning somebody makes a critical comment about our physique or we run into somebody who's bigger and leaner than we are at our current state and it's back to Square 1!

Somebody help ME:action-s:

 

[Stylz]

One word: Insecurity

I agree I suffer from this insecurity! But on the other hand there are a whole lot of these so called secure guys out there who look like absolute shit.

I guess perception is reality..............kinda like fat chicks out at the club in mini skirts who think they look good

 

[MightyJohn]

Could be that fact that no one wants to be average...average sucks....wether it be sports, bodybuilding, our job, etc....no one wants to be one of those that fall in the middle....We all wanna lead that pack

 

[whiteknucks]

Could be that fact that no one wants to be average...average sucks....wether it be sports, bodybuilding, our job, etc....no one wants to be one of those that fall in the middle....We all wanna lead that pack

i agree, most people strive to be average. different strokes for different folks.

 

[Wonton]

key thing to remember is people need goals. W/o them what are we?

Exactly

Your goal is productive and improves who you are.

As my pappy use to say

"Ain't noth'n wrong with dat!"

 

[kid1dakota]

One word: Insecurity

May be some truth to that.I know I feel so much more confident and secure when in great shape.
But as you age priorities change in life as do your reasons for training such as health and longevity.

 

[Ness]

Getting Big

Its my perfect excuse to eat big.


I love eating.


I just say, "Yup, I have to eat again now 'cause Im a big time bodybuilder."

 

[btech]

Sam Fussel's muscle memoir MUSCLE hits the nail on the head. If I had the book with me I'd post some of the main points from the final chapter.

But yea, like Dad said, bb'ing is based out of insecurity.

 

[Nssca]

One word: Insecurity

For a mod I'm ashamed of you.
Did Tiger Woods answer, when is being the best golfer enough...INSECURITY?
Did Arnold feel insecure?
Is that what drove him to be who he is today?
Is Mariusz Pudzianowski insecure? Is that why he wants to be the strongest man in the world ????
Is Ronnie Coleman INSECURE?
Wanting to be better in no matter what your chosen endeavor, is not about feelings of insecurity.
Well Dad, thanks for ,sharing your reasons for lifting,
but not many of us share your..insecurities.

 

[hawkmoon]

For me, besides liking how I look, I enjoy the feeling of carrying a lot of lean mass. I just feel more 'alive' when I am aware of my own physical presence.
I also enjoy the daily micro-goal setting of getting bigger, or stronger, or leaner.

 

[btech]

Did Arnold feel insecure?
Is that what drove him to be who he is today?

Yes.