girlfriend hates steroids

[marshmallow]

She had a past boyfriend who was a complete jackass and beat her and took steroids. This guy was an idiot though, some dumbass football player who's now a coke junkie and in and out of jail. I've been dating her for almost 2 years and says she will stop talking to me if I continue using steroids. She's scared I'm gonna hit her, even though I've never hurt her before. What can I do?

I'm currently on PCT after a 5 week cycle of test/tren which was my first cycle. I made incredible gains and I plan on taking a test/eq cycle after 2 months.

 

[jesse7159]

She had a past boyfriend who was a complete jackass and beat her and took steroids. This guy was an idiot though, some dumbass football player who's now a coke junkie and in and out of jail. I've been dating her for almost 2 years and says she will stop talking to me if I continue using steroids. She's scared I'm gonna hit her, even though I've never hurt her before. What can I do?

I'm currently on PCT after a 5 week cycle of test/tren which was my first cycle. I made incredible gains and I plan on taking a test/eq cycle after 2 months.

lol so you took juice without her knowing....shame shame I would ask her what her ex was like when he was off gear(if he ever came off). if he was still a dick then hes the issue not the juice. if youre already a dick, juice will only make you a bigger one. your only shot at this is tell her to get on the net and do as much research about it as possible to understand what it does and not just judge and automatically think that any gear in any one will turn you into a raving psycho. "roid rage" it totally over rated its her whole thought process about gear that needs to change she doesnt know anything about it except that her ex took it and beat her ie steroids=me getting beat. shes not dumb bro, she just doesnt know any better. TEACH her. help her, help you. ya know what I mean?

 

[thebrick]

You love the sport and plan on using again. She has been through a very traumatic experience which she equates with gear. I would not plan on changing her. Move on.

 

[marooned]

I agree with Brick. No one can ever make anyone else change or grow or open their mind. Free choice is where all those things must start and it sounds as if she has made her choice to care more about an issue or condition than a person, you. Move on and let her move on as well. How old is she anyway? Once I knew someone that was tall and they were mean so now I don't like anyone that is tall. Also I knew a girl that took antidepresents and she was mean so now I don't like anyone who takes those. My brother played football and he was mean so now I don't like anyone who plays football. Come on! Don't fight her personal decision, accept it. SHe is a free person just like you and has the right to choose not to have someone in her life for whatever the reason. I think that it is an immature way of thinking, but she is free and has the right. Accept it and move on.

 

[deltaguy]

obviously you have to assess reality here. is there a chance you want to marry this girl? if so, gather tons of information about steroids, print it out and ask her to read it with you. if she cares for you as much as you care for her then she should take the time to listen. if she doesn't choose to listen, say goodbye.

now, if you have no desire or idea of spending a future with this girl. call it a day. it can only turn out bad if you don't

luckily, my fiance has never known me off steroids and thinks i am fine on.... she wonders what it would be like if i wasn't on but has no desire to test the waters.

 

[marshmallow]

I am really considering just dropping the sport. I really do love this girl, but I love the sport too. I guess it would make me a real meathead to pick steroids over a girl I dated for 2 years and that's not really what I want to become. I only have one chance with her, and if things don't work out I can always go back on cycle.

 

[deltaguy]

BTW, when I wrote say goodbye, I meant say goodbye to steroids.... not her. Don't remember why I didn't finish that sentence, must have been my son asking for something when I was writing it. LOL.... Like you said, if it doesn't work out with her, you can always run another cycle later.

 

[jesse7159]

Seriously bro, what else is she gonna want you to change? I say if she can't understand something as simple as this, then you are in for an even bigger shit storm later.

WOW thats an interesting point. be sure and keep that in mind bro.

 

[ironserenity]

Part of a relationship is understanding each other's feelings. You obviously understand hers, since you came here to seek advice to help your relationship, that shows that you care about her. HOWEVER, she needs to understand that you love this sport and empathize how you feel when she tries to get you to do something you enjoy. Sit her down and discuss it with her. Tell her that you want to give it a test run with the cycle and see if she can tolerate it. even if you do have to give up sauce, you don't have to quit the sport. Remember, it might not be the juice that she hates, it might be all the attention that bodybuilding alone takes away from her.

 

[drob29]

IMO,

no matter what you do, or try to educate her with, or no matter if she "says its ok and she understands now", if you continue to use AAS, your screwed.

The first time the shit hits the fan, and you lose your temper and yell at her, the first thing she will say is "SEE! IT'S THE STEROIDS!!". No doubt about this in my mind, since she was physically abused by a steroid user in the past. She wont forget that bro.

You have very clear choices:

1. move on from her and continue to use AAS
2. Stop using AAS and keep her around

There is no grey area. If you try to play both sides of the coin you'll be screwed and unhappy.

Again this is all "IMO"

later

 

[ironserenity]

You all have to remember that women don't think like most guys. We look in the mirror and we want to be bigger, leaner, meaner... whatever... They don't quite understand that concept, hence why entertainment always plays on it so much, "ohhh Susie, I just don't understand him!" That kind of stuff.
Some of these fellas could easily be right, you could get yourself in a shit storm and be unhappy OR, you could try to make both work out and SEE what happens. There is NO clear cut view because we do not know how this particular individual will react to compromise. True, she may use it as leverage to make you calm and make you her bitch but you know what you do? You fight her with love so fucking hard that she cannot dump you, even if once in a blue moon you get mad when that garbage truck pulls in front of you.Life is about love brother, if you are in love, you find ways to make that shit work. I don't care what otehr people sit and tell you. If you are in love you tell her and you work it out! Don't look for an excuse to break up OR quit AAS, its your life, but it is hers too. She merely has a common misconception about AAS, you can prove to her its not like that.
Have faith, I have it in you!!!

 

[Frank-Oh]

Damn man, first cycle and only 5 weeks? I would have done 12.

It's been 2 years you're together, and you just ran your first cycle...

Have you has any problems with your temper yet? Did you have any while on? You're starting PCT so you may be feeling down n our pretty soon.. Consider it a test.

Hope you do what makes you happy.

 

[PHIL HERNON]

HONESTLY

FLEX4777 SAID IT........WITH ULTIMATUMS LIKE THAT ITS TIME FOR HER TO FIND SOMEONE ELSE TO CONTROL. WHAT WOULD SHE SAY IF YOU TOLD HER TO TAKE OUT HER BREAST IMPLANTS OR YOU ARE LEAVING HER???????HOW STUPID DOES THAT SOUND?? SHE IS MISINFORMED.

 

[dragonfire101]

Seriously bro, what else is she gonna want you to change? I say if she can't understand something as simple as this, then you are in for an even bigger shit storm later.

This is very true, but at the same time she might just see steroids as an illegal drug, just like other drugs, then I could see where she was coming from wanting you to stop because she may really care for your health and your relationship, but just lacks knowledge. I don't know if this is the case or not though, if not and she is trying you to have you change other things then it is time to move on.

My wife actually was scared when she first knew I did when we first went out, but became comfortable because she knew I was looking up scientific studies on AAS and I let her read the literature.

 

[ironserenity]

You guys are not looking in his position! Its not that easy to just say goodbye to someone like that. We don't know if she is being a bitch about the ordeal or just concerned for her own safety! If she was dating someone abusive that was using steroids, it is completely expected that she will have a fear of them. It sucks for both of them right now. Don't give up bro. Don't just quit on her... You've been togtehr for two years, you guys obviously have something good going. Besides, she came before the roids did anyway, Both sides of the story need to be looked at. You all tell me that I am too obsessed with building my body, well damn, now Im saying, bro, for a minute take a step back from your sport, and see what is special to you. If you can make it work together, than god bless you and live long and prosper my friend!

 

[SAWADEEKROB]

Sometimes the hardest thing for a man to accept is that he invested x years of his life in a relationship that will not be successful. From my experience with marriage and relationships if your wife doesn't understand your preferences now, when you are married it will be 10 times more demanding.

If that is the way you want to spend the rest of your life, then by all means keep on. But, don't complain 5, 10 or 15 years down the road when she has affairs, controls your every move and makes life miserable for you and your children. The time to act now and set the relationship in the direction you want is now, after is only harvesting.

 

[ironserenity]

She had a past boyfriend who was a complete jackass and beat her and took steroids. This guy was an idiot though, some dumbass football player who's now a coke junkie and in and out of jail. I've been dating her for almost 2 years and says she will stop talking to me if I continue using steroids. She's scared I'm gonna hit her, even though I've never hurt her before. What can I do?

I'm currently on PCT after a 5 week cycle of test/tren which was my first cycle. I made incredible gains and I plan on taking a test/eq cycle after 2 months.

You see what he's saying here? She's afraid, she needs reassurance that it is going to be okay. She is threatening him with not talking to him. To me that is not that bad a control situation, I would say a good 80% of women have worse control issues than that. It is so unbeleivably understandable how a woman could develop a complex to be afraid of steroids, SHE WAS ULTIMATELY ABUSED BY SOMEONE THAT USED THEM. This is like telling a a little kid to not be afraid of a pitbull after it bit him, it's certainly possible to overcome, but its not going to happen without some healthy intervention. If this girl is a complete bitch and just being stubborn, by all means, fuck her, but if this is how you explained it, where she is rightfully scared, you oughta find a way to comfort her fear. It is fixable, and if she truly loves you, she wil give you the chance to prove it, THAT is the test of faith!
God bless bro

 

[mr. boom]

Let her read this thread. Tell her to give you a chance. If you hit her then get off. But just because you get a little upset from time to time like normal people do then she can blame every little incident on the juice. Tell her to look up how many people die from cigerets a year then look up how many die from juice.

 

[irish2003]

i had a girlfriend once that hated them until I showed her exactly how I was doing them and pct and all that. she was really intrigued watching me inj but after that it was all good....

 

[Kane]

Whether you continue to use gear or not, you should certainly try to get her to understand that steroids didn't make the ex beat her. He would have done that sooner or later anyway even without steroids. As Phil said, she seems to be misinformed.