Going to see a psychologist.

[JCLadson]

I have been facing situations ever since I have been released from the hospital. It has nothing to do with my health, but it has to do with how I have been acting toward others, such as my girlfriend, grandmother and also mother. I have noticed myself for MONTHS getting very aggrevated, short tempered, and not wanting to hold a conversation with them. It is very different when it comes to other people, not sure why.

But the people I get the most aggrevated with and do not want to sit down and talk with, are the people who were by myside the whole time I was in the hospital. These are the people who would GIVE the world for me! I do not know why on earth I act like this and I have been trying to force myself to do better, but I need help.

I have tried reading books, talking to others about my situation, but nothing seems to work. I do not even want to sit down and talk with my mother because I get aggrevated about the simpliest things. There is nothing wrong with these people at all, they do nothing but help me.

Therefore, I have made the decision tonight to call a pshychologist tomorrow and give this a try.

Has anyone tried this?

 

[triathloncoach]

My advice

I' would only go to someone who is able to write prescriptions. Not a pyschologist. Go see a primary care M.D. or a pyschiatrist

MD not PHd

 

[PsyT]

sounds like therapy is definitely a good route for you to take. Without knowing you and just from your description...it sounds like you are holding some shame or guilt for your actions with your life...and you release those emotions in the form of aggression on the people that you respect/love (other people in your life won't elicit the level of intensity in your emotional reaction because you don't care what they think about your life/your actions as much as the ones that love you). Just a guess though.

Go get you some therapy...no problem with going to see a therapist...doesn't mean you're 'crazy'...most people will at one time or another need therapy like the situation you are in.

 

[PsyT]

I' would only go to someone who is able to write prescriptions. Not a pyschologist. Go see a primary care M.D. or a pyschiatrist

MD not PHd

bullshit advice imo. This person doesn't need to get on a lot of powerful drugs when all he probably needs is somebody trusting to talk this out with him. Drugs will just mask his problems.

Now, if he truly is unstable/suicidal then drugs can definitely be a lifesaver...but they are for those extreme cases...he has not indicated his case is that extreme!

 

[Johnny Smiles]

you are not alone

I kinda have some of the same problems. i have been in and out of psychologists and psychiatrists offices since i was 15. nothing seemed to help. i could go on and on about this. PM me if you feel like it. but to get to your post....
the reason i believe i get angry (and i mean ANGRY, like enraged) at the ones i love but brush others off is because i love them. does that make sense? its like you get aggrevated with those you love or mad when they let you down etc. because you care about them.
if i am at the grocery store and someone calls me an asshole it won't bother me at all. i don't care what they think. BUT, if a loved one called me a name i would lose it. BECAUSE i care about what they think....
God can help ALOT. maybe look into that. its the only thing that has helped me. -JS

 

[Johnny Smiles]

WELL SAID

sounds like therapy is definitely a good route for you to take. Without knowing you and just from your description...it sounds like you are holding some shame or guilt for your actions with your life...and you release those emotions in the form of aggression on the people that you respect/love (other people in your life won't elicit the level of intensity in your emotional reaction because you don't care what they think about your life/your actions as much as the ones that love you). Just a guess though.

Go get you some therapy...no problem with going to see a therapist...doesn't mean you're 'crazy'...most people will at one time or another need therapy like the situation you are in.

thats wha ti tried saying lol. -JS

 

[Metal]

Sounds like you need to have an old fashioned tall glass of mellow the fuck out. Or perhaps a chill pill?
Smoke a joint. Its quite calming, if no, then some Valerian root has mellowed me out on sleepless nights.
But yeah, If u r being a fucking prick to your loved ones, then you may need to talk to someone. Or better yet, just stop. Take a deep breath for 3 seconds instead of responding and try to relax.

 

[JCLadson]

sounds like therapy is definitely a good route for you to take. Without knowing you and just from your description...it sounds like you are holding some shame or guilt for your actions with your life...and you release those emotions in the form of aggression on the people that you respect/love (other people in your life won't elicit the level of intensity in your emotional reaction because you don't care what they think about your life/your actions as much as the ones that love you). Just a guess though.

Go get you some therapy...no problem with going to see a therapist...doesn't mean you're 'crazy'...most people will at one time or another need therapy like the situation you are in.

Thanks, man. You seem to know how I am feeling and what I am going through. It is something I can not explain but I wish I could!

When you say shame and guilt, it brings back the day that my older brother, by one year, and also my "Papa" passed away. This was in the same day and I found out both of them within 5 mintues of each other. My Papa was my only father figure growing up as a child and my older brother was the one who has influenced me and is my role model, to this day!

But I do not know if it has anything to do with that or not, but this past year, I went though heart problems and now have a pacemaker.

my brother and papa died in 2005, so its been a while. I would like to do this on my own with anyone in the family knowing. Not that I am ashamed, I just want to do this on my own. I will have to go into my savings to do this, but I have to try something.

 

[JCLadson]

Sounds like you need to have an old fashioned tall glass of mellow the fuck out. Or perhaps a chill pill?
Smoke a joint. Its quite calming, if no, then some Valerian root has mellowed me out on sleepless nights.
But yeah, If u r being a fucking prick to your loved ones, then you may need to talk to someone. Or better yet, just stop. Take a deep breath for 3 seconds instead of responding and try to relax.

It is easier to say than do, sometimes my friend. I seriously doubt you have been though what I have been through at my age. I was put through so much crap from the ones I love and also had the ones I love "talk" "insult" me behind my back without realizing how much it hurts to hear them say certain things about what I was going through.

 

[RONJON]

nothin wrong with that and sounds like a really good idea to me bro

...everybody needs a little therapy sometime in their life (just not all of em will get it and keep their feelings repressed)

You are a good bro and im sure it will work out good for you

RJ

 

[JCLadson]

Thank RON. I know this sounds weird but I am on these forums all day, this is kind of the place I like to express my self. I know some guys on here could careless, but everyone needs a place they feel comfortable to go and talk.
Thank you all.

 

[orphan]

Sounds like you need to have an old fashioned tall glass of mellow the fuck out. Or perhaps a chill pill?
Smoke a joint. Its quite calming, if no, then some Valerian root has mellowed me out on sleepless nights.
But yeah, If u r being a fucking prick to your loved ones, then you may need to talk to someone. Or better yet, just stop. Take a deep breath for 3 seconds instead of responding and try to relax.

Not bashin' on ur comment metal, but that is a really uneducated comment that really has no therapeutic base, or encouragement that a person needs, especially when it is a genuine problem of concern. It takes a lot to say this to people you dont actually know, especially when it is people like us. ( you know, iron pumping manly kind of men?)
Again, im not tearing on metal, I just understand that the mind and psychsocial activity are a very complex structure, and theres more to it than taking a "tall glass of mellow the fuck out"

Seek the help bro, I would suggest being strongly resistant to drug therapy, a lot of our problems can be unrooted in professionally led conversation.
Good luck, let us know how it goes.

 

[Michaelthomasj]

I have been facing situations ever since I have been released from the hospital. It has nothing to do with my health, but it has to do with how I have been acting toward others, such as my girlfriend, grandmother and also mother. I have noticed myself for MONTHS getting very aggrevated, short tempered, and not wanting to hold a conversation with them. It is very different when it comes to other people, not sure why.

But the people I get the most aggrevated with and do not want to sit down and talk with, are the people who were by myside the whole time I was in the hospital. These are the people who would GIVE the world for me! I do not know why on earth I act like this and I have been trying to force myself to do better, but I need help.

I have tried reading books, talking to others about my situation, but nothing seems to work. I do not even want to sit down and talk with my mother because I get aggrevated about the simpliest things. There is nothing wrong with these people at all, they do nothing but help me.

Therefore, I have made the decision tonight to call a pshychologist tomorrow and give this a try.

Has anyone tried this?

Hey bro ...been there and done that. If you really need to talk...pm me and i will give you my number. I would not advice going to a primary care and getting psych drugs!! Thats just not their field. Secondly I wouldnt even go to a psychiatrist before trying a pschologist. A psychologist will talk to you and determine weather or not you need drugs...and if he thinks so he will send you to a psychiatrist. But first you need to find a psychologist you can bond with and trust. I went through about 5 psychologists before i found one i felt comfortable with. You just need to teach yourself to stop before acting out negatively. Sometimes things said in anger are hard for people to get over, and sometimes can create damage that cannot become undone. I tried the meds for a time but they were not for me. What worked for me was talking. You need to find what works for you, but make sure you have an open mind, and want to be helped. Good Luck and like i said if you need anything ...pm me and i will give yo umy number. Mike

 

[JCLadson]

Not bashin' on ur comment metal, but that is a really uneducated comment that really has no therapeutic base, or encouragement that a person needs, especially when it is a genuine problem of concern. It takes a lot to say this to people you dont actually know, especially when it is people like us. ( you know, iron pumping manly kind of men?)
Again, im not tearing on metal, I just understand that the mind and psychsocial activity are a very complex structure, and theres more to it than taking a "tall glass of mellow the fuck out"

Seek the help bro, I would suggest being strongly resistant to drug therapy, a lot of our problems can be unrooted in professionally led conversation.
Good luck, let us know how it goes.

Thank you also, Orphan. I did see a doctor for a situation I was in and he prescribed me to depression medication. All this did was make matters worse. I have stopped for medication for a week now and I am seeking help from someone who specializes in this therapy for a living and does not just prescribe medications. It may work for some, but this could help me now and also cary over into my profressional career.

I will keep you all inform, after I make the phone call tomorrow.

 

[JCLadson]

Hey bro ...been there and done that. If you really need to talk...pm me and i will give you my number. I would not advice going to a primary care and getting psych drugs!! Thats just not their field. Secondly I wouldnt even go to a psychiatrist before trying a pschologist. A psychologist will talk to you and determine weather or not you need drugs...and if he thinks so he will send you to a psychiatrist. But first you need to find a psychologist you can bond with and trust. I went through about 5 psychologists before i found one i felt comfortable with. You just need to teach yourself to stop before acting out negatively. Sometimes things said in anger are hard for people to get over, and sometimes can create damage that cannot become undone. I tried the meds for a time but they were not for me. What worked for me was talking. You need to find what works for you, but make sure you have an open mind, and want to be helped. Good Luck and like i said if you need anything ...pm me and i will give yo umy number. Mike

Mike, people like you is what make life easier for others. I am glad to see people, such as you on this board. I will most definatley keep you in mind on this offer. Thank you.

 

[Michaelthomasj]

Mike, people like you is what make life easier for others. I am glad to see people, such as you on this board. I will most definatley keep you in mind on this offer. Thank you.

No problem. I see you wrote that this can carry over to your professional career. I am also a professional, and need to be on top of my game 100% I am a funeral director, and I need to be there for my families. I say "my families" because this is how i treat the families i meet, as if they are my own blood. I think that I am in this profession, because of my past. When i was going through my problems...it was affecting everything, and I couldnt let it get to the point where i could not function at work. Not only was i close to losing my family,friends,home, and job, but I was not heping the families to the best of my abilities. I do feel as if i have past these issues, but i will never forget. I am a funeral director, because i want to help people get through one of the worst times in their life. I NEVER take a tip from families...EVER!!! I tell them that if they want to do something they can write me a thank you letter...that is enough for me. My point is...if you need help you can reach out to me. I had people reach out to me when i was hurting, and i am always there if someone needs help. Thats just me . Stay strong and positive.

 

[j4ever]

I would for sure check out a good psycologist before i went to someone and started drug therapy.As mentioned a person life and emotions and be very comlicated. It seemed like for many years i was angry at the world,god and everything else, then i got injured and my moods and personality just got worse, most of my emotional problems lead back to my child hood,i finally faced it and dealt with it and yes went to talk to someone.

 

[loganb_football]

JC- I know you probably don't care for sympathy or empathy, because in the true depth of those actions, they imply that I know what you're going through. I dont, and I never will.

One thing to acknowledge is that you dont seem to focused on finding the root cause. I see what you've been writing and all I have read is about your actions (minus the paragraph of your father and brother). Guns are deadly when bullets are in the chamber, but without a trigger, how can one fire a gun? You act based on something, but it seems like your focusing totally on your actions (i.e. actions toward loved ones), and a negative past which will in turn create more and more issues.

You want to know what Psychiatry is? And it is this simple: people finding what causes your problems from within. Good psychiatrists clear out the clutter to make finding the reasons a little simpler. Medications, are personal choices-will they mask the problem? Maybe. But on the other side of the coin. They could give you some clarity to your situation by not having so many negative thoughts in your mind.

JC you can look at these loved ones and think of them at people who antagonize but love you. Or you can think of them as you have said above. They would LOVE and GIVE THE WORLD TO YOU. Many people would give the world to have someone want to give the world to them. Deeply think about these things. They're your lifeline. No amount of money will bring about a happy ending, but the people who care for you will. Every breath you take is one where you can see and witness things on this earth. You well know that this life is short and fleeting by the second. Anger, grief, happiness, sadness are all going to be apart of this world, and it never will change. Your old self is still within you, and you don't have to look that hard-but you will have to focus and eliminate the clutter. A psychologist is nothing to be ashamed of because in true essence he or she is only guiding you to a problem within...

Best of luck to you, and please PM if you'd like.

 

[Metal]

It is easier to say than do, sometimes my friend. I seriously doubt you have been though what I have been through at my age. I was put through so much crap from the ones I love and also had the ones I love "talk" "insult" me behind my back without realizing how much it hurts to hear them say certain things about what I was going through.

Not sure, unless you too were beaten and molested along with your siblings. 3 years with the aunt and uncle, but I dont hold a grudge, theyre both in prison now. But, Im not angry about it.

U can sit around and cry about how u were left behind and how horrible u were treated ... sure, it was out of your hands. As an adult YOU choose the paths and decide which doors to open. If u continue to follow the path your on, Youre going to be so full of piss and vinegar, you could turn into one fucked up individual.

I only speak to my parents and sibs... thats it. I have since moved and have a lovley wife and beautiful daughter that my love has no boundaries.

Swallow it dude. Let it go.

 

[Ashop]

I have been facing situations ever since I have been released from the hospital. It has nothing to do with my health, but it has to do with how I have been acting toward others, such as my girlfriend, grandmother and also mother. I have noticed myself for MONTHS getting very aggrevated, short tempered, and not wanting to hold a conversation with them. It is very different when it comes to other people, not sure why.

But the people I get the most aggrevated with and do not want to sit down and talk with, are the people who were by myside the whole time I was in the hospital. These are the people who would GIVE the world for me! I do not know why on earth I act like this and I have been trying to force myself to do better, but I need help.

I have tried reading books, talking to others about my situation, but nothing seems to work. I do not even want to sit down and talk with my mother because I get aggrevated about the simpliest things. There is nothing wrong with these people at all, they do nothing but help me.

Therefore, I have made the decision tonight to call a pshychologist tomorrow and give this a try.

Has anyone tried this?

You have made the first step by admitting the problem. Good luck.