Has gear ruined marriages or relationships for any of you?

[mikeyp123]

you only live once

go be a fuckin navy seal go jump out of airplanes go become a fuckin pararescuer go to fuckin thailand the phillipines go do something anything worth doing is worth overdoing go live bro and while your living you're gonna find the most perfect chick for u and if u were truly living u wouldn't be worrying about social media anyone who's into social media isn't in the moment there showing it off so go do something you don't get these years back

 

[Macho Man]

go be a fuckin navy seal go jump out of airplanes go become a fuckin pararescuer go to fuckin thailand the phillipines go do something anything worth doing is worth overdoing go live bro and while your living you're gonna find the most perfect chick for u and if u were truly living u wouldn't be worrying about social media anyone who's into social media isn't in the moment there showing it off so go do something you don't get these years back

Your post makes me think of something else he could learn to do, haha [emoji6]

 

[oldDIRTYbastard]

The thing was this woman wanted marriage and kids with me eventually. My original plan when I first met her was just to fuck her a couple times and dump her since i didn't feel she was long term relationship material. She was addicted to social media and an attention whore, all throughout the relationship guys were constantly hitting her up as well as ex boyfriends and it just got annoying.

I banged this chick for 4 months and didn't invest any serious amount of time or money into her. IT should feel like a victory...but it doesnt because I fell for her. I should of dumped her after I fucked her the third time.

Please make a thread in 10 years and update us on how many women wanted marriage and baby with you. Hint, it will be a high number.

Thats doesnt make a girl special.

 

[ketsugo3]

Stop blaming gear when it's a pathetic excuse to ignore the problem . Gear does not make people different . People who abuse themselves on high doses and long cycles have problems - self control, impatience and insecurity. They are the issue. So to those of you sorry - man up !


LICSW/MSW/cscs/ USArmyVet

 

[crashdriver]

im not being negative here so dont take " offense"


its a possibility she left you for a bigger cock.



its a shallow world and you seem young so might as well prepare yourself for the " real world"

 

[flexdurden]

Gear isn't the problem... When you are in context prep and have zero sex drive and can't get hard, and your girl stays with you, she's golden...

When you are sick for weeks on end and can't touch her because you are contagious and she stays with you, she's a keeper...

When you can both get exited about running cycles together, you fucking hang on to her for dear life lol

Bottom line, it wasn't mean to be man... Shit happens... Learn from it and move on

 

[ajdos]

Gear isn't the problem.
Its women's distended sense of reality about how relationships should be.
For example. It was perfectly fine for my wife to neglect my 'needs' in order to spend time indulging or taking care of her son.
Ok, I was fine with that.
But my bodybuilding was just me being a selfish son of a bitch.
Raising a child, I understand, is a huge undertaking but before we got married I warned her and she knew what my life was like.
Later she tried to bitch and complain about it and I pulled out the statement that she made saying she was perfectly fine about it....now she changed her mind, women's prerogative.
Well fuck her, she got her divorce and I came out way better for it.
Truth is it didn't matter what I did - could have been golf, or collecting stamps. She would have tried to take it away, many women have this insecurity issue and take it out on their man, a rare type of woman accepts her mans hobbies and doesn't trespass on them or try to change the man.

 

[dylanvib4]

Gear isn't the problem.
Its women's distended sense of reality about how relationships should be.
For example. It was perfectly fine for my wife to neglect my 'needs' in order to spend time indulging or taking care of her son.
Ok, I was fine with that.
But my bodybuilding was just me being a selfish son of a bitch.
Raising a child, I understand, is a huge undertaking but before we got married I warned her and she knew what my life was like.
Later she tried to bitch and complain about it and I pulled out the statement that she made saying she was perfectly fine about it....now she changed her mind, women's prerogative.
Well fuck her, she got her divorce and I came out way better for it.
Truth is it didn't matter what I did - could have been golf, or collecting stamps. She would have tried to take it away, many women have this insecurity issue and take it out on their man, a rare type of woman accepts her mans hobbies and doesn't trespass on them or try to change the man.

Absolutely, this is right on point. I'm pretty much in the same predicament right now. But I'm so attached to my step kids...it's hard to leave. But. Sounds like your wife acted exactly how mine is now. I know that if I leave, I'll be struggling really badly financially, and I wouldn't really have a place to go for a while. Spent all my money on the family. On the other hand, doing so can be empowering and liberating. I can focus on me. Idk, I'm working on it. Any advice?



Decide. Commit. Succeed.

 

[dylanvib4]

As for @enjoylife88, you need to look at this how it is. SHE is giving YOU up. She's at loss. You have to tell yourself that or it's going to be that much harder for you. Believe me I've been there, I'm sure almost everybody here has. You're better than that shit. Hold yourself to a higher standard than that girl. She left you, focus on GETTING STRONGER and working at getting what you DESERVE. Keep your head up.

Decide. Commit. Succeed.

 

[infraredline]

yep.. you're definitely 21 LOL





god that hurt to read

Plus one on that, I was pounding my head against the wall while reading it

 

[snrose07]

Holy shit you just described her lol. We were the definition of a pussy ass couple and I truly believed that social media was the beginning of the downfall of the relationship.

As for your wife etc she caught me with gear early in the relationship, and told me that if she ever caught me with it again the relationship would be over. She wanted a child right now, I didn't,....sometimes I wonder if she put the small balls together and wondered if I had fertility issues from the steroids.

Just think if it is that difficult to do what you enjoy... imagine how the other aspects of life would be over years and years and years. It may sting now, but in the long run you need to find a girl who would support whatever you do. A girl who would help you bury a body. With a girl like that you don't have to chose a life of capped delts and a small waist over a relationship. You think any of the pros we all look up to have a wife they have to hide their lifestyle from? You will never achieve your goals if you don't have the support of your girl. It's a mutual thing.

 

[Dezzy]

I think it was more then just bad sex bro. But I ALWAYS have Cialis on hand whether I'm running something or not. I don't always need it. But especially in the beginning of a relationship when I need to um "impress" or I need to put it down I dose up. Lots of guys do it, your girl will never know.

 

[ENJOYLIFE88]

I think it was more then just bad sex bro. But I ALWAYS have Cialis on hand whether I'm running something or not. I don't always need it. But especially in the beginning of a relationship when I need to um "impress" or I need to put it down I dose up. Lots of guys do it, your girl will never know.

. Thats the thing though. I gave this chick her first orgasm...sex was so amazing for her she used to brag all the time to her friends about it. I figured a chick I was dating for four months would be understanding enough and care about me enough to not leave my ass for one or two bad performances in the sack. It wasn't quite ED but I had weak erections the past two times and was under alot of stress...hell the the only time she didn't orgasm was the last time we had sex. She told me its fine don't worry about it etc but it was that night that she broke things off.

What a fucking cunt

 

[Dezzy]

Your still really young man. When I was your age 21 or 22 I had an issue similar to yours. My girl didn't leave me because of that, but I remember here thinking our sex life wasn't good enough because one of her friends bragged about having sex for hours and hours. That's when I first started experimenting with ED drugs. I tried Viagra, ; but I didn't like the sides it made my nose stuffy. Later I ended up playing around with Cialis. That stuff is a God send. But looking back now she was I see she was trippin. Out sex was just fine. You gotta remember woman at that age are young and don't always have realistic expectations. She will WISH she had the sex she is having with you now 20 years from now. Don't worry about it. But grab you some Cialis you won't be disappointed

 

[ENJOYLIFE88]

Your still really young man. When I was your age 21 or 22 I had an issue similar to yours. My girl didn't leave me because of that, but I remember here thinking our sex life wasn't good enough because one of her friends bragged about having sex for hours and hours. That's when I first started experimenting with ED drugs. I tried Viagra, ; but I didn't like the sides it made my nose stuffy. Later I ended up playing around with Cialis. That stuff is a God send. But looking back now she was I see she was trippin. Out sex was just fine. You gotta remember woman at that age are young and don't always have realistic expectations. She will WISH she had the sex she is having with you now 20 years from now. Don't worry about it. But grab you some Cialis you won't be disappointed

I sent some pretty beta texts when I was drunk the other night. I think its more ego related....knowing that this chick used to worship the ground I walked on.. always bragged to her girlfriends about me... to knowing that she probably has no respect for me. Probably talking to her girlfriends about what a head case I turned out to be and how I wasnt the man she thought I was.

I just wish I could of gone back in time and dumped her when I Was contemplating it, I may of missed out on a fucking hew a few more times...but at least I would of still had my respect.

I think thats the problem with a lot of guys, we can sense when a relationship is going to go south ..we know we can end things at that point walking away the man but we don't have the balls to break up with her cause we like having that piece of ass to come home to every night.

 

[little slice]

I think thats the problem with a lot of guys, we can sense when a relationship is going to go south ..we know we can end things at that point walking away the man but we don't have the balls to break up with her cause we like having that piece of ass to come home to every night.

speak for yourself.. not everyone was/is as childish and juvenile as you when they were your age lmao

 

[ENJOYLIFE88]

speak for yourself.. not everyone was/is as childish and juvenile as you when they were your age lmao

and that's why you follow me around in my thread like a little puppy

I can't get mad though. I wouldn't expect any guy under 25 to really understand what young girls 18-21 are like these days because social media 5-10 years ago was nothing like it was today.

 

[little slice]

and that's why you follow me around in my thread like a little puppy

I can't get mad though. I wouldn't expect any guy under 25 to really understand what young girls 18-21 are like these days because social media 5-10 years ago was nothing like it was today.

I wouldn't say I follow you around.. there just isn't much activity in the counseling forum


im just telling you dude.. man to man, you say dumb shit. That's all

 

[ENJOYLIFE88]

I wouldn't say I follow you around.. there just isn't much activity in the counseling forum


im just telling you dude.. man to man, you say dumb shit. That's all

Im sure your friends with bodybuilders and your a bodybuilder yourself. ask yourself why are bodybuilders always the ones getting played by women? Big muscular guys who take excellent care of their appearance getting cheated on and played? It Should be the opposite if anything. IMO the reason bodybuilders have such problems getting hurt by women is our egos far bigger than the average guy.

When an average guy meets a crazy chick who he knows is not LTR material .he can call it quits after he bangs her 2-3 times. Guys like me and most bodybuilders I know are greedy, were not leaving until she does ass to mouth and that may take a bit longer.

 

[little slice]

Im sure your friends with bodybuilders and your a bodybuilder yourself. ask yourself why are bodybuilders always the ones getting played by women? Big muscular guys who take excellent care of their appearance getting cheated on and played? It Should be the opposite if anything. IMO the reason bodybuilders have such problems getting hurt by women is our egos far bigger than the average guy.

When an average guy meets a crazy chick who he knows is not LTR material .he can call it quits after he bangs her 2-3 times. Guys like me and most bodybuilders I know are greedy, were not leaving until she does ass to mouth and that may take a bit longer.

you sure are a piece of work kiddo...