Has gear ruined marriages or relationships for any of you?

[GS]

Im sure your friends with bodybuilders and your a bodybuilder yourself. ask yourself why are bodybuilders always the ones getting played by women? Big muscular guys who take excellent care of their appearance getting cheated on and played? It Should be the opposite if anything. IMO the reason bodybuilders have such problems getting hurt by women is our egos far bigger than the average guy.

When an average guy meets a crazy chick who he knows is not LTR material .he can call it quits after he bangs her 2-3 times. Guys like me and most bodybuilders I know are greedy, were not leaving until she does ass to mouth and that may take a bit longer.

First off my oldest is 1 year younger than you. His perception of girls are on point.
He said to me ,he will fuckem leavem until he finds one that he can work with,.
I said ,son 99% are crazy and manipulative ,but by not falling head over heals in love until you experience the different types of girls.You can put them in the same category ,crazyyyyyyy!!!! At least till that one proves that she is different .

BTW not just bodybuilders get played by girls ,just about all men have been!

It seems to me that it is you that can't get out of your little one night stands so don't put yourself in the guys like me and most bodybuilders bit...

You will learn and 10-20 years you can haze the 21 year old for his crazy posts

 

[Scoundrel]

Half the feelings you get are just from being lonely. It's easy to get used to having company. I wish I could go back to 21. I would set myself up for my future, career, finances, etc. That is easy to say now that I've done all the dumb shit and have a better grasp on life. Relationships come and go when you are young. Count yourself lucky that it didn't drag on for another year or two. Good luck to you.

 

[bigpapa]

The thing was this woman wanted marriage and kids with me eventually. My original plan when I first met her was just to fuck her a couple times and dump her since i didn't feel she was long term relationship material. She was addicted to social media and an attention whore, all throughout the relationship guys were constantly hitting her up as well as ex boyfriends and it just got annoying.

I banged this chick for 4 months and didn't invest any serious amount of time or money into her. IT should feel like a victory...but it doesnt because I fell for her. I should of dumped her after I fucked her the third time.

now see the two things that stuck out here were:

1) this woman wanted to marry you and have kids- after four months? like really? that honestly should be a major red flag there at 21.

2) addicted to social media - i have said this 1000 times: social media will be the death of all relationships. no good will ever come out of it. that is why i got rid of all facebooks, myspace, etc... it is relationship killers.

I went through alot of the same things at your age. and i was a bouncer at a bar at the same time. i have had every type of girl : the attention whore, the clinger, the controller and manipulative, the straight up psycho, the older woman who wants to play mother, the stalker, the girl who says if you leave her she'll kill herself... literally everything. and what it comes down to is that they are all bat shit crazy. we need to start talking about the 1% in this world, meaning the 1% of women who are actual marriage material. here is my advice to you though and it is what i did if you are really looking for a girl who is marriage material:

make a big list of the things that you want in a partner and do not deviate from it at all. once someone has something you do not want, peace out, cut them out. i did that a few times during our first date. i said listen honestly, after spending this time together i would rather sit bare assed on a patch of angry porcupines, and then dropped them off home. i did that until i found my wife. and i knew very quickly because i ran through basically everything i did not want and then, here she was, the person i wanted. 7 months later i proposed to her. it is when you know you know.

at 21 though i mean it can happen, true love can happen. my parents got engaged at 19 and 30 years later are still married, it is extremely rare but it does happen. but at 21 i mean i would only be concerned with getting my dick wet right now and not getting some crazy bitch pregnant by accident. but do all of that, and keep the check list in mind.

 

[BigB1986]

First off my oldest is 1 year younger than you. His perception of girls are on point.
He said to me ,he will fuckem leavem until he finds one that he can work with,.
I said ,son 99% are crazy and manipulative ,but by not falling head over heals in love until you experience the different types of girls.You can put them in the same category ,crazyyyyyyy!!!! At least till that one proves that she is different .

BTW not just bodybuilders get played by girls ,just about all men have been!

It seems to me that it is you that can't get out of your little one night stands so don't put yourself in the guys like me and most bodybuilders bit...

You will learn and 10-20 years you can haze the 21 year old for his crazy posts

HAHA this is awesome