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Having trouble getting past Wife's affair

Taz.. I again mean no offense.. Just trying to figure out what you see in her worth saving? A cheater is usually a cheater.. They will do it again if the opportunity arises.. Even on the remote chance that they never touched each other:rolleyes: she still shared her most intimate body parts with him in pictures.. They are only things you are supposed to ever see. And does she think he did not share them with others..? I would venture to guess she flirts alot.. This is not her first time trying to attract others.. This guy was not that special be be the one to get her attention.. So again, what is so special? You are young enou to find someone else that will show you respect and give her attention only to you.. Not so sure about the one ya have.. After all she deems this episode so important that she skips her therapy sessions.. She does not put importance on this.. She hope you just let it go...
 
Taz,
Sorry to hear what you're going through! Shit sucks!
I highlighted and addressed somethings with my thoughts below.


can i forgive her? that is the million dollar question. i keep trying but i just cant help but to let the anger seep through here and there. its like we will have a great day or great couple of days. then i will be reminded of it somehow. by an outfit she is wearing or something she says or something that is on TV or something. then i get so resentful and i think, 'we laughed like this that whole time and all the while i thought we were so close and in love but she was spending entire days sending porno messages to someone else.'. So then the hate comes through and we fight.

I can understand your anger, but what is she angry about that causes it to turn into a fight? Is she mad that you keep bringing it up and won't let it go?
I don't know if I could ever completely get over something like this as there would always be something that would remind me of it. Like everytime I saw a cop car!


i got a call today from his boss and the assistant to the Chief of his department. they are coming here friday to talk to me about everything that their investigation uncovered. They are going to fill me in on all the information that I dont have. So I guess I will learn the whole truth then.

Not sure if I am happy about that or scared. I already told her that if there is anything, ANYTHING at all that she has held back from me whether it was to protect me from hurting or out of fear of telling the truth, i told her she had better tell me now before they do. I told her that if she admits everything to me now we can talk to a therapist but that if she keeps insisting that i know everything and then they come and tell me things that I dont know I told her I am moving out that same day and filing for divorce.

she still swears I know everything. so i guess we will see.

and btw, yes she has begged to see a counselor but she really hasnt put much effort into finding one. She had one appt with one back in december and is supposed to see her again Jan 21st. I am pretty mad about that becuase it seems to me that she should be trying much harder to find a therapist if she really wants to fix this.

I feel the same as you! If she really wanted to move forward and get past this she would go to the ends of the earth to prove that saving the marriage is what she wants.
thanks again everyone. you guys and girls are a fantastic community. the support and advice and outpouring you all are giving me is something I feel very fortunate about. thank you so much

Don't blame yourself! If you're busting your ass for her and your family than I applaud you! That's like saying the farmer is to blame if his wife sleeps with the fucking mailman because he's out in the field all day breaking his back to keep a roof over his families heads.

Boomshaker made a good sugestion. Seperate from her for a while without conceeding divorce or reconsiliation. This will show her how serious what she did was and how it has affected you. It will also give her the opportunity to show you how much the marriage means to her. If she wants things to work with you it will be obvious, and also if she doesn't!

I pray for the best for you!! Whatever that may be.
 
Regardless if you can ever forgive her, it's going to haunt you forever. I say drop her fast before you are able to do anything drast that may come back to haunt you. IMO, if you forgive her its just opening her up to more because it shows that your weak and she now knows she can get away with it.

its going to haunt you for a long time bro..going through the same thing, but mine is a divorce..i can hardly stand seeing her for a few minutes to get my child..i am just so full of hate towards her..idk if staying will show to her you are weak, but i think you shouldnt stay with somone like that becuae its just not healthy
 
Boomshaker made a good sugestion. Seperate from her for a while without conceeding divorce or reconsiliation.

I pray for the best for you!! Whatever that may be. [/COLOR]

All good suggestions. But hard to do, practically. Because, from a cheater's standpoint, she'll also see this as a green light. You'll have to wonder what she's doing all that time. It will not be a relaxing time apart for you, because she'll see it as, "being on a break" or "separated". And you can't tell her, "This doesn't mean we're seeing other people". a)because you shouldn't have to, and b) because it would defeat the purpose, showing her you're not really leaving.

I come from a family rife with cheating, I've seen it a lot and watched how they think and act. One reason we don't talk at all. Character issues.

Cheater's are selfish and short-term thinkers. And in their heart of hearts, they just want the trouble to be over because they relish the secret, the thrill of the double life. This is why she hasn't sought therapy. She wants it to be over so she can stop paying for her mistake (choice...not mistake). She's only sorry she got caught.

She's probably not a mean person. She wasn't likely thinking of hurting you on purpose. In fact, she wasn't thinking of you at all. But is that better?
 
All good suggestions. But hard to do, practically. Because, from a cheater's standpoint, she'll also see this as a green light. You'll have to wonder what she's doing all that time. It will not be a relaxing time apart for you, because she'll see it as, "being on a break" or "separated". And you can't tell her, "This doesn't mean we're seeing other people". a)because you shouldn't have to, and b) because it would defeat the purpose, showing her you're not really leaving.

I come from a family rife with cheating, I've seen it a lot and watched how they think and act. One reason we don't talk at all. Character issues.

Cheater's are selfish and short-term thinkers. And in their heart of hearts, they just want the trouble to be over because they relish the secret, the thrill of the double life. This is why she hasn't sought therapy. She wants it to be over so she can stop paying for her mistake (choice...not mistake). She's only sorry she got caught.

She's probably not a mean person. She wasn't likely thinking of hurting you on purpose. In fact, she wasn't thinking of you at all. But is that better?


The point of the seperation is to see which direction she will put her effort! If he is ever going to be able to forgive her and trust her again she will need to show him that she is truly sorry and willing to do what is needed to regain his trust. If she sees it as a green light to do anything else than there is the answer!!
 
Man up and drop that unfaithful bitch. What lesson are you teaching your children, that cheating is something to be forgiven? You've been shit on in the worst way it is time to stand up, clean yourself off, and move on. Seriously, look at yourself in the mirror and stop making excuses. If want to be respected in this world there is only one option. MOVE THE FUCK ON
 
take it from someone that is going through a divorce right now. life is too short to put up with bs like this. close that chapter and move on. one day your kids will understand what there mom did
 
My ex didn't cheat on me but stabbed me in the back in a way that cheating would have been a lot easier to deal with. I stayed in the marriage for a few years after that, trying to revive what was a dead marriage. If your spouse cheats on you, the marriage is dead. I would consider what your wife did as cheating.

In my opinion, you can either try to revive the marriage or declare it officially dead. Chances are, it's over. Trust is the #1 thing in a union and I just don't see how you could ever trust her again.

If I could rewind time and re-live what I went through, I would have still stayed in my dead marriage, but I would have had a 2-year divorce plan. She didn't work at the time and I would have gotten her working. I would have gotten rid of any and all debt, except our mortgage. I would have also began stockpiling a secret cash reserve and hidden as much money as I possibly could. I would have also been keeping a log of her actions, particularly as it pertains to custody rights. Then, when I would have had a mountain of hidden cash, no debt, her with a steady income and ammo to use against her in a custody battle, I would have pulled the trigger with a divorce.

As it turned out for me, custody wasn't a fight and I see my kids more than 50% of the time. But if I'd kept good records, I could have probably gotten full custody. I pay more in support than I'd like, but that's because I didn't have a plan.

If you decide to divorce, I urge you to do yourself a favor and make a 1 to 2 year plan. You can pretend to be putting things behind you to her, all the while working toward your divorce plan. You should visit divorceddads.com and read up there. They've also got a forum with great information. A few months before you're ready to hit her with a divorce, get an attorney and go through everything. Make sure you interview several, you'll want an aggressive attorney - a pit bull type. When you and your attorney decide its time, go for the jugular. Take no prisoners and bury her ass (not literally).

That's my best advice, based on my experience.
 
We haven't heard about your meeting with his fellow police officers. So I don't know how your situation has evolved.

Lets just say I know a lot of married women who cheat.

My comment may be moot at this point but seeing that you endured the torture of seeing her texts and you didn't say there was mention of an encounter I'm guessing it never happened. It would have been mentioned in the texts. Really.

You didn't say much about her side of the story. Nothing actually other than you worked a lot. That's it? You are Prince Charming? And while I have personally NEVER had a reason to cheat on my wife, I DO NOT believe reasons for infidelity do not exist. And the allure and the high are better than any drug. And there are a lot of spouses out there with drug, smoking and alcohol problems that catastrophically impact their family. And that behavior continues. But sex is sacred. Ah-huh.

You are in a horrible place that you no doubt do not deserve. My biggest concern here is your kids. Do they know?

I will tell you what I believe (not a scientific study) to be a very common thread in spouses who cheat is that they came from divorced families themselves. (not always of course). If you divorce, and you may have a very good reason mind you, you are dooming your kids to a much higher likelihood that they will also divorce. Just like suicide - your parents kill themselves - you are much more at risk. And both of my examples of mimicked behavior are statistically backed up.

I don't know if I could forgive her. Probably not, because I am weak, not because "I am an Alpha Male - on steroids - growl". But I know forgiving her is the first step in your healing process, whether you stay married or not. Do you hear the raw bitterness in a lot of the above advice? I understand why they feel their anger, but it's very unhealthy for them. It's still hurting the quality of their lives.

To those above scorned men - I would be devoting a lot of energy to forgiving your ex's for their weakness and character flaws. Yes they are toxic and I'm not telling you to take them back. But stop hating. Let go of your anger and find peace. Do it for yourself. Not for them, they may not deserve it, but you deserve to find peace.

It's difficult to believe that the first time your wife misbehaved was the first time she was caught IMHO. I also don't put much faith in counseling, or in a cheater not to cheat again. I know a lot of cheaters who have been thru counseling. I even know one who always had to have sex with her affair partner the day of her couples sessions. Nice!

1) Don't let your hatred hurt you. Because your hatred can ruin your life - if you stay married or not. Forgive her either way you go - for your own health

2) Think of how a divorce may impact your children when they get married, and then their children as well - it's a generational cancer. Does that mean you have to be miserable? No, it doesn't. But you need to consider how this will affect your future generations.

3) Good judgement not to get physical with the guy (he sounds like his life was awful before he met your wife, please recognize that his life is his own punshishment, and it's only going to get worse - I would forgive him too - for your benefit) Plus he may have shot your "trained fighter" self. I would have shot you. Most definitely.

Try to find peace. What your wife did is horrible, even if I don't think they were physical. But it happens all the time, and hating will destroy your life.

And thanks again for the amusing "Be a man and throw that whore scum out to the curb" comments. Especially from all the single guys. What are you guys on - roids? Idiots.
 
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Coach what exactly would you like to know more about my wife that could make anything she did valid in any sense? I suppose if I were a scumbag that beat her on a regular basis she could cheat. Although walking out would have been the smart choice. Which, btw, I was not and am not.

You want to know more about my wife? Ok. Ill give you the unbiased truth. My wife is a beautiful, smart, sexy, funny, charming, personable, amazing woman. She is probably the easiest person in the world to talk to because she is so nice. But along with that though is that she tends to be a bit flirtatious at times saying things for reaction. It is a negative trait that she knows she has and that she has worked on. She works very hard at a job she doesnt really like to do so that she can help support our family. She was my best friend. She was the one person I told everything to. She was my confidante. She doesnt have many hobbies because she can be somewhat lazy as she says. She knows working out makes her fee good and gives her positive energy and makes her confidence go way up, but she doesnt feel like it. So she doesnt. Even though we own a gym.
She is a great mom. one of the best in fact. She loves our children. But even though she loves them she has stuck them in front of the TV for hours at a time so she could go upstairs and exchange pornographic pictures with her little boyfriend and sexual messages.
The reality of our relationship is simple. I busted my ass and becuase of that I accept that I was not totally present all the time. I admit my fault here. But she was also not there for me at all during this time and did absolutely NOTHING to help me with the gym. Yet I didnt fuck anyone! My wife doesnt even know what our monthly contract prices are and she is half owner of the company!

And all through it I dont care. I dont care if my wife sits on a couch all day long and demands that I go to the store, do the laundry, feed the kids, clean the house, walk the dog, cook the meals, do the dishes, etc. I DONT CARE ABOUT THAT STUFF AND NEVER HAVE!! I would do ANYTHING and EVERYTHING for my wife becuase i love her so much. And she would readily and easily tell you the same. Bottom line here is that she wanted to feel good about herself and because my attention was on growing the business I wasnt giving her the attention she needed.

However, she also admits openly that she KNEW that if she had just said to me even one time "i really need more of your time or your attention" she knows that I would have shut off everything else and been there for her 100%. She made the choice not to do that. HER CHOICE. not mine.


We haven't heard about your meeting with his fellow police officers. So I don't know how your situation has evolved.

Lets just say I know a lot of married women who cheat.

My comment may be moot at this point but seeing that you endured the torture of seeing her texts and you didn't say there was mention of an encounter I'm guessing it never happened. It would have been mentioned in the texts. Really.

You didn't say much about her side of the story. Nothing actually other than you worked a lot. That's it? You are Prince Charming? And while I have personally NEVER had a reason to cheat on my wife, I DO NOT believe reasons for infidelity do not exist. And the allure and the high are better than any drug. And there are a lot of spouses out there with drug, smoking and alcohol problems that catastrophically impact their family. And that behavior continues. But sex is sacred. Ah-huh.

You are in a horrible place that you no doubt do not deserve. My biggest concern here is your kids. Do they know?

I will tell you what I believe (not a scientific study) to be a very common thread in spouses who cheat is that they came from divorced families themselves. (not always of course). If you divorce, and you may have a very good reason mind you, you are dooming your kids to a much higher likelihood that they will also divorce. Just like suicide - your parents kill themselves - you are much more at risk. And both of my examples of mimicked behavior are statistically backed up.

I don't know if I could forgive her. Probably not, because I am weak, not because "I am an Alpha Male - on steroids - growl". But I know forgiving her is the first step in your healing process, whether you stay married or not. Do you hear the raw bitterness in a lot of the above advice? I understand why they feel their anger, but it's very unhealthy for them. It's still hurting the quality of their lives.

To those above scorned men - I would be devoting a lot of energy to forgiving your ex's for their weakness and character flaws. Yes they are toxic and I'm not telling you to take them back. But stop hating. Let go of your anger and find peace. Do it for yourself. Not for them, they may not deserve it, but you deserve to find peace.

It's difficult to believe that the first time your wife misbehaved was the first time she was caught IMHO. I also don't put much faith in counseling, or in a cheater not to cheat again. I know a lot of cheaters who have been thru counseling. I even know one who always had to have sex with her affair partner the day of her couples sessions. Nice!

1) Don't let your hatred hurt you. Because your hatred can ruin your life - if you stay married or not. Forgive her either way you go - for your own health

2) Think of how a divorce may impact your children when they get married, and then their children as well - it's a generational cancer. Does that mean you have to be miserable? No, it doesn't. But you need to consider how this will affect your future generations.

3) Good judgement not to get physical with the guy (he sounds like his life was awful before he met your wife, please recognize that his life is his own punshishment, and it's only going to get worse - I would forgive him too - for your benefit) Plus he may have shot your "trained fighter" self. I would have shot you. Most definitely.

Try to find peace. What your wife did is horrible, even if I don't think they were physical. But it happens all the time, and hating will destroy your life.

And thanks again for the amusing "Be a man and throw that whore scum out to the curb" comments. Especially from all the single guys. What are you guys on - roids? Idiots.
 
UPDATE ON MEETING WITH POLICE

So the head of the detectives unit, the head of internal affairs, and the Chief of Police came to meet with me a few days ago.

The Chief came personally to offer me his apologies and to extend his hand. I thought this was exceptionally classy of him to do. Given that they are 1.5hrs away from my gym and they came in person. I was impressed.

They had a form letter that basically stated that they had addressed my concerns and that the situation was rectified and is now considered closed. But he handed it to me and told me that he wanted to personally fill me in and answer any questions I may have.

The solution? They fired him on the spot. He lost his pension. He lost his benefits. He can never get a job in law enforcement again whether it be governmental or civil service. His Wife kicked him out and is filing divorce papers. He has lost everything. He made it clear that he did not plan on leaving my wife alone and that he would probably contact her again now that everything was made public. So I am really pissed about that.
And also I was warned that he may seek retribution against me so I was warned to just keep aware for a little while. He does own several guns and since he did not make a direct threat against me they could not sieze them. But i am still supposed to watch out for a little while until things blow over. Whatever.

So my take on it? I pray every single night that when I wake up he will be waiting at my gym. With or without the gun. I dont care. Either way I win. If he does happen to shoot me then I dont have to deal with all this emotional pain anymore. I win. If he doesnt bring the gun then it will be just him and me knuckled up. Considering I am a professional Muay Thai Instructor and fighter as well as an accomplished brazilian jiu jitsu competitor I cant imagine a more fun way to spend the morning.

so who knows what happens from here. I will be staying at my gym overnight for a while and going back to the house in the morning after she leaves so i can get the kids off to school. she and i are still fighting over it all but i believe that a separation is the best course of action. she has still not called any therapists even though i personally handed her a list of available Dr's. She suddenly doesnt think that therapy is that necessary since she knows her problem is that she is selfish. ?????? ummmm, ok.

Thanks for all your kind words and caring. I really appreciate everyone taking the time to respond to me about this. You are a great group of people here.
 
So the head of the detectives unit, the head of internal affairs, and the Chief of Police came to meet with me a few days ago.

The Chief came personally to offer me his apologies and to extend his hand. I thought this was exceptionally classy of him to do. Given that they are 1.5hrs away from my gym and they came in person. I was impressed.

They had a form letter that basically stated that they had addressed my concerns and that the situation was rectified and is now considered closed. But he handed it to me and told me that he wanted to personally fill me in and answer any questions I may have.

The solution? They fired him on the spot. He lost his pension. He lost his benefits. He can never get a job in law enforcement again whether it be governmental or civil service. His Wife kicked him out and is filing divorce papers. He has lost everything. He made it clear that he did not plan on leaving my wife alone and that he would probably contact her again now that everything was made public. So I am really pissed about that.
And also I was warned that he may seek retribution against me so I was warned to just keep aware for a little while. He does own several guns and since he did not make a direct threat against me they could not sieze them. But i am still supposed to watch out for a little while until things blow over. Whatever.

So my take on it? I pray every single night that when I wake up he will be waiting at my gym. With or without the gun. I dont care. Either way I win. If he does happen to shoot me then I dont have to deal with all this emotional pain anymore. I win. If he doesnt bring the gun then it will be just him and me knuckled up. Considering I am a professional Muay Thai Instructor and fighter as well as an accomplished brazilian jiu jitsu competitor I cant imagine a more fun way to spend the morning.

so who knows what happens from here. I will be staying at my gym overnight for a while and going back to the house in the morning after she leaves so i can get the kids off to school. she and i are still fighting over it all but i believe that a separation is the best course of action. she has still not called any therapists even though i personally handed her a list of available Dr's. She suddenly doesnt think that therapy is that necessary since she knows her problem is that she is selfish. ?????? ummmm, ok.

Thanks for all your kind words and caring. I really appreciate everyone taking the time to respond to me about this. You are a great group of people here.



sounds like you are doing the right and responsible thing, while she tries to sweep it under the rug and hope the smoke blows over soon. whats amazing is that she was caught red handed and still doesnt give a shit about trying to see a therapist for the sake of her own kids. that is the ultimate FU to you and the kids bro. but handling it this way for now is the best way to go about it.

I wish you and your kids all the best brother.
 
So the head of the detectives unit, the head of internal affairs, and the Chief of Police came to meet with me a few days ago.

The Chief came personally to offer me his apologies and to extend his hand. I thought this was exceptionally classy of him to do. Given that they are 1.5hrs away from my gym and they came in person. I was impressed.

They had a form letter that basically stated that they had addressed my concerns and that the situation was rectified and is now considered closed. But he handed it to me and told me that he wanted to personally fill me in and answer any questions I may have.

The solution? They fired him on the spot. He lost his pension. He lost his benefits. He can never get a job in law enforcement again whether it be governmental or civil service. His Wife kicked him out and is filing divorce papers. He has lost everything. He made it clear that he did not plan on leaving my wife alone and that he would probably contact her again now that everything was made public. So I am really pissed about that.
And also I was warned that he may seek retribution against me so I was warned to just keep aware for a little while. He does own several guns and since he did not make a direct threat against me they could not sieze them. But i am still supposed to watch out for a little while until things blow over. Whatever.

So my take on it? I pray every single night that when I wake up he will be waiting at my gym. With or without the gun. I dont care. Either way I win. If he does happen to shoot me then I dont have to deal with all this emotional pain anymore. I win. If he doesnt bring the gun then it will be just him and me knuckled up. Considering I am a professional Muay Thai Instructor and fighter as well as an accomplished brazilian jiu jitsu competitor I cant imagine a more fun way to spend the morning.

so who knows what happens from here. I will be staying at my gym overnight for a while and going back to the house in the morning after she leaves so i can get the kids off to school. she and i are still fighting over it all but i believe that a separation is the best course of action. she has still not called any therapists even though i personally handed her a list of available Dr's. She suddenly doesnt think that therapy is that necessary since she knows her problem is that she is selfish. ?????? ummmm, ok.

Thanks for all your kind words and caring. I really appreciate everyone taking the time to respond to me about this. You are a great group of people here.
TAZ his wife left him and filed for divorce....take her lead and follow brother, I dont care how much you love or hurt on the inside for her, get the hell away from her.
She sounds just like my ex wife...I can only tell you the guilt trips and lies I heard about how my behavior "made" her act in certain ways, as if she has no self control or accountability here.
DUMP HER. She is worthless and I guarnatee that if you try to make this work she will DO IT AGAIN.
 
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Brother I feel ur pain. Ihave been through a similar situation. It is some of the worst pain a man cpuld go through. Especially when there r kids involved. I can tell u frm experience that if u want to make it work u will have to forgive her. That does not mean u will stop hurting. It just means u r giving up the right to be judge; jury; and executioner. The pain WILL go away in time. But unfortunately it will take time. if u can possibly do this; I would highly reccomendit. I did not do this n as a result my kids have been through divorce n all that comes with it. If u love her stay n let the resent ment go. The pain will subside. Pray n ask God to help u let it go. Good luck bro.
 
So the head of the detectives unit, the head of internal affairs, and the Chief of Police came to meet with me a few days ago.

The Chief came personally to offer me his apologies and to extend his hand. I thought this was exceptionally classy of him to do. Given that they are 1.5hrs away from my gym and they came in person. I was impressed.

They had a form letter that basically stated that they had addressed my concerns and that the situation was rectified and is now considered closed. But he handed it to me and told me that he wanted to personally fill me in and answer any questions I may have.

The solution? They fired him on the spot. He lost his pension. He lost his benefits. He can never get a job in law enforcement again whether it be governmental or civil service. His Wife kicked him out and is filing divorce papers. He has lost everything. He made it clear that he did not plan on leaving my wife alone and that he would probably contact her again now that everything was made public. So I am really pissed about that.
And also I was warned that he may seek retribution against me so I was warned to just keep aware for a little while. He does own several guns and since he did not make a direct threat against me they could not sieze them. But i am still supposed to watch out for a little while until things blow over. Whatever.

So my take on it? I pray every single night that when I wake up he will be waiting at my gym. With or without the gun. I dont care. Either way I win. If he does happen to shoot me then I dont have to deal with all this emotional pain anymore. I win. If he doesnt bring the gun then it will be just him and me knuckled up. Considering I am a professional Muay Thai Instructor and fighter as well as an accomplished brazilian jiu jitsu competitor I cant imagine a more fun way to spend the morning.

I know you're hurting and want the pain to stop. But you would not win in this! Not because you would lose the fight but because of your children! They need you! Don't let them down! I know you won't!!

so who knows what happens from here. I will be staying at my gym overnight for a while and going back to the house in the morning after she leaves so i can get the kids off to school. she and i are still fighting over it all but i believe that a separation is the best course of action. she has still not called any therapists even though i personally handed her a list of available Dr's. She suddenly doesnt think that therapy is that necessary since she knows her problem is that she is selfish. ?????? ummmm, ok.

I asked this before but you might have missed it. What is she fighting with you about? Is she blaming you for all this? Or she thinks you should just drop it already? Doesn't sound like she is very remorseful.

You said it, she's lazy! Not a good trait to have if you're trying to regain someone's trust, IMO. Her lazyness more than likely attributed to the situation. It was easier to take the advances of some stanger to help her feel good than to put forth the effort toward her marriage. If she isn't willing to do anything now to help this situation, she never will!


Thanks for all your kind words and caring. I really appreciate everyone taking the time to respond to me about this. You are a great group of people here.

Keep your head up and do what's right for you and your kids!!
 
I am glad it all worked out with this tool getting fired. He obviously has problems, I feel bad for his wife and his daughter. Sucks you had to go through this. I wonder what this guy can do for a living now, just curious since he is such a fuck up.
 
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I am glad it all worked out with this tool getting fired. He obviously has problems, I feel bad for his wife and his daughter. Sucks you had to go through this. I wonder what this guy can do for a living now, just curious since he is such a fuck up.



I see retired cops moon lighting all the time at the Home Depot, Target, Walmart near me all the time. One guy in perticular retired and the back of his black tshirt says "special agent enforcement" outside of walmart..... LOL I laugh every time I see him, but hey, the store pays him well so he keeps the tshirt on. Since the ex-cop was fired but still has his gun and permit, I would venture to say finding work isn't gonna be that hard.
 
Rebuild a new life man. You have 3 children dont worry about some stupid girl. Good luck with that guy he cheated on his wife what will he do with her. Forget em both man.
 
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Taz One word my man one Word

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