How long have you been married?

Scorpyd · Jul 19, 2025

I Married a young gal .
38 years married and together 40.

I would marry her all over again in a heartbeat Here greatest attribute is that she is a gentle soul inside.

She been a fitness nut and keeps on top of her excersise and diet like clockwork.

Time apart together isn't good for her.

She is not materialistic or demanding.
She only asks for my company to be happy and content.

I'm very blessed to have here.

Dens228 · Jul 19, 2025

I married my high school sweetheart and we were married for ten years. She's still one of my best friends and we get along great.
Married to my second wife for 27 years and counting.

w8tlifterty · Jul 19, 2025

Just got out of a nearly 5 year relationship in which I think we were both 99.9% certain we had found the ‘one’. Everything was on point (loved our time together, could laugh until we cry, both excellent parents who put our kids 1st, incredible love-making that only got better w time, passionate, chemistry like no other, best friends). She’d agree we all these things.

We met later in life, obviously. And the one piece we couldn’t get right was communication when emotions were heightened or during conflict or disagreement. You’d think two grown adults could figure out the one thing holding them back from something truly special. It was as much me as it was her. Separated for about 5 months now and I’m still pretty beat-up about it.

Always been a loner for the most part so the relationships I do take part in have always been the real thing, I won’t take part in anything else. This one threw me for a loop, I’ll admit. Trying to learn from it.

Never been one to have to get married, but w her, I was looking forward to it. Pretty damn disappointed in myself, honestly.

It’s been good to read how some of you have built what you have w your significant other.

NEMSZ · Jul 19, 2025

This is what marriage is to me.

Don’t care how tough you are, the tears will get you on this one. Share it with your wives/partners.

I don’t want to get too cliche, but I don’t think there’s any other way to describe it. She’s my peace, my biggest fan, my best friend, my biggest support system, she’s what grounds me, she’s my everything.

There’s something about the soul that tells me this isn’t our first time together. We’ve been together for many lives, and I’ll search for her in every lifetime to come.

kadafi2 · Jul 19, 2025

w8tlifterty said:
Just got out of a nearly 5 year relationship in which I think we were both 99.9% certain we had found the ‘one’. Everything was on point (loved our time together, could laugh until we cry, both excellent parents who put our kids 1st, incredible love-making that only got better w time, passionate, chemistry like no other, best friends). She’d agree we all these things.

We met later in life, obviously. And the one piece we couldn’t get right was communication when emotions were heightened or during conflict or disagreement. You’d think two grown adults could figure out the one thing holding them back from something truly special. It was as much me as it was her. Separated for about 5 months now and I’m still pretty beat-up about it.

Always been a loner for the most part so the relationships I do take part in have always been the real thing, I won’t take part in anything else. This one threw me for a loop, I’ll admit. Trying to learn from it.

Never been one to have to get married, but w her, I was looking forward to it. Pretty damn disappointed in myself, honestly.

It’s been good to read how some of you have built what you have w your significant other.

Stories like these are the worst to read. It's a shame, it turns out that all "love" is just a fleeting chemistry; when it comes to reality, things aren't so rosy.

Regarding the topic, I've never had a wife and probably never will, but I don't care anymore. Not to mention children, my genes probably aren't worth passing on, lol. Not to mention the demands of today's women, the dating market looked different 15 years ago.

Someone wrote that he's most attracted to women who aren't wife-worthy, and there's something to that, because I've been through that myself many times. I think I'm only cut out for a lover in this world, especially for older, bored married women, but absolutely not for a life partner.

However, I wish all married people that your relationships will last until the end and be as good as possible.

BLKGUY2006 · Jul 19, 2025

Was married for 10 years. We had two children. She started seeing another man which I was oblivious to who happened to be a multimillionaire.. I was financially ruined and she made it impossible along with the courts for me to be in my children’s life. I do not know where she lives or where my children are, just somewhere in the lake Norman, North Carolina area. My children will not respond to my calls or text. It’s been eight years and I have a nice girlfriend now. But I’m scared to death of remarrying for fear of failure and losing everything all over again. Honestly, and I know it sounds bad, but I don’t think I can love like I did in the past. Being in love has been pulled from my heart. It bothers me a lot.

Siggy · Jul 19, 2025

BLKGUY2006 said:
Was married for 10 years. We had two children. She started seeing another man which I was oblivious to who happened to be a multimillionaire.. I was financially ruined and she made it impossible along with the courts for me to be in my children’s life. I do not know where she lives or where my children are, just somewhere in the lake Norman, North Carolina area. My children will not respond to my calls or text. It’s been eight years and I have a nice girlfriend now. But I’m scared to death of remarrying for fear of failure and losing everything all over again. Honestly, and I know it sounds bad, but I don’t think I can love like I did in the past. Being in love has been pulled from my heart. It bothers me a lot.

You are a strong person to take this and keep moving forward.

Poonami · Jul 19, 2025

w8tlifterty said:
Just got out of a nearly 5 year relationship in which I think we were both 99.9% certain we had found the ‘one’. Everything was on point (loved our time together, could laugh until we cry, both excellent parents who put our kids 1st, incredible love-making that only got better w time, passionate, chemistry like no other, best friends). She’d agree we all these things.

We met later in life, obviously. And the one piece we couldn’t get right was communication when emotions were heightened or during conflict or disagreement. You’d think two grown adults could figure out the one thing holding them back from something truly special. It was as much me as it was her. Separated for about 5 months now and I’m still pretty beat-up about it.

Always been a loner for the most part so the relationships I do take part in have always been the real thing, I won’t take part in anything else. This one threw me for a loop, I’ll admit. Trying to learn from it.

Never been one to have to get married, but w her, I was looking forward to it. Pretty damn disappointed in myself, honestly.

It’s been good to read how some of you have built what you have w your significant other.

very similar story here. Except she had 3 kids. So she’d have to be pretty amazing for me to still truly pursue her. And she was. Communication wrecked us in the end too. And all those other things you mentioned we had as well. And I’m still a little heartbroken over her. Oh well.

fisther69 · Jul 19, 2025

specter said:
Dude why do you stay ?

No choice, I don’t have anywhere near the income she does to fight her in court..I WILL see my kids everyday

trackstar19 · Jul 19, 2025

Married six months lol together 4 years and we were very close platonic friends for a few years prior to that.

Aka I’m way too green in marriage to give any good insight, but I’ve enjoyed reading the advice of the guys who have made it work for long periods of time. I def resonate with the learning to compromise and pick your battles. Remember why you got married when they’re driving you nuts lol I 100% intended to stay single for life I’m a lone wolf but I love my wife and everything is more enjoyable sharing it with her.

fisther69 · Jul 19, 2025

trackstar19 said:
Married six months lol together 4 years and we were very close platonic friends for a few years prior to that.

Aka I’m way too green in marriage to give any good insight, but I’ve enjoyed reading the advice of the guys who have made it work for long periods of time. I def resonate with the learning to compromise and pick your battles. Remember why you got married when they’re driving you nuts lol I 100% intended to stay single for life I’m a lone wolf but I love my wife and everything is more enjoyable sharing it with her.

Also remember…none of this matters once you have kids..my wife was great before kids..permanently a post pardum demons forever now

headtrainer · Jul 19, 2025

I’ve been happily married for 35 years and it just keeps getting better. My wife is also into lifting weights, cardio, eating healthy and taking hormone replacement therapy from her gynecologist. We have awesome sex every day. We have so many things in common it’s unusual. We want the same things out of life. We consider ourselves blessed and have a 30 year old son that’s also awesome. I’m a happy person.

trackstar19 · Jul 19, 2025

fisther69 said:
Also remember…none of this matters once you have kids..my wife was great before kids..permanently a post pardum demons forever now

Fortunately she doesn’t want any kids lol and I have 8 nieces and nephews that are local so that has mostly filled my want for kids. Being the fun uncle they’re all obsessed with is pretty enjoyable

Siggy · Jul 19, 2025

romo said:
Im 60, never married no kids. Am i proud of that, did i plan that, no. I admire married people. I'm going to die a lonely old man huh lol.

I work in a hospital. I see plenty of people with children die alone.

Enigma2015 · Jul 20, 2025

Married 16, together 26

Its a constant work in progress

Fleezy · Jul 20, 2025

Siggy said:
I work in a hospital. I see plenty of people with children die alone.

seriously.. i dont understand how people arrive at the conclusion that - since they had kids, those kids will be around their bedside in their final hours..

i imagine most people die suddenly, and then after that, most die in their sleep.

how many people actually die in a hospital bed, or in hospice i wonder?

a number of my milennial friends absolutely despise their boomer parents... so the whole thing becomes moot at that point.

romo · Jul 20, 2025

Siggy said:
I work in a hospital. I see plenty of people with children die alone.

Right,, good point.

TheOtherOne55 · Jul 20, 2025

Married 7 years, been together for 9. Stilll learning new things about communication and married and how to make it work all the time.
Love is a choice, you chooose to commit to another person and love them. Because there are ups and downs and lulls, but u make a choice on how u handle it and get through it.

That being said, my wife has no connection at all to fitness. Not into it, not a former competitor or any of that. That miiight make it harder in some cases and it might make it easier. WHo knows. She's a former athlete so that helps but its not like that helps the "understanding" of a BBer lol.