How long have you been married?

[tornquad201]

Married 21 years, together about 26.
Two girls 20 and 15.
It's always been a VERY estrogen dominant household.
Likely why I'm still alive.
Marriage is compromise...a 24/7 work in progress.

I can relate to that I have 3 daughters 26-30-34 just finally got my first grandson he’s 1

 

[AllLoadedUp]

Im 60, never married no kids. Am i proud of that, did i plan that, no. I admire married people. I'm going to die a lonely old man huh lol.

Same as you but 52. Look at the numbers man. 54% of marriages end in divorce. And I believe only 16% of those people in the 46% report still being "in love". Best thing is to not get married, have a gf and live separately. People live together and they eventually end up getting sick of each other.

 

[blackjack]

Most marriages just happen too fast. I am on my second and the entire experience is so different. 13 years with the first one and 3 now with the second. I was young and didn't understand what I needed the first one. I personally don't believe almost any high value man is ever going to be content with the same woman forever. My view is that you kind of only want one wife/mother of your kids/forever friend, but to think you aren't going to want to scratch itches and explore things is just lying to yourself - and that isn't sustainable happiness. If you are tall/good looking/successful financially/emotionally stable - most every woman wants that man. For me, the trick was finding a confident woman who truly understands that and genuinely gives the freedom for a man to be the man that he is. A lot of the guys saying don't get married and just have girlfriends - I fully understand where you are coming from, but I promise the unicorns do exist!

 

[Siggy]

Most marriages just happen too fast. I am on my second and the entire experience is so different. 13 years with the first one and 3 now with the second. I was young and didn't understand what I needed the first one. I personally don't believe almost any high value man is ever going to be content with the same woman forever. My view is that you kind of only want one wife/mother of your kids/forever friend, but to think you aren't going to want to scratch itches and explore things is just lying to yourself - and that isn't sustainable happiness. If you are tall/good looking/successful financially/emotionally stable - most every woman wants that man. For me, the trick was finding a confident woman who truly understands that and genuinely gives the freedom for a man to be the man that he is. A lot of the guys saying don't get married and just have girlfriends - I fully understand where you are coming from, but I promise the unicorns do exist!

So she lets you get away with seeing other woman? Is it a totally open marriage?

 

[Prowrestler]

The the wifey and I have been together for for about 21 years and this October with be our 18th anniversary. I have always said that she is too good for me. All marriages have ups & downs and anyone who says theirs is perfect is a liar and has no idea what they are talking about. They are so many things that need to go into a marriage that will make it 'work' but I have found over the years that communication, mutual respect, forgiveness, kindness, and trust are some of the most important. But putting the 'Big Man' above into both of our lives is an absolute must.

Great tips brother dragon

 

[nothuman]

2 studies i saw years ago one with 20,000 couples and other one with 40,000 showed that relationships that last are typically the ones where men give in when there are disagreements and go along with the women for the most part. The 1 psychologist theorized that that was due to women holding grudges longer then men. Makes sense to me.

It also sounds like a prison sentence for men. I’d rather be single than be a “yes honey” man. Just because two people stay together doesn’t mean they’re happy.

 

[Fleezy]

It also sounds like a prison sentence for men. I’d rather be single than be a “yes honey” man. Just because two people stay together doesn’t mean they’re happy.

my married friends look like caged animals


we don't talk about it though

 

[NEMSZ]

It also sounds like a prison sentence for men. I’d rather be single than be a “yes honey” man. Just because two people stay together doesn’t mean they’re happy.

There are definitely A LOT of men living in quiet desperation..

Thankful for the woman I have every day as she’s nothing like that. Never has she ever even once demonstrated an ounce of that kind of behavior towards me. She knows damn well I’d rather her respect me than love me. Luckily for me, she does both perfectly.

 

[Siggy]

my married friends look like caged animals


we don't talk about it though

lmao wtf

 

[specter]

my married friends look like caged animals


we don't talk about it though

Me and the wife was talkin one day about what we liked about each other and at one point she looked at me and said "you have your own oppinions, i cant just roll you around my finger and get what i want, thats what i like the most"
But we are both like that...
We had know each other like for a month when we had "the talk"
i was like "gear, training, the gym, if you ask me to choose you will loose"
She looked at me and said "my weed and my friends if you ask me to choose you will loose"
we shook on it and it has never in 13 years been a point of discussion not once..

 

[01dragonslayer]

Great tips brother dragon

Thanks for the sentiments Beefy. You know as well as I that working on a marriage is a never ending job but a beautiful job with a life long partner.

 

[blackjack]

So she lets you get away with seeing other woman? Is it a totally open marriage?

I wouldn't say open no. She isn't wired the same as me in terms of desires. However, she understands if she wants me and wants to keep me she can't put me in her prison. Some women can't handle that and that's ok. I'm glad I found the one I did. I provide a great life for her financially, I fuck her every day till she cums really hard, we are best friends, and I love her like I will never love any other woman - I take care of her emotionally and physically. Whether I am on a trip in Costa Rica with my boys or down town one night in Miami - if I connect with another female I don't pretend like I don't like it and force myself into some mental prison. I enjoy my time in that location in that night. I may even get her number and talk a couple more times and even see her again, but never for very long. Usually women think they can make you fall in love and when they realize you aren't going anywhere they give up, and that's ok. Moments in life, in my experience are can potentially be so fucking amazing that I never want to feel like I can't fuck around and find out. We do have boundaries and they have worked great for us. There are just a lot of religious/cultural bullshit rules and regulations western culture has just made up that I don't subscribe to. I thought I was kind of crazy till I met someone who sees it exactly the same way - and she's the one who brought it up.

In all of nature, in all of history, males "explore". In 2025 in the U.S. I've never seen more soft beta ass men in my life.



PS: Just to be clear if you love your wife and only want her the rest of your life I am not claiming that makes you soft.

 

[dieselbuilder]

Costa Rica

Cocal in Jaco?

 

[old timer]

Married 35, together 39. Try to always "date your wife." It's a lot easier at this stage of life, but if you show your spouse the same amount of attention as you did while you were dating, then you're likely to get the same response in return.

And if you haven't heard or read about Gary Chapman's Five Love Languages, check it out. Powerful concept that I wish that I had heard about a long time ago.

 

[OldManLogan]

my married friends look like caged animals


we don't talk about it though

If you’re forcing a relationship with the wrong person, 100%. I actually love spending time with my wife, we wish we didn’t have so many career and parenting responsibilities that take up so much time.

You can’t beat a hot AF best friend that’s fun and wants to fuck all the time. But hey, I’m a simple kind of man. But I bagged me a hot redhead, so

 

[Fleezy]

If you’re forcing a relationship with the wrong person, 100%. I actually love spending time with my wife, we wish we didn’t have so many career and parenting responsibilities that take up so much time.

You can’t beat a hot AF best friend that’s fun and wants to fuck all the time. But hey, I’m a simple kind of man. But I bagged me a hot redhead, so

Sounds nice

 

[chrisrivers]

Together since December 2008. Married since November 2011.

 

[blackjack]

Cocal in Jaco?

Jaco is too easy - I like a little bit of a challenge

 

[Blacktail]

Would have been 20 years in October. I lost her to cancer 3 months ago
Hardest fucking thing I have ever experienced!

 

[MonkeyBoy]

Together 13 years, married 10 with 1 son who is 7. I was 38 when I got married and she was 38 as well. We are the unicorns. Never been married before, no kids so no baggage. Dating was amazing but because we were older, the first 4 years of marriage sucked. LOL...we were so stuck in our ways. I think it finally hit me that I need to let go/I don't have to control or be my way as my wife will always make decisions what is best for me. Maybe not how I would do something but the end result is that was matters. That being said, I think the fact that I waited to get married was the best thing for me. I was not mature enough. A lot of great advice on here and yeah, anythig you value in life is going to come with hard work but for me, the biggest thing.....HAVE FUN!! ENJOY LIFE TOGETHER CAUSE YOU ONLY GET ONE TRY AT LIFE. Remember why you first dated to begin with. Pick and chose your battles. Do not fight over stupid shit, don't be jealous of there fun or sucess - be each others biggest fans. One last thing that works well for us....TALK!!!! You need to talk about Sex, Money, Kids!!!!