In all areas of live I have hits IMMENSE drive to become the best. Not that that is a bad thing. But what is bad is that I get horribly depressed when Im not the best. I constantly compere myself to the best and feel like utter shit.
This concerns everypart of my life not only lifting(acctualy lifting is the area in life where Im the least concerned about beeing the best, all I care about there is improving myself not compete with others).
Its like if Im gonna date a girl and she sometimes tells me of some great guy she meet in the past I imidietly feel like shit cause I deep down think I will never compere to that guy.
If I talk to some chick about sex and she tells me about some wonderfull sexual experience she has had with some sex machine I feel horribly bad cause It feels like Il never be that good.
If I want to date someone and I know they have dated a guy before me that was in awsome physical shape I feel realy bad about myself.
This is realy draining me horribly, totaly. I get obsessed when I hear someone is better then me. Today for example I was talking to a 41 year old fuck buddy about sex and she told me about this guy that have total control on when he want to ejaculate. That made me feel realy bad cause I dont have much sexual experience yet and havent learned that trick. Now Il ALWAYS think about that in the back of my head when Im nailing her. It doesnt matter that she has said to me Im one of the best shes ever been with. Because if I know that Im less then the best in just ONE WAY thats all I obsess about. Usualy the only way for me to get rid of the obsessions is to become the best or one of the best. But I cant possibly become the best in all ways so how the fuck do I get rid of this urge to compere myself to others that are better then me?
I have a history of sever depressions(suicide attempts), social anxiety(havent gotten rid if it yet), phone phobia, warped sense of self worth and so on so this particular issue I dont want to deal with right now I cant get any help from any shrink either. If I dont dish out 70bucks/hour and that I cant afford in my wildest dreams.
This concerns everypart of my life not only lifting(acctualy lifting is the area in life where Im the least concerned about beeing the best, all I care about there is improving myself not compete with others).
Its like if Im gonna date a girl and she sometimes tells me of some great guy she meet in the past I imidietly feel like shit cause I deep down think I will never compere to that guy.
If I talk to some chick about sex and she tells me about some wonderfull sexual experience she has had with some sex machine I feel horribly bad cause It feels like Il never be that good.
If I want to date someone and I know they have dated a guy before me that was in awsome physical shape I feel realy bad about myself.
This is realy draining me horribly, totaly. I get obsessed when I hear someone is better then me. Today for example I was talking to a 41 year old fuck buddy about sex and she told me about this guy that have total control on when he want to ejaculate. That made me feel realy bad cause I dont have much sexual experience yet and havent learned that trick. Now Il ALWAYS think about that in the back of my head when Im nailing her. It doesnt matter that she has said to me Im one of the best shes ever been with. Because if I know that Im less then the best in just ONE WAY thats all I obsess about. Usualy the only way for me to get rid of the obsessions is to become the best or one of the best. But I cant possibly become the best in all ways so how the fuck do I get rid of this urge to compere myself to others that are better then me?
I have a history of sever depressions(suicide attempts), social anxiety(havent gotten rid if it yet), phone phobia, warped sense of self worth and so on so this particular issue I dont want to deal with right now I cant get any help from any shrink either. If I dont dish out 70bucks/hour and that I cant afford in my wildest dreams.