I don't know what to do...

[MrCyp]

Just a sign its over bro. You will never get it out of your head. Plus, women dont have nearly the urges men do, so even 30sec was far too much, esp if you guys were getting alone.

 

[sadie]

I am sorry, I don't feel the compassion for this girl. She cheated period! 30 seconds to me is a joke. Either she is lieing to you or he is lousy at screwing! I don't know too many people that stop in the heat of things.

it is actually possible.. i have done it myself actually.. not because i was cheating but something in my head said.. no not good just stop... yes the guy gets pissed etc but its either meant to happen or not.. i am actually inclined to believe she stopped him (although i doubt she had a stop watch set at 30 sec) if she is taking it this hard i could easily see her having a.. OMFG what am i doing! moment and make it stop

 

[bloodshed]

it is actually possible.. i have done it myself actually.. not because i was cheating but something in my head said.. no not good just stop... yes the guy gets pissed etc but its either meant to happen or not.. i am actually inclined to believe she stopped him (although i doubt she had a stop watch set at 30 sec) if she is taking it this hard i could easily see her having a.. OMFG what am i doing! moment and make it stop

it seems as if thats what happened. im glad you chimed in because i would like to get a female perspective on this. do you agree with the others that the best bet is ending it?

 

[triathloncoach]

Infidelity - Schmelity

I'd be much more freaked out over the cutting thing. I've been around the block a few times. You are taking on too much with someone who is willing to self multilate. She probably cheated because she was drunk, alone and you guys aren't married. Cutting herself is a whole lot scarier.

Don't let her self mutilation stroke your ego. She did it because she has real troubles, probably not because you are so special. (Although I bet you are very special )

 

[bloodshed]

I'd be much more freaked out over the cutting thing. I've been around the block a few times. You are taking on too much with someone who is willing to self multilate. She probably cheated because she was drunk, alone and you guys aren't married. Cutting herself is a whole lot scarier.

Don't let her self mutilation stroke your ego. She did it because she has real troubles, probably not because you are so special. (Although I bet you are very special )

i know she wasnt drunk. she is against drinking. she does have her issued, and it was an overwhelming amount of issues, between this and other things that caused it. special...bah. but yeah the cutting thing pissed me off and bothered me the most.

 

[FeverishFlux]

i know she wasnt drunk. she is against drinking.

She's against drinking but is ok with fucking other doods, you give her a pass on the NOT YOUR cock in her vagina, but not booze? Bro yer seriously fuct here man. LOSE HER YESTERDAY, there are so many awesome girls out there for you bro. Lose her and never look back.
I will save the word tool, but bro you need to man up here.

 

[bloodshed]

i know she wasnt drunk. she is against drinking.

She's against drinking but is ok with fucking other doods, you give her a pass on the NOT YOUR cock in her vagina, but not booze? Bro yer seriously fuct here man. LOSE HER YESTERDAY, there are so many awesome girls out there for you bro. Lose her and never look back.
I will save the word tool, but bro you need to man up here.

right now thats the plan. but as i said, i find it to be very low to do it over the phone so im going to end it friday when i see her. i wont stoop as low as she did.

 

[bloodshed]

ive really got to thank all of you guys. this IS by far the best board on the net. im really going to make an attempt to contribute more to the board(though its hard as im nowhere near as knowledgeable and experienced as some of the others on this board).