Is there a Theripist on here

[nocheatin]

i just feel like shit. Nothings going right. I've realized how much i loved my gf now that i dont have her. Ive pretty much lost all friends and gf. It sucks realizing how bad ive hurt her and never really knowing i was... I love bodybuilding, so i dont go out which is what all my friends do.. Puff lost pretty much all contact with em. Im 23 and my life consists of work, gym, and lurking on this very site trying to learn as much as possible... I feel my life should be alot more fun... Some helpful advice would be nice or a pm

 

[pesty4077]

i just feel like shit. Nothings going right. I've realized how much i loved my gf now that i dont have her. Ive pretty much lost all friends and gf. It sucks realizing how bad ive hurt her and never really knowing i was... I love bodybuilding, so i dont go out which is what all my friends do.. Puff lost pretty much all contact with em. Im 23 and my life consists of work, gym, and lurking on this very site trying to learn as much as possible... I feel my life should be alot more fun... Some helpful advice would be nice or a pm

That is your problem. You haven't found the right balance in your life. At 23 I was going out, romancing and hanging out with friends. BB shouldn't be the most important thing in your life, other things should be. You can do BB and other things, but learn to prioritize.

 

[scrapper13]

hey man sounds like you were pretty dependent on your girlfriend. i know how that feels i was the same way in college i was a college athlete and devoted all my time to training. instead of going out i would stay home with my girl. when we broke up i felt like i had nothing. it's gonna suck but before you can be happy in a relationship, you have to be completely happy with yourself. sometimes guys like us tend to use a relationship as a distraction from the boring and hard life we choose. i'm a little older now and learned my lesson but you are only 23 and like pesty said you should be out enjoying your youth. take some time to reconnect with your friends and find a good balance of training and activities other than training that you enjoy. good luck

 

[nocheatin]

Thanks for the support guys, i really need it. I just feel like i cant trust anyone so i dont open up. I know i need to talk to someone but i dont want to be the topic of everyones convo, i live in a small town. im very thankful for this site. i had such a good girl, beatiful, and so nice.

 

[scrapper13]

you wont like hearing this now but you will realize it later on...there are so many good looking nice girls out there so try not to get stuck on one. ive blown it with so many girls and then looked back and was like how could i have been so dumb she was perfect. its just part of the learning process bro. there are 6 billion people on this planet...so if there is only one person out there for everyone then the odds of ever meeting that one person are almost zero. im not a believer in that there is only one person for you. instead i think there are a number of girls you will meet throughout your life that are capable of making you happy.

 

[nocheatin]

thanks man, today was really bad i broke down in wal mart and started crying ... im such an asshole, mean, piece of shit. shes really making me realize it. i feel like such a bitch, ive been very upset about this

 

[nocheatin]

does anyone know if there a part 2, to over coming lonelyness

 

[ELIMINATOR]

thanks man, today was really bad i broke down in wal mart and started crying ... im such an asshole, mean, piece of shit. shes really making me realize it. i feel like such a bitch, ive been very upset about this

I'm going through basically the same thing, and I have no drive to workout. My ex gf, who I lived with for 2 yrs, and I thought I was going to marry this Oct. said that I'm too this and too that. I admit that I can be a prick sometimes, but remember it takes to argue. She just moved out yesterday and her Mom and Sister just got into town, so she's surrounded by an amazing family, while I'm alone in our old place with half my house missing. It feels so lonely and not anything like the home it used to be. However, I've been here before, and I can say for sure things get better in time. Try and do things you like to do and don't sit around. I have been praying, going to church and talking with friends I haven't really talked to in yrs. It's tough, though, and I can feel your pain. Just know I'm going through the same stuff. Reach out to the lord if your religious or if your not this might be a good time to see what its all about.

 

[jackedandtanned]

im 37 and finally found a great girl after years of losing gf's...she has 4 kids and her body looks like a 23 yr old w/ no kids...i still act like an asshole but im getting much better so at 37 im still learning....this is the girl for me and im going to do everything not to lose her. Keep your head up and go out have fun and live your life...your only 23 bro....god bless...what i would do to be 23 again...lol

 

[ELIMINATOR]

im 37 and finally found a great girl after years of losing gf's...she has 4 kids and her body looks like a 23 yr old w/ no kids...i still act like an asshole but im getting much better so at 37 im still learning....this is the girl for me and im going to do everything not to lose her. Keep your head up and go out have fun and live your life...your only 23 bro....god bless...what i would do to be 23 again...lol

Did all or most of your past relationships end because the girl said you were a jerk?

So far, I have only really had two committed long term relationships and both the women said that I was a jerk. In both times, I said very hurtful things that pushed both of them away. Perhaps, I have a problem? I'm not really sure, but I really do not want the next relationship I have to end the same way.

 

[BOOMSHAKER]

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[jackedandtanned]

Did all or most of your past relationships end because the girl said you were a jerk?

So far, I have only really had two committed long term relationships and both the women said that I was a jerk. In both times, I said very hurtful things that pushed both of them away. Perhaps, I have a problem? I'm not really sure, but I really do not want the next relationship I have to end the same way.

yes yes and yes...lol
to much test maybe....but i was alot younger so my temper is not nearly as bad as it once was...iv learned to think before i act or open my big mouth.

 

[DrivingForward]

Hey man!

Theres something to be said for a 23 year old who is busy studying and taking care of himself.

I can tell ya that 4 years ago, I had a lot of friends who were 23-25 and they partied all the time... all shacked up with girlfriends or got married... etc.

Well... They all got fat. Theyre married. They've made little progress in their education and/or personal development.

Its a difficult age for someone who is more mature, because most of your peers are maturing slower than their predecessors a couple of decades ago.

I suggest finding a group that shares something in common with you... A group in the same educational program, a couple of guys to hit the gym with, a cigar shop that has a weekly get-together in the evening.. etc

Be sure to make room for social time-- but DON'T let it infringe on your personal development! You'll find that you're in another league than most of your peers, a few years down the road.

 

[Avz]

I'm really curious to hear what you did that was SO bad to lose this girl? Get some eca, st.johns wort and benadryl. Eca to keep u going during the day, wort to get rid of that depression and benadryl to calm you down before bed. Keep it up for a couple of weeks and u'll be fine very soon.
Btw.. Y not talk to others about this? Ur not bothering them and ur just as important as they are.. Just remeber to get over her it's better to focuse on her negative side. Remeber all the stupid shit she did.. She's not an angle.. No one is. I'm sure your a good guy and deserve good treatmen too.. No matter what you did. So your attitude should be "if she doesn't want me.. Fuck her!". When ur mind gets to this state you'll be ok. Just work towards that mindset.
Meeting A LOT of new girls helps!

 

[DrivingForward]

It really doesn't matter what he "did" to lose this girl...

Shes gone-- don't let her come back, even if she begs.

Move forward, find someone new, and you'll be much happier. Break-up baggage draws hurt feelings into the future for a long time (sometimes years). Rather than be in a relationship that is associated with bitter feelings, FIND A NEW GIRL!