Jealously/Trust issues?

[jerseystepup]

Anyone here have them with women? More specifically for no apparent reason? Ive been dating a grl exclusively for about a month now... Im 30 and she's 23... Really into me it seems like, we talk on and off all day, and usually see each other almost everyday, even if just to grab a coffee and say hi.. She does like to go out a lot with her friends... whether its clubs, techno shows/festivals, things like that... Just not my thing, so i don't partake... She's never given me a reason to doubt her.. but i just do.. WTF, how do i get over this? anyone have issues like this for no reason?

 

[yatyas314]

shes 23 ..Thats plenty of reason ..Your 30 ...Usually thats called a slampiece

 

[osiris]

Anyone here have them with women? More specifically for no apparent reason? Ive been dating a grl exclusively for about a month now... Im 30 and she's 23... Really into me it seems like, we talk on and off all day, and usually see each other almost everyday, even if just to grab a coffee and say hi.. She does like to go out a lot with her friends... whether its clubs, techno shows/festivals, things like that... Just not my thing, so i don't partake... She's never given me a reason to doubt her.. but i just do.. WTF, how do i get over this? anyone have issues like this for no reason?

My girlfriend is 10 Years younger and when we were together the first time, I definitely had these issues. I left her for my ex who was older but after we split up and my gf completely dropped the guy she was dating the afternoon I reached out, I trust her completely.

Not sure how you can get past them.

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[Rory33]

Its not too hard. Just psychology. Mines 11 years younger then me also.

Jersey ygm bro

 

[EzekielAnon]

Sounds like you may just have jeliousy / trust issues in you and you may need to get help to over come those bro.

But sound like another issue is that she likes to party & go out. Do things a 23 year old would like to do and that's not your thing. Maybe you should just try to go out & party with her to see how she conducts herself and if you see no red flags it may just be you bro.

 

[BigChef]

Relationship is bout trust which is very important. If there is no trust then the relationship becomes an issue. My girl loves to go out and I trusted her completely and she loves me more for it. I also do go out with her aswell.
You cant have a relationship where there is no trust, it just fall apart. Maybe you both should sit down and communicate and work out how you both should spend time together without friends and its good to go out and socialise with friends too...

 

[Aliendogstar]

I only have these feelings with certain kind of women. If I'm like 4th or 5th on their priority list....I'm going to feel this way. If I'm more into her than she is into me...I'm going to feel this way. You guys may be at different places in life. There are some younger girls out there with older souls that aren't into the party lifestyle. Do you feel like she's out of your league? I'm not saying she is...but do you feel that way. If that's the case, you might be feeling insecure. If none of the above....perhaps it's just a vibe. Some people give off a vibe that they can't be trusted.

 

[Serotonin]

If I'm like 4th or 5th on their priority list....I'm going to feel this way.

That's how I feel too. Nonetheless I think I still have these issues regardless.

If you don't want to mess up the relationship don't let her know you feel this way.

 

[triathloncoach]

I never dated anyone who liked to go clubbing. It wasn't a trust issue, I'm so wonderful if a woman even dreamed of cheating on me she would immediately wake herself up and apologize. (stolen and twisted a bit from Spike Lee)

It was a common interests thing. Dancing, loud music, late nights? That was never me, and I stuck with women who shared the same interest.

Although I'm loving yahyas scientific name - "slampiece". I can't wait to call my wife my personal slampiece tonight after work. That's romance.

 

[tenny]

my experince is.....

my gut is usally ALWAYS right

 

[BillHilton]

I will say this Jersey. Bear in mind I am 49. My wife is 48. We are both previously divorced and we have 6 kids between us.

We do almost everything together. We go to the gym together, we fish together, she watches me ref more often than not. We go out on the town together when we do. Its not that we can't stand to be apart. Its that we enjoy each other's company (usually) and it is just assumed that we act as a unit. When I travel, I work out on my own. When she has a wedding shower to attend I might fish with one of the biys without her. I do avoid going to her mother's though, lol.

But I cannot imagine being in a committed relationship that would not be like what I described. If that is something that makes sense or seems like the way that you would want it to be, then I say you should consider moving on. The party lifestyle is not something that you want to partake in, and if you apply pressure to her to cut it back, that will only lead to resentment.

Count it as a nice time and be thankful for it, but just recognize that as close as it may be, it just isn't the big one.

 

[WayBigger]

I will be 29 in August, There is no way I could date a 23 year old around my part of town Bro.. I did my partying when I was in my early 20s, and I was never serious about anything (except for lifting weights). She probably sees you as her trophy, to brag about or to even use to buy her things? But at that age, she is more than likely to jump to the "next best thing" than she is to get into anything serious.. I'm not trying to be negative, just my experiences tell me that it doesn't sound like its a healthy relationship.. You have to ask your self "what do you'll have in common,outside of the bedroom" .

As mentioned, by the other guys. As for the going out and partying? Seriously at age 30, do we have to tell you how bad of idea that is? Been there, done that, lucky to have lived through it.. No way, would I ever go back to having any part of that lifestyle again.

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[AlphaMaleDawg]

My girlfriend is 10 Years younger and when we were together the first time, I definitely had these issues. I left her for my ex who was older but after we split up and my gf completely dropped the guy she was dating the afternoon I reached out, I trust her completely.

Not sure how you can get past them.

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your current gf is pretty hot. I approve

 

[Roxi30mg]

Girls that age are fun to pound on, but not good to seriously date. I had trust issues when I was in my lower 20's too because the broads that age were DTF. Now 31 I girls in there late 20's. Sure, they dont look as good and their vaginas aren't as lubed, but they sure know how to take care of a man.

 

[LiftAmongstGiants]

I think everyone has jealousy to an extent.. my dad told me something a long time ago.. he said once you learn that you cant control everything then you will finally be happy.. if that girl wants to cheat she will.. and you know what if she does she aint for you.. telling her not to go to the club will only make you look controlling.. if its that big of a deal just go out with her to the club get out your comfort zone. have a good time.. just learn that you arent in control and let things happen the way they are suppose to because regardless they will