JUST BROKE OFF MY ENGAGEMENT

[DiverT]

Hi everyone,
I have never started a thread and most of u don't know me except for my random remarks. Anyway guys I have as of yesterday endend my 4 year realtionship with a girl I thought I was goin to marry. It has been a downward spiral for about 6 months now and it finally got to be to much to take. It seems that in life u strive so hard to be happy and acheive personal goals, yet life seems to let u down all the time. I should be greatfull for all I have including a sucessful buisness and two wonderfull dogs, but it hurts so bad when someone u love and have supported for 4 years doesn't return the effort. I geuss what I am feeling is normal and that obviously I'm not the only one with relationship problems, but it's still hard...Due to my struggles I took some time off from lifting (power lifting), and hope to return to it soon. I would also like to say that I have a tremendous amount of respect for what u guys do, and hope I haven't offended anyone in recent months. Any advice on how to move on or insperational words would be much appreciated.

Ur brother in crime,
DiverT

 

[gtj220]

In the past I probably would have stayed home feeling sorry for my self and dwelling on the negative, it would just seem too hard to go out and deal with the world when i was so down, now I feel it's definetly way better to go out and do things that have historically made you happy, be selfish for a little while, and hitting the gym and being with your buds is always cool. God luck, last I heard there are more women than men in the world!!!

 

[jchris]

Hi everyone,
I have never started a thread and most of u don't know me except for my random remarks. Anyway guys I have as of yesterday endend my 4 year realtionship with a girl I thought I was goin to marry. It has been a downward spiral for about 6 months now and it finally got to be to much to take. It seems that in life u strive so hard to be happy and acheive personal goals, yet life seems to let u down all the time. I should be greatfull for all I have including a sucessful buisness and two wonderfull dogs, but it hurts so bad when someone u love and have supported for 4 years doesn't return the effort. I geuss what I am feeling is normal and that obviously I'm not the only one with relationship problems, but it's still hard...Due to my struggles I took some time off from lifting (power lifting), and hope to return to it soon. I would also like to say that I have a tremendous amount of respect for what u guys do, and hope I haven't offended anyone in recent months. Any advice on how to move on or insperational words would be much appreciated.

Ur brother in crime,
DiverT

A long time ago someone told me this simple phrase and I followed it until I got married 2 years ago:

I'd rather be alone and happy then with someone and miserable.

Keep your head up Bro!!

JC

 

[DiverT]

Thanks

Good advice. Appreciate the support.

 

[thebrick]

Sorry to hear this Diver. What you are feeling is perfectly normal. At least you found this out before you were married. Just give yourself time to heal. You will. Don't isolate yourself. Try to stay busy doing things you enjoy. Get to the gym and push some iron. Its great therapy.

 

[hotttsauce]

Hi everyone,
I have never started a thread and most of u don't know me except for my random remarks. Anyway guys I have as of yesterday endend my 4 year realtionship with a girl I thought I was goin to marry. It has been a downward spiral for about 6 months now and it finally got to be to much to take. It seems that in life u strive so hard to be happy and acheive personal goals, yet life seems to let u down all the time. I should be greatfull for all I have including a sucessful buisness and two wonderfull dogs, but it hurts so bad when someone u love and have supported for 4 years doesn't return the effort. I geuss what I am feeling is normal and that obviously I'm not the only one with relationship problems, but it's still hard...Due to my struggles I took some time off from lifting (power lifting), and hope to return to it soon. I would also like to say that I have a tremendous amount of respect for what u guys do, and hope I haven't offended anyone in recent months. Any advice on how to move on or insperational words would be much appreciated.

Ur brother in crime,
DiverT

Well I have always heard, "if it is infected, cut it off so it doesn't spread". Easier to give advice than to take it when emotions are involved though.

So I say, hit the gym and start living again!

 

[oldfella]

Hey Diver, sorry to hear about this. Heartache sucks real bad. But as the others have said it is now time to get back to the real business at hand......YOU! Get back to lifting, I always found my salvation in the iron when I am down. She is a hard mistress, but a caring one. The iron mistress has guided me so many times I feel I owe her a debt. You are very normal for the feelings you have. You will grieve some but it will pass. It is part of healing from within. Once the pain subsides you will look at life in a different light. You will have learned from the experience and be stronger for it. There are more oppurtunites coming your way, let them come, be patient but most of all be yourself and live your life. One day she will come into your life and want to share it with you, where you go from there will be up to you. You are the master of your domain. Work on the important aspects of what make you YOU. The rest will fall into place.

 

[JustWannaBeHuge]

Well I have always heard, "if it is infected, cut it off so it doesn't spread". Easier to give advice than to take it when emotions are involved though.

So I say, hit the gym and start living again!

wow, i love that saying, i never heard that before. i'm gonna steal it lol