JUST SOMETHING TO PONDER

[PHIL HERNON]

JUST BECAUSE YOU ARE SMALL OR NOT AS MUSCULAR AS ANOTHER PERSON DOES NOT MEAN THAT YOU ARE LESS ATTRACTIVE. I FEEL THAT "BODYBUILDERS" PLACE TOO MUCH EMPHASIS ON GAINING MUSCLE TO BECOME MORE ACCEPTED OR MORE WANTED BY THE OPPOSITE SEX. BEING MORE MUSCULAR DOES NOT MEAN MORE SEXY.........IT COULD ACTUALLY MEAN MORE DISGUSTING. MY POINT IS IF YOU DO THIS SPORT FOR YOURSELF YOU ARE GOOD TO GO..........IF YOU DO IT FOR MORE SEX APPEAL YOU MAY BE MISSING THE BOAT AND NEED TO REEVALUATE YOUR "LOOK". BEAUTY IS IN THE EYE OF THE BEHOLDER........AND THERE ARE MANY DIFFERENT BEHOLDERS.

 

[Steak Helmet]

I totally agree...when I meet a new woman, and she asks me why I workout? I informe her that I do this for me, and if the woman I am dating likes it, then that is an added bonus.

 

[oldfella]

HAHAHAHAHA...................you'll touch some nerves with this one. But you are 100% on the money. I have always done this for me and no one else. Like Steak just said, if she likes this then fine, if not then I will continue to do what I do and she can find someone else to be happy with. There is one out there somewhere that will like me for me and not how much or how little muscle I have!!

 

[lilkoreangirl]

SEXY = CONFIDENCE [not arrogance]

Good call, Phil.

LKG

 

[powerrack]

Also I notice a lot of comments by bodybuilders when they see a guy shrink down to average size or fit saying things like "he looks sick",etc. It's engraved in our head we relate everything to size----success,sexy,health, although almost none of it is true in most cases.

Think about it... I agree with Phils point.

 

[Tom]

honestly

to get hung up on adding muscle to your frame to attract the opposite sex is totally misguided. you are more likely to attract gay men as most women don't like the bodybuilder look. to do this for good health and longevity is much more practical and if your like me you just like the look for yourself.

 

[mojo jojo]

Being big only gets you laid more often if it increases your confidence. If you already had confidence before you put on size your sex life really won't change that much and it might even change for the worse.

 

[FRKNHUGE]

sheeeeyat phil
u hit it right on the head, i know so many of my friends lifting to get laid, and they wonder how i get attention, never have been ripped, honestly im chubby as hell, but as was said before, confidence is it.
u should lift for you, noone else. unless u compete, fuck what other people think abt how you look. skinny, fat, athletic, whatever u may be, if ur happy, god bless you.
self confidence is the key to many things in life, not looks or size. when a person realizes this, look out, theyll lead a much more fullfilling life.
frk

 

[powerrack]

How many of you guys are in a long term relationship and are lucky enough to have a women who could care less how massive you were, or what car you drive? If you are, you are lucky, I do and it makes me feel like a million dollars, my women only cares if I keep things in check and do it to make myself happy and to keep my health up for a long future together.

 

[FRKNHUGE]

hell yea bro
my girl asks why i even lift as shes happy w me no matter what i look like, as i am w her also. i showed her pics of me at 375lb training for the worlds and she said i looked like a cartoon, but if i wanted to be that big again im sure as hell she would back me up.
im a lucky bastard, and i tell her that every day
frk

 

[TooPowerful4u]

Best thing u can wear out is confidence.

BUT

I have never gotten more attention than now in my life. Being big helps. It attracts attention. And 99% of the time when a girl says she doesnt like it is because you intimidate her and she doesnt think she can get a guy like you or that you are in better shape than her so make her self conscious. Every time iv heard a girl say i was too big i got attention from her at some point, so thats bs. I guess im not grossly big to the point where its repulsive yet haha.....but i get more attention with this size than when i shrink down and my attitude is exactly the same

 

[karlhungus]

I always get a laugh out of the line from my buddies:
“How is she with that dude, look at him, I’m 3 x’s his size…” or some variation there of

 

[meanjoebean]

Thats exactly right. I actually stopped lifting as hard as I used to because I was getting dependent on muscles, also because I was so bid I didnt even look good in any kind of shirt, casual or dress. In my experience, muscles will definitely get you random hook ups/one nighters but they're not high on a lot of girl's priority lists.

 

[massnup]

Best thing u can wear out is confidence.

BUT

I have never gotten more attention than now in my life. Being big helps. It attracts attention. And 99% of the time when a girl says she doesnt like it is because you intimidate her and she doesnt think she can get a guy like you or that you are in better shape than her so make her self conscious. Every time iv heard a girl say i was too big i got attention from her at some point, so thats bs. I guess im not grossly big to the point where its repulsive yet haha.....but i get more attention with this size than when i shrink down and my attitude is exactly the same

I AGREE!

 

[thebrick]

Well Phil, there you go… pooping on the party. Actually you are right. While there are a small percentage of women that like the super muscular build, by far the majority prefer the "athletic" build. But confidence (and LKG is dead on correct) not arrogance, will take you far, and you can't fake that either.

 

[RONJON]

for me personally bodybuilding is a henderance in this department. I think if u are looking for sex appeal by working out its the wrong idea. Every girl I have ever dated had either a problem with the time I spent at the gym..my diet..the fact that I dont drink or party. Thats why I am so jealous of you guys that have found someone who is as into the sport as you are. My current girlfriend is giving it a shot and has started dieting and training so I am very excited!!!

But bottom line is that there are FAR easier ways to get women then by just gaining muscle. Bodybuilding is about sacrifices and I do this for ME! Its just something about improving myself..having a place to release stress..and plus it keeps me outta trouble and keeps me very scheduled

RONJON

 

[MAINEVENT]

How many of you guys are in a long term relationship and are lucky enough to have a women who could care less how massive you were, or what car you drive? If you are, you are lucky, I do and it makes me feel like a million dollars, my women only cares if I keep things in check and do it to make myself happy and to keep my health up for a long future together.

My wife could care less about how big i get or what i drive, as long as i bring home a paycheck....lol. She would much rather me doing house and yard work....or just working more.

I first got into bodybuilding after a bad relationship and wanted to get attention from the opposite sex. I quickly learned that i do this for me and no one else. I can say though that when im getting ready for a show is when i get the most attention......and when your married its kind of nice to get a compliment every now and then.

 

[edge250]

i actually got into bodydbuilding because i was to damn good looking. since adding about 80lbs i now scare females away instead of being used by them as a sex toy. i feel much better now

 

[Phidias]

Most girls think we bodybuilders have short dicks and need a penis pump... can you believe it, Phil?

 

[Nssca]

A very good point Phil.