Lasting longer in bed....

medici999 · Oct 17, 2011

Are there simple ways in which to do this?

when i had a regular partner i could last 20-30mins no problem.

Had sex for first time last night in about 2months...didnt use lube either and thought my penis was being choked on it was that tight...and literally lasted a few mins.

Would you say its mentally more than anything?

Like if you mentally told yourself whilst having sex things like;

1. I can last as long as i want
2. My only aim is to please the lady...ie, dont think about your own feelings.

What about breathing...some people say if you breathe deep and slow it can help.

I've tried cialis but that doesnt help much.

Thanks

raw33man · Oct 17, 2011

do the Keagel exercises... follow these instructions

First, pee on the side of the toilet to make less noise

Second, pee for 2 seconds and then hold your pee for 7 seconds--- repeat that until you are out of piss

Breath deeply and slowly and whenever you feel like you are about to shoot babies out, flex your asshole and penis muscles, the same way that you hold your pee

BigChef · Oct 17, 2011

Get her horny first! Hold your cum and control it! Simple...Problem is, women like to explore where men like to have quickies!

medici999 · Oct 17, 2011

I can kegel and stop myself if i get too close, but then if she keeps going then ill still shoot my load.

i think a lot is mental aswel...?

jimmyjones · Oct 17, 2011

A bowl of some Tee Eich Cee 2 hours prior mixed with a few shots of Vodka does the trick

aeliop · Oct 17, 2011

medici999 said:
Are there simple ways in which to do this?

when i had a regular partner i could last 20-30mins no problem.

Had sex for first time last night in about 2months...didnt use lube either and thought my penis was being choked on it was that tight...and literally lasted a few mins.

Would you say its mentally more than anything?

Like if you mentally told yourself whilst having sex things like;

1. I can last as long as i want
2. My only aim is to please the lady...ie, dont think about your own feelings.

What about breathing...some people say if you breathe deep and slow it can help.

I've tried cialis but that doesnt help much.

Thanks

Right now you have a bit of a mental block. The more pressure you put on yourself to last for a long time the quicker you are going to come. To get over the mental block you will have to get through those first few minutes.

1. Start of slow and in control.
2. Each time the urge to climax begins stop completely and adjust position. (if you are going slow the stopping is less apparent.)
3. If you can get past the first few minutes then soon the urge will go away and then you can focus on moving off of her body signals. Then you can go for an hour, changing speeds and positions.
4. Once you are able to do this a few times then your confidence will build and you will be over the mental block.

osiris · Oct 17, 2011

aeliop said:
Right now you have a bit of a mental block. The more pressure you put on yourself to last for a long time the quicker you are going to come. To get over the mental block you will have to get through those first few minutes.

1. Start of slow and in control.
2. Each time the urge to climax begins stop completely and adjust position. (if you are going slow the stopping is less apparent.)
3. If you can get past the first few minutes then soon the urge will go away and then you can focus on moving off of her body signals. Then you can go for an hour, changing speeds and positions.
4. Once you are able to do this a few times then your confidence will build and you will be over the mental block.

great advice. Spot on as always

phatkid77 · Oct 17, 2011

Mental for sure.. But also partner compatibility... I'm always fast.. Feeeels goood

I had one girl I was with a few months ago.. My quickie was 30min and normally we were 2 effn hours!!! Now, not sure if it was my low dose deca that was delaying me (some can't get hard with deca, sooo) or just how her vag lined up when we had sex??? I was a fuckin champ..once in awhile thatd be ok...was annoyin tryin hard to orgasm

I'm with new gf and back to "normal" ...fack.. Waiting for the odd clinic to break out..haha

TurboNikko · Oct 17, 2011

Who cares? At least you're getting it up and actually able to skeet. In time you will be more comfortable if this girl becomes a girlfriend. The stage fright will go away and you'll be back to the normal 20-30 minutes. I wouldn't sweat it as much as you are. Just make sure you take care of your girl in other ways if you know what I mean. Trust me, a lot of chicks would rather have a ton of foreplay and a couple minutes of sex than you jackhammering away for half an hour.

Gandolfo · Oct 17, 2011

Drugs

Once I have been with a woman multiple times this problem diminishes. On the other hand it is worse and I have the least control with a new woman. In the past my solution has been opiates, a few Vicodin or Percocet or even Tramadrol ( all with legit scripts of course) and I was ready for the olympics of sex. Others have suggested certain anti- anxiety/depression meds. I know people swear by various exercises etc, but not to prolong the discussion I am now banking on the new PE drug Priligy. Ordered from a board sponsor it should be here today and it just so happens I've been working this new chick so that I am hopeful to take it for a test drive soon. I will report back thereafter. Until then think of baseball.

DRUGS ARE NEVER THE ANSWER. HOWEVER, THEY JUST MAY BE THE SOLUTION.

jimmyjones · Oct 17, 2011

One trick I have found with my current girl, is that if I am getting too excited, I will leave my meat inside her while I play with her clit, it gives me a chance to rest but I am still pleasuring her while I am resting, its an awesome trick

Bigballax · Oct 17, 2011

I have the opposite problem. I can go for an hour without cumming. Great for her, although she does get sore and tiired in the end. Means I end up cracking one off just to finish up and get some sleep. Very frustrating.

Gandolfo · Oct 17, 2011

Priligy / Dapoxetine

By the way has anyone had experience with this drug, I was wondering your thoughts on timing and dosing?

beans · Oct 17, 2011

Viargra does the trick for me...Was having problems of keeping it up so I got some...That problem went away a few weeks later. Now every time I have sex while using it I can easily last an hour or more. I only take 50mgs when I take it too...

bigman135 · Oct 17, 2011

what board sponsor carries priligy?

taz · Oct 17, 2011

as said above the painkiller route, if you have them legally, will make you a rockstar in the sack. i used to hammer out well over an hour. i once had a 3some that went for 2 hrs before i blew it on them both. that was the performance of a lifetime.

another thing you can do. about 2-3hrs before you are going to have sex knock one out on your own. it will diminish the huge buildup and help you go longer before needing to blow it. it can easily triple your time if not more. plus, i dont know about you but my second bust is usually stronger than my first anyway so its a win-win.

and then the final thing you can do which works almost all the time as well. the problem you have is the feeling being too much. so go get some anal-ease. it has a slight bit of lidocaine in it. rub that around the head and tip area. that will numb you up nice. you will still feel it but the feeling wont be as unbearably hard to resist.

good luck

aeliop · Oct 17, 2011

Makes me sad

I am not picking on anyone individual here but man do you hear yourselves.

For you guys to lift weights you have to take drugs. Now your telling me just to have sex you guys have to take drugs? It doesn't say much for the bodybuilding culture does it? Guys are using pain killers, viagra, and whatever else just to get it on. Kind of feeds all of the sterio types about bodybuilding and those that partake in it.

Whatever happened to sensual massages for your partner? Foreplay? Gazing into each others eyes while interlocking hands and fingers?

Makes me kind of sad as an old bodybuilder handing the keys to this next generation.

JackBurton · Oct 17, 2011

When most guys jerk off they rub one out quickly. This trains us to cum quickly. Kick back and start enjoying more than just the intro to the porn scene and you will likely start lasting longer. Oh, and cocaine helps also.

Gandolfo · Oct 17, 2011

JackBurton said:
When most guys jerk off they rub one out quickly. This trains us to cum quickly. Kick back and start enjoying more than just the intro to the porn scene and you will likely start lasting longer. Oh, and cocaine helps also.

Never thought about it but this is probably true

Gandolfo · Oct 17, 2011

aeliop said:
I am not picking on anyone individual here but man do you hear yourselves.

For you guys to lift weights you have to take drugs. Now your telling me just to have sex you guys have to take drugs? It doesn't say much for the bodybuilding culture does it? Guys are using pain killers, viagra, and whatever else just to get it on. Kind of feeds all of the sterio types about bodybuilding and those that partake in it.

Whatever happened to sensual massages for your partner? Foreplay? Gazing into each others eyes while interlocking hands and fingers?

Makes me kind of sad as an old bodybuilder handing the keys to this next generation.

I know in many ways it's pathetic but the alternative well, it is not an option. so Im going out like Peter North. (PS. Clomid is another fav, women seem to think the size of your load has something to do with how attractive they are)