Lifting with a broken heart

[J.Blaze]

You need to get another one immediately and she needs to see you with another chic. Youll feel better about yourself and the little revenge you get will be awesome.

 

[Deansreturned]

This might sound bad or come off the wrong way but I would like to say it regardless.

Every time you are letting this situation get to you, she is controlling you whether your conscious of it or not. Be the master of your own domain. It's much easier said than done, which is very understandable. Just don't let her control you, she is off doing her own thing and judging by her actions she really doesn't care to much about what you think or feel.

Change the situation around man, make her feel like shit. DON'T do this by talking shit to her friends about her, or even referring to her as a bad person. Get into her head by becoming so fucking successful in all of your endeavors that she WISHES she was never as stupid as she is. Make her be the ugly broad 40 years from now who thinks about how great her life could have been if she wouldn't have fucked up with you like she did.

Continue to go to the gym because once she gets fat and ugly 10 years from now she is going to wish she had this good looking guy who was loving her. Get that raise at work so she wishes she could be that girl who gets the expensive presents, etc.

The only way you can "get back" at her is to do shit like this bro, talking bad about her in public is going to make you look childish. Get back at her by being so successful yourself. Don't let her control you, your better than her, remember she is the loser bro not you, you are the stand up guy. Go to the gym tonight, do amazing at work or school. Go and talk to that hot girl that you have a crush on etc. you have a good package to bring to the table bro, there's going to be other girls out there that will be better than her....don't underestimate your personal value. You can do better than her. You already the better person, now let your actions speak so loud that we can't hear what your saying. Go out there and get it done.

key points:
1) don't let her control you, be your own master
2) control her by being so successful yourself, this will lead to her envying you. On top of that you will be doing yourself a huge favor
3) NEVER underestimate your personal value, you are the good guy she is the horrible person. Let her live with that and let her live with that with even MORE pain by becoming 10x the man you already are so everyday she has to wakeup next to this ugly prick loser 20 years from now who is nothing compared to you.

Please feel free to contact me via pm to vent.

 

[Yohimbe33]

This might sound bad or come off the wrong way but I would like to say it regardless.

Every time you are letting this situation get to you, she is controlling you whether your conscious of it or not. Be the master of your own domain. It's much easier said than done, which is very understandable. Just don't let her control you, she is off doing her own thing and judging by her actions she really doesn't care to much about what you think or feel.

Change the situation around man, make her feel like shit. DON'T do this by talking shit to her friends about her, or even referring to her as a bad person. Get into her head by becoming so fucking successful in all of your endeavors that she WISHES she was never as stupid as she is. Make her be the ugly broad 40 years from now who thinks about how great her life could have been if she wouldn't have fucked up with you like she did.

Continue to go to the gym because once she gets fat and ugly 10 years from now she is going to wish she had this good looking guy who was loving her. Get that raise at work so she wishes she could be that girl who gets the expensive presents, etc.

The only way you can "get back" at her is to do shit like this bro, talking bad about her in public is going to make you look childish. Get back at her by being so successful yourself. Don't let her control you, your better than her, remember she is the loser bro not you, you are the stand up guy. Go to the gym tonight, do amazing at work or school. Go and talk to that hot girl that you have a crush on etc. you have a good package to bring to the table bro, there's going to be other girls out there that will be better than her....don't underestimate your personal value. You can do better than her. You already the better person, now let your actions speak so loud that we can't hear what your saying. Go out there and get it done.

key points:
1) don't let her control you, be your own master
2) control her by being so successful yourself, this will lead to her envying you. On top of that you will be doing yourself a huge favor
3) NEVER underestimate your personal value, you are the good guy she is the horrible person. Let her live with that and let her live with that with even MORE pain by becoming 10x the man you already are so everyday she has to wakeup next to this ugly prick loser 20 years from now who is nothing compared to you.

Please feel free to contact me via pm to vent.

Bump this-playing games on her account belittles yourself and lets her know how she has affected you and she has power over you. And did it make you feel any better?
Ignore her completely, get a rebound chick and be happy-whether you are or not, pretend. It will rub off on everyone and yourself eventually.

 

[Noir]

bros, im so fucked up right now. i wanna break down walls and sob like a fuckin baby all at the same time. and yeah, i figured acting out was just gonna get me arrested. so i wrote a message to her friend using her account,sayin shit about her. and she calls me VINDICTIVE. well, i fuckin wonder why!!! she doesnt think she did anything wrong!!
plus, im kinda a sensitive soul, so things get to me moreso than others. and its the first time i ever hadda deal with a situation like this. so natty, im emotionally completely outa control. try to sleep when u know he''s fuckin her at that very moment. plus! SHE LIVES RIGHT DOWN THE ROAD FROM ME!. I KNOW WHEN HE'S THERE!!

so much fucking pain from a stupid bitch
look what they did to us, they don't deserve even 1g of us
listen to Deansreturned I like his point
gl to you bro, keep your head up

 

[Marine0811]

Hang in there bro, my x cheated on me. Hold your head up. And if you have to cry do it in private, dont give the bitch the satisfaction. Take your agression out on the iron.

Will keep you in my prayers mate

 

[Phidias]

bros, im so fucked up right now. i wanna break down walls and sob like a fuckin baby all at the same time. and yeah, i figured acting out was just gonna get me arrested. so i wrote a message to her friend using her account,sayin shit about her. and she calls me VINDICTIVE. well, i fuckin wonder why!!! she doesnt think she did anything wrong!!
plus, im kinda a sensitive soul, so things get to me moreso than others. and its the first time i ever hadda deal with a situation like this. so natty, im emotionally completely outa control. try to sleep when u know he''s fuckin her at that very moment. plus! SHE LIVES RIGHT DOWN THE ROAD FROM ME!. I KNOW WHEN HE'S THERE!!

Easier said than done but bro... F O R G E T her asap... and avoid her at all costs!!! No messages, no contacts, no nothing... end up that shit right now!

 

[hawkmoon]

Man, I just ended a fifteen year relationship and 14 year marriage - and I have a child who is no longer in my home. I loved and needed this woman more than the blood in my veins and the air in my lungs, but sometimes all the effort in the world from your own side cannot fix issues on the other.

I have to see this manipulative, evil soul-sucker every weekend so I can get my daughter...all I want to do is punch her in the face but I am sweet as honey for my daughter's sake.

Trust me - you can move on.
You must move on.
You will find someone better.

 

[napaulm]

thanks for the input, all. deans is right. i cant think of the present. i know my future after her will be blue skies and sun. hers, on the other hand will be dark clouds. cuz of her kid, and her wanting abusive assholes who wont do a thing for her. i wrote her that, and she left a voice mail, crying about it. cuz she knows im right. and that is what makes me feel better when i think of it.

 

[napaulm]

so i had two women this week. conversation goe fine. but when it gets physical, no contest. don't smell,feel,kiss,etc. the same. she was so good. so doin women just to do them doesnt work for me. im just gonna have to deal with it.

 

[jef]

that happened to me a few years ago and it wasn't the first time. Hurt so darn bad. Love is the strongest emotion in life I think. It's going to take time but I gotta say man after a couple of weeks your workouts will come back and when it last happened to me right after memorial weekend I went on to have the best damn 6 months of my entire life and had so much damn fun. I used the gym as an excuse to look good and when it came time to hit the lake; I did just that in unintentional style with a buddy of mine and a regularity of 5-10 girls to us on the boat every damn weekend! I know you don't want to think about girls at this point and if you keep that mind state and don't act interested in the girls they will come like a giant flawk and you don't have to hook up with any of them but I tell you what.......it sure as hell does help! Since then I've found the best gal yet! Hang in there man. It took me months was how bad I got hurt but seriously.......turned out so fuqn fun

My advice man up, eat right, hit the gym, meet some new people (especially females), go out with them and let them know you were in a bad break up that broke your heart and that you're not interested in hooking up and just want to hang out, if you end up liking something......don't give in and let her know......make them all want you until you can pick! Oh and partying your ass off might help but try and stay healthy. Summer is upon you and you better show up looking good and feeling good about yourself. Who knows....this could be your best summer yet!

 

[Donzi]

Bang her best friend, that will fix her little red wagon.

did it, seemed like a great idea. Felt great. in the long run it dosent fix things but I personally find the more meaningless sex i have the more i really dont care about her.

 

[lucian]

this situation is as old as time itself. its happened to all of us. me....a year ago. it hurts bro, but you gotta think, in a year from now, you will look back and see things different.dont look @ pics of her, keep busy,and dont drink or do drugs...it only makes it worse and you gotta face it sooner or later.

you have to go through the whole grieving process. one step at a time. take some time, and dont jump back into a relationship. but above all else...dont try and reconcile with her. its something that can not be undone. even if you want to, it will be almost impossible to trust her again.

hope you feel better soon bro,

lucian

 

[lucian]

Easier said than done but bro... F O R G E T her asap... and avoid her at all costs!!! No messages, no contacts, no nothing... end up that shit right now!

Amen! its not that you cant talk to her ever again...but for at least about 6 months....stay away! clean break. it sucks, but its what you really gotta do!

 

[napaulm]

i know its only been like 2 weeks since i quit her. still, ive been with 3 women now, and its all good til we're in bed. then, all i think of is how id rather be with the betrayer. how long, godam, b4 that goes away, i wonder. fallin in love with that head case has turned me into a head case!

 

[scrapper13]

hey bro im going through a break up too with a girl who i wanted to spend the rest of my life with...she obviously didn't feel the same way. im around your age(25) and everyone is gonna tell you that you are too young to worry about this, but the fact is when you love somebody it doesn't matter your age it still hurts the same. good luck bro and if you ever need any advice shoot me a pm.

 

[pakololo]

This might sound bad or come off the wrong way but I would like to say it regardless.

Every time you are letting this situation get to you, she is controlling you whether your conscious of it or not. Be the master of your own domain. It's much easier said than done, which is very understandable. Just don't let her control you, she is off doing her own thing and judging by her actions she really doesn't care to much about what you think or feel.

Change the situation around man, make her feel like shit. DON'T do this by talking shit to her friends about her, or even referring to her as a bad person. Get into her head by becoming so fucking successful in all of your endeavors that she WISHES she was never as stupid as she is. Make her be the ugly broad 40 years from now who thinks about how great her life could have been if she wouldn't have fucked up with you like she did.

Continue to go to the gym because once she gets fat and ugly 10 years from now she is going to wish she had this good looking guy who was loving her. Get that raise at work so she wishes she could be that girl who gets the expensive presents, etc.

The only way you can "get back" at her is to do shit like this bro, talking bad about her in public is going to make you look childish. Get back at her by being so successful yourself. Don't let her control you, your better than her, remember she is the loser bro not you, you are the stand up guy. Go to the gym tonight, do amazing at work or school. Go and talk to that hot girl that you have a crush on etc. you have a good package to bring to the table bro, there's going to be other girls out there that will be better than her....don't underestimate your personal value. You can do better than her. You already the better person, now let your actions speak so loud that we can't hear what your saying. Go out there and get it done.

key points:
1) don't let her control you, be your own master
2) control her by being so successful yourself, this will lead to her envying you. On top of that you will be doing yourself a huge favor
3) NEVER underestimate your personal value, you are the good guy she is the horrible person. Let her live with that and let her live with that with even MORE pain by becoming 10x the man you already are so everyday she has to wakeup next to this ugly prick loser 20 years from now who is nothing compared to you.

Please feel free to contact me via pm to vent.

Very well said. You should take this advice. I wish someone had told me this when i was heartbroken.

 

[Kobayashi7777]

So much great insight on this sight into all areas of life......I'm glad to be a member.
Dude, Loving a woman is kind of like a drug. "Detoxing" from her can be excruciating at first. But it is only temporary as long as you don't keep feeding the monster. Don't engage with her. Don't look at pics of her, and don't give yourself permission to entertain and relive all the sentiment in your head. Your mind will only want to remember the good parts, anyway. That just pulls you back into the insanity.You have overwhelming evidence that this chick is no good for you. Would you keep inviting a thief into your house who steals from you every time you have him over? Of course not.
It hurts, man. Your pain feels real but it it is really your attachment to what you perceived was true between you, and not what clearly was, that is causing it. Someone mentioned it earlier, It is actually an illusion. More specifically, a DE-lusion. I know you think she was your soul mate, but just look at the black and white on this one. When I went through it, one of my best friends said to me, "If it's almost right, it ain't right."
I'm not being a smart ass. I've been through it. We all have. All men do, unless they are sociopaths, which is pretty rare. I just want you to know that you can break out of this whenever you are ready; when you are tired enough of hurting and ready to do something different.
In the end, it is on you. You have to be the one to make a real decision to get over it and be willing to take the steps necessary to get there and then do the work. Just like bodybuilding. Just like life. Just like anything.
Getting my heart wrecked like that felt like it was going to kill me, but it led to better training, better diet, better focus, better living once I chose to refuse to go out like that.
Be of good cheer, it is not the end of the world. Just the end of a relationship. If you take care of you and do the next thing, you will look back and laugh. I do. When I see my ex (we have mutual friends) I catch her checking me out and I know I did the right thing.
You can't see it now, but you are in an amazing place; standing at the crossroads to greatness. Go left, and go down in flames, a jilted slob. Go right, and become greater than you ever imagined.
Now get up and do it. And you CAN do it.

 

[Yohimbe33]

What happened to Naupalm?

 

[Mikee]

ah thats terrible dude... I know just how you feel. I can never lift when I have girl problems... its terribly impossible to focus.

 

[Hellbent]

It is crazy how emotions can make you feel physicaly pain. I feel that lump in my throat, and that imaginary knife in my back like it was real.

One thing I learned with age and experience though is you have to forget them. Like others have said, when you obsess about her she is controling you still even though she isn't even trying. You can make yourself go crazy thinking of shit and her.

Just don't do anything stupid. And by moving on and just forgeting about her will break the chains of emotional control she has over you now. I really want to stress the part of not doing anything stupid, cops will always side with the chic - especially if she is hot. No joke. Just move on, with time it will get better.