I think it comes down to:
1- Confidence, if you are not confident with yourself for whatever reason, then it will show whether you are big or not. You either have it naturally or you don't.
Most who use AAS for confidence, never really get confident, and you can tell right away in social situations, they don't know how to "be".
So the question is, why are some males confident and some not?
Many reasons
1: looks count, if you are a good looking male, it doesn't matter if you are big or normal size, you will get pussy.
2: Money, to some extent it will help. If you are ugly and have money, you will be able to "buy" pussy, but doesn't necessarily mean that they are attracted to you, they just want your money.
Now, if you have money and "average" looking, you will get slightly more pussy, but your money is the reason.
If you have money and good looking, then all the pussy is yours.
3: Alpha Males, you can tell who these guys are, you can feel their presence and women do. Those guys naturally will attract women.
Alpha males are not necesserily big.
Women don't give a shit about being HUGE, ya, having a nice physique is a plus, but being Huge, is not. Women love muscles and leanness to a
n extent, but once you are "huge", then forget it.
Also, let's not forget about the size of your cock.
If you have a big cock, it will give you tons of confidence, however, if you have a big cock and you are ugly, then forget it.
If you have a good size cock, loaded, and good looking then my friend you hit the jack pot of pussy.
if you are big, with small balls and small or average size cock, this will fuck your confidence right up, because you might attract a hottie, but when the clothes are off and you cock looks much smaller than it really is because of your size and you have no balls hanging whatsoever, then all your muscles count for shit.
so finally, you either have it with women naturally or you don't.
Being huge counts for shit.