My live in GF is dumping me because I have no sex drive

[Soulstealer]

I have been working like a dog and havent had time or money to get blood work, just trying to play with my levels without success. She tells me this isnt natural and that she cant be with my because of this. She uses steroids too and says that I fucked myself up and she shouldnt have to deal with this. :banghead: its really fucking my head up.

 

[stealth1245]

If she really cared mate, she'd stick it out and help get you through it..

In a relationship, respect, love, support and understanding are a must..

If she can't give you all that, sex means nothing anyway..

Best to move on, and let her go..

 

[jotro1]

Stealth hit the nail on the head. In my opinion it's best to move on and find someone who truly cares and loves you for you... Flaws and all. What you're experiencing can be worked on with positive results. It may take time and if she isn't willing to be there why would you want her??

 

[Buckeye Fan]

Sorry bro. I'm the opposite my girl only has sex with me every 4-6 weeks.

 

[Soulstealer]

Stealth hit the nail on the head. In my opinion it's best to move on and find someone who truly cares and loves you for you... Flaws and all. What you're experiencing can be worked on with positive results. It may take time and if she isn't willing to be there why would you want her??

Thank you both, thats what I have been telling myself these past few hours, I took care of this girl in everyway I could. I CANNOT fuck someone I dont care about I have found this out the hard way. She ONLY CARES ABOUT PEOPLE SHE FUCKS. Thats what she told me indirectly... She said and I quote "I cant feel close to you because we arent having sex, I feel anger an animosity".

Thank you guys. I really needed some reassurement. I have had such a hard time fucking chicks I didnt feel close to (no erections or anything at all) but I would fuck someone I cared about 10x's a day (literally) which makes me think she is emotionally unavailable.

 

[stealth1245]

Thank you both, thats what I have been telling myself these past few hours, I took care of this girl in everyway I could. I CANNOT fuck someone I dont care about I have found this out the hard way. She ONLY CARES ABOUT PEOPLE SHE FUCKS. Thats what she told me indirectly... She said and I quote "I cant feel close to you because we arent having sex, I feel anger an animosity".

Thank you guys. I really needed some reassurement. I have had such a hard time fucking chicks I didnt feel close to (no erections or anything at all) but I would fuck someone I cared about 10x's a day (literally) which makes me think she is emotionally unavailable.

No need for shame or sadness mate... she's obviously not the one for you..

Let her be.. and wish her all the best.. if that's what makes her happy, so be it..

To be fair to yourself.. you deserve better..

As for the reasons why and how you aren't having sex.. just get your bloods checked, then you can and slowly determine and repair the issue from there..

Don't stress..

Remove the emotion, keep it clear and clinical..

 

[moparfreak360]

Make her think it was bc shes not attractive anymore......gotta play the mind games lol

 

[TrenSweater]

What's most fucked up is she uses too , so she knows the game , my girl also uses and when my libido is out of control she takes care of me even if she bought in the mood and when my estro is off and I'm half hard she understands , your girl should be worried about you above trying to help you, she should understand , drop that chick bro , quick

 

[Goobs]

So if you get blood work, what value tells you what needs to be done?

 

[OuchThatHurts]

Thank you both, thats what I have been telling myself these past few hours, I took care of this girl in everyway I could. I CANNOT fuck someone I dont care about I have found this out the hard way. She ONLY CARES ABOUT PEOPLE SHE FUCKS. Thats what she told me indirectly... She said and I quote "I cant feel close to you because we arent having sex, I feel anger an animosity".

Thank you guys. I really needed some reassurement. I have had such a hard time fucking chicks I didnt feel close to (no erections or anything at all) but I would fuck someone I cared about 10x's a day (literally) which makes me think she is emotionally unavailable.

You can have great sex if your soldier is temporarily out of order. What these guys already said is totally legit. I just want to add, is she into toys? Oral?

The actual dick-in-vagina part of sex is on average 10-30 minutes. But add in all that other good stuff, and you got hours of fun. You don't have to answer publicly here so please don't but seriously, I know plenty of girls... well let's just say there are a lot of warming lotions and massage, vibrating, sheeese... anything you can imagine and probably some things we can't.

Just some random thoughts.

 

[OuchThatHurts]

Make her think it was bc shes not attractive anymore......gotta play the mind games lol

That's horrible! But I love it anyway!

 

[OuchThatHurts]

So if you get blood work, what value tells you what needs to be done?

Estrogen, estro-testosterone ratio, free test, prolactin, SHBG, test (overall), LH, FSH, GnRH, GH, blood pressure, blood glucose tolerance, thyroid, hematrocrit, adrenal function, certain lower back injuries/swelling, anxiety, stress level, too many to name.

They all need checked unless a initial clinical examination (verbal/physical) reveals something extremely obvious.

 

[panzerfaust]

I agree with everything said above, find someone who cares about YOU.She's in the game so she should know there are ups and downs. I was in a similar situation and when my libido was off the charts, she would say not again I'm tired.Don't waste time like I did,move on asap,I'm kicking myself for not doing so myself and my case was extreme, married 3 times divorced twice.:bangheadM me if you want to hear a crazy but very true story,listen to your brothers take off and don't look back, life is too short.Oh yeah you sound like me your looking for a "soul mate" SS not a fuck buddy.

 

[Performance Based]

I'm really sorry man and I wish you the best. Sounds a bit calloused especially if this this is a problem she has recently voiced to you.

I have to say though that if shes not willing to help you through such a small problem, especially if she knows what it is she isn't someone you want to invest a future in.

 

[Soulstealer]

I'm really sorry man and I wish you the best. Sounds a bit calloused especially if this this is a problem she has recently voiced to you.

I have to say though that if shes not willing to help you through such a small problem, especially if she knows what it is she isn't someone you want to invest a future in.

You are absolutely right, I fell for this girl kinda hard and we rushed it. Turns out she is on a dating website and has been chatting to people about breaking up with me for weeks. I hate how much I cared for this girl and feel for this girl.

 

[jotro1]

I wish you the best of luck bro. If you need anything feel free to pm me. I have had troubles with a live in girlfriend as well. I know your pain. Keep your head up and just keep telling yourself you deserve better because you do. It sounds like your morals are in check and she's not on the same page as you.

 

[gent]

If she really cared mate, she'd stick it out and help get you through it..

In a relationship, respect, love, support and understanding are a must..

If she can't give you all that, sex means nothing anyway..

Best to move on, and let her go..

this. if she really cared...

 

[Performance Based]

You are absolutely right, I fell for this girl kinda hard and we rushed it. Turns out she is on a dating website and has been chatting to people about breaking up with me for weeks. I hate how much I cared for this girl and feel for this girl.

I'm really sorry man, obviously matters of the heart are always painful. I wish you the best. Hopefully eventually we will both find women worth our time.

The online dating thing is complete bullshit, I used to do that when I was done with a girl and I can count the number of women I've hurt so badly doing that. Its cheating, no matter how you look at it.

 

[S2N]

Get some pt141 and cialis. Throw it to her 1 night good as shit then break up with her :thumbup:

 

[Gators]

Like many have said, cut your losses and move on, pray for her to be happy and well, it will help with being able to forgive her and YOU not carrying around a resentment. Emotional pain is the worst!