Need advice on my new girl...

[Designbuilt]

Advice: Ok, I met this girl on the other social network I hang out at (Fetlife.com) She's from Chicago and I complimented her by PM, I just said that she was hot... In two words... Point is, that she is attractive to me, with a lot of tattoos all over her body, she's Russian and German and a Dominatrix/Sub (Switch) She's been in a lot of adult films and print... Hardcore and soft... She also has LOTS of piercings all over her body and I mean all over... But something about her attracted me to her immediately, she has that possessed look in her eyes and has satanic tattoos, she had a terrifying pic of her dressed as a nun... Well, she pm'ed me back and have been talking to her every day... I didn't really expect her to even PM me back, because she has almost celebrity status and hangs ou...t with some German metal band, Rammstien or something like that...

She told me that she's extremely attracted to me, (in more explicit terms) the weird thing is that she seems like a bit of the jealous type, she was commenting on some of the material that I have on the site with other women, like a few of my exes or friends... I guess what attracts me to her is that she's very submissive and she told me that she knows how to treat her master and is obedient, not like other girls today...

Normally this isn't a girl I'd consider as someone who I could be in a serious relationship with, but now I'm considering it, I'm going to see her next week... I'm not sure if it's because I'm on the rebound of a recently broken off engagement, or my breakup with my ex of two years before that, or if I'm just attracted to the fact that she's said that she'd worship me and knows her place as a women... (I know that sounds politically incorrect) and I don't really think like that, but hearing her say it really turned me on... She said that even if we're just friends she wants to have sex with me and video tape it, take pics to get footage... Well this is she...

Do you think I should back off a bit... Completely run the other way, or just be friends with benefits... (I am afraid that if I do that either she'll or I'll get attached)

 

[Mota]

Meet her. Have fun. See where it takes you.

Freak or not she is just a girl, treat it like any other relationship. Your two steps ahead of yourself, talking about if it should be a serious relationship or not before you even meet her.

 

[Amazon Doll]

All slaves and subs say they know exatly what to do, then you find out they really know nothing and the time and energy it takes to train them is a lot of work. So I'm curious if she really is a good sub or not. Switches are the worst, very spoiled)

I want to hear how the "date" goes!

 

[Designbuilt]

All slaves and subs say they know exatly what to do, then you find out they really know nothing and the time and energy it takes to train them is a lot of work. So I'm curious if she really is a good sub or not. Switches are the worst, very spoiled)

I want to hear how the "date" goes!

Well, I'm not really into the whole sub/master thing... I just joined the site to post a few pics and met her by chance... I did it to break monotony and for a thrill, a little bit of fun... She is really only a sub, she did the dom part just to role play, but the things she's told me were unbelievable and I'm not really into the hitting part or being that demanding... I was more demanding in my early 20's and very controlling... But I can tell that she is extremely submissive... I've read her posts and seen how she was with her previous master... I'm going to delay our date a little bit, I'm fighting the urge with everything I've got, but I know that since I'm on a rebound (two weeks ago) I'm vulnerable, but we do keep in touch daily and I'm getting very attached to the other side of her that doesn't involve all of this as well as her hardcore porn past... She has an art degree and is currently back in school for nursing, she really does have a great head on her shoulders and reminds me of a few of the girls on Mensa, only way sexier... Thanks for the input Amazon, seems as if you know quite a bit about the subject...

We did both agree to document a lot of it though... I'm game for that... (in fact It was really my idea) So, I'll post a follow up later, in a few weeks or months or so...

 

[Cerberus777]

I've been in this scene a long time.... Jealousy and bdsm do not mix....have fun, but tread carfully into a relationship.... Every jealous chic I've dated had major issues and are only self focused

 

[Gaintrain]

Just have fun with her and thats that!

 

[triathloncoach]

Ummm. Makes me feel like a Puritan.

I guess you have the experience to handle this sort of situation. Sounds like more fun than swimming with sharks. I will stick with angry husbands myself.

I did check out the site. Its fascinating, but sounds like you are playing with fire. And for many, there is nothing wrong with that. Rock on. But be careful.

 

[Designbuilt]

Thanks for the input guys... I've been talking to her quite a bit lately, I'm purposely delaying our meeting... I like warrior's advice the most and that's what I keep trying to tell myself, the problem is that she keeps mentioning other things and how she's not really like she used to be, etc... I'm delaying this because of my VERY recent breakup, on the possitive note, she's really helping me keep my ex off my mind... But I don't want to see her just yet and risk us getting too attached... I tell her that maybe we should just be friends, but she then says that she definitely wants to have sex with me, then we talk and it starts getting into other shit... Which is what I don't want... I need to learn to not tell women so much about myself... I should never tell them what I do either, from now on, I'm going to tell every girl I just wants something casual with that I'm a Personal trainer or dancer, or bouncer... (Not to put pt's down, you guys are great and help many people) but when I tell them I'm an architect, they get the idea that I'm someone to show off to their fucking parents and I hate that shit... I just want to have fun and not get attached or get anyone attached to me... In fact that's why I joined this site!! I met someone on craigslist who told me about this site and I joined because I thought no way in hell, I'd get emotionally involved with anyone like this... But people are people, they all have feelings, regardless of what they do and what they like...

You don't know the half of it guys, she's into body modification, and fucking amputations!! I mean WHAT THE FUCK IS THAT? She wants me to slap her around and that sort of thing... I've seen pics of some of these fucks who cut their toes off for sexual gratification... That's too bizare for me, but I'm still going to meet her just for fun, I just need to sort my head out first... She has a hot little body and I'm very attracted to her, it's just something about her...

 

[aeliop]

You don't know the half of it guys, she's into body modification, and fucking amputations!! I mean WHAT THE FUCK IS THAT? She wants me to slap her around and that sort of thing... I've seen pics of some of these fucks who cut their toes off for sexual gratification... That's too bizare for me, but I'm still going to meet her just for fun, I just need to sort my head out first... She has a hot little body and I'm very attracted to her, it's just something about her...

You know that you and I have a lot of respect for each other and any advice you would have for me I would definately pay attention and not take lightly. That being said I would cut my losses and get out of this and stay away from her. You have a lot of positives going on in your life and you have taken some dings. You might even be a tad vulnerable at the moment but this is one wild side I don't think you need to take a walk on.

Just my opinion this is bordering on some weird out there stuff that guys like you and I should never get mixed up with.

"Don't ever swim in the toilet because you never know whats in there and when it's going to flush."

 

[ericraven2003]

You play around with a crazy bitch then don't cry when she fucks you up. AND she will. Be careful.

 

[TeknoViking]

hit it for a minute bro!

 

[King-kong]

Dude, run from this one. Every sign is there that she isnt just wild. Shes freaking wierd. Into amputations. So was Lorena Bobbit.

 

[Designbuilt]

Thanks for the input guys... Tony, I truly value your opinion and I appreciate that you take the time to give your input...

Here is the update: I've spoken with her quite a lot and it turns out that a lot of the things were misunderstood... She is actually not into the amputations, a few of her friends were... (This site is like facebook, only a lot less private) meaning you can see anyone's pics and anyone can comment on anyone else's pics... The only difference in being friends or not, is that, friends pop up on your status feeds... So it was one of her friends who had the amputated toes...

She's actually not as wild as I thought, she was in a very long monogamous relationship until the last few years... She's into piercing and does porn, but it's BDSM stuff, nothing hardcore in BDSM... She embellished a bit on her profile... But this is what I've decided to do in either event...


I'm going to meet her for lunch only, since she lives 10 minutes from my office, that'll ensure that I only see her a little while and go by how I feel from that encounter... From the sounds of it though, I've had way more wild girls than this one... But we'll see what happens, I still am very much attracted to her, she is an art school grad, model and artist, she's also a writer and volunteer at homeless shelters and children's hospital and is going back to school for nursing...

I've initiated a few fights and tried to feel her out, but she's handled all of that way better than just about any other girl, I've ever dated...

Who knows? Maybe there is a reason why I decided to pm her and why she responded and we've been getting a long so well thus far...

I am taking it slow, otherwise, I would have gone out with her already and the reason for this, is because of my recent break up along with all the stress I have at work... I know that I'm very vulnerable, I posted here because you guys are great and we almost always seem to give one another great advice... I made the stupid mistake of asking at Mensa board's forum that's similar to this (Where I have so-called friends who have known me for years)

All they did was talk shit, and give me smart ass comments... Maybe it's because they're all angry five inchers and old maids who need to get laid... So I deleted the thread... Well thanks again for the advice, I truly appreciate it...

 

[tmuscle]

She looks batshit fcking crazy bro

 

[Bionic]

Bro, even though you were attracted to her something inside you was niggling for you to hold off. Do NOT ignore it. Broken chicks are all over the web and may be more geared to what you're looking for. You haven't even met yet and you're already resorting to mind games and putting her on a pedestal. DON'T DO IT! It starts with lunch and ends with you having a moment of clarity while you're choking the life out of some stalker.

 

[Designbuilt]

Bro, even though you were attracted to her something inside you was niggling for you to hold off. Do NOT ignore it. Broken chicks are all over the web and may be more geared to what you're looking for. You haven't even met yet and you're already resorting to mind games and putting her on a pedestal. DON'T DO IT! It starts with lunch and ends with you having a moment of clarity while you're choking the life out of some stalker.

Oh believe me, I know... I could have seen her lots of times already... I'm slowly backing away, letting her down easy... I hate to just cut girls off like that, but I'm reconsidering even lunch... She's way too attached way too fast... I'd never tell her where I lived... Besides I was contacted by a few other hotties, including my ex, so she's on the side... I guess I was rebounding, and she did help me keep my mind off my ex, now I feel better talking to her and a lot less involved with any of them... I just need a break from all these bitches, maybe take a trip to colombia with my younger brother next month when he goes back, that'll be just what the doctor ordered... I mainly wanted to get some good video footage and stills from this girl with the tats and all... But as you said there a tons of girls out there and I see that... Thanks for the input everyone...

 

[triathloncoach]

I agree with your evolving plans.

Like I said, really interesting stuff. Sounds like this is your thing, and you can manage it. But you realize even condoms dont protect you from everything. (such as venereal warts, that are often asymptomatic. I have pharmaceutical marketing product experience with STDs) And if the girls on this site arent high risk, who is? Well, other than Penn State Football's coaching staff.

I'm guessing you aint match.com material.

 

[Cito33189]

Your meeting her then the next guy is meeting her then the next guy is meeting her...

Its the internet you can be anybody you want and say anything you want...

Just be careful

 

[raw33man]

Why online dating ??

I don't get this !!!!

how many attractive women do you see outside behind the computer ? why not them ?

 

[Designbuilt]

It's NOT online dating, I have no problem whatsoever finding girls, they're everywhere! Tanning place, gym, work, grocery store, facebook or right in my damn building... But I just got out three relationships in two months! I didn't really want another...

Fetlife.com is a social network like facebook, but for adults... I post pics and vids... It's super cool, because everyone can see and comment on your pics (doesn't have to be a friend) There are lots of porn stars, I was curious about it, gave me a rush to post home made adult material... This girl Kind of caught my eye, her stuff is mostly artistic, not smutty... She said that the list of fetishes, were just for her company, she's well educated and pretty intelligent... Very interested at the very least to interact with some of these people... Some of these girls are smoking hot too... It's WAY more addicting than facebook, I hardly go there anymore now... It's way faster with loading pics and videos too...

I guess, I kind of what to see if I can impress a porn star with my sexual talents... That and I want to get some good footage with her... I think it would make for a great shoot... But the problem is that she wants to go in a different direction than I do... I told her what I wanted just nsa fun and be friends... She swears she's ok with that, but if I do start dating someone to let her know because she doesn't want to be "the other woman" Then she starts with her comments on my pics of how she worships me, I'm her God here on earth, she'll do anything at all that I say and I can do anything I want to her at all... So that's where the wacko part comes in...:star-:ars