need dating advice!

bm2611 · Apr 14, 2012

So I have been dating this girl for about 2 months. She is young just turned 24 I am 31. I know she was partying a little bit cause she was single no big deal we all do especially when young or single.
For some reason it came to me to google her. I found out like 3 or 4 years ago she was on girls gone wild totally naked and still trying to find the scene maybe even making out and doing shit with another girl on the bus!!!!!!
Do i say goodbye and just leave or try to deal with and move past as hard as it is. I will forever know that she is on a video out there and on the internet. It will never go away. I am so torn because I really like her and has so many good points to her. But this makes ya think alotttttttt.
She likes to go away alot to visit friends in miami and going to vegas next month. I told her I dont think I can deal with that and if you went away I would have to come especially now in the beginning and just finding this out. She comes form money and said fine I will pay for you to come every where with me. This is only cause I am back in school and all my money goes to the house and bills.
Can you trust someone after they did something like that?

Sorry if in wrong spot on this forum thanks t all in advance for advice

Theone233 · Apr 14, 2012

Your dad probably already knows her! hahaha.. But on a more serious note thats something you have to decide. If you like her that much and think you can trust her then run with it. If you have to second guess yourself a lot with her, then it probably won't work out

Jello · Apr 14, 2012

Can't have a relationship and have trust issues, it won't work. If she has to have you tag along every time she leaves just so you know she's not going to end up on another video then eventually it's going to come to a head. Maybe you need to find someone closer to your age that you won't need to google. Not saying they won't have a past either, just be harder to find.

dgarr21 · Apr 14, 2012

Just going to lay it out there. 99% of the relationships we are in don't work out in the end (thats why we have so many). The 1% of them we find a good girl and marry her.

After you finding this out and her partying ways, chances are she is not what you would want to marry. SO just have fun with her go to Miami and Vegas and party..Just being honest with ya, it is not the end of the world. She is probably hot rich and easily talked into stuff (hence the movie clip). So you already know the answer brother to your question. Just have fun....but by no means let her go to Miami and Vegas by herself while you sit at the house. Might as well end it now then.

bm2611 · Apr 14, 2012

ughhh yeah i think i am in just denial lol I know I should just leave. its sucks actually first girl i have liked in a long time. figures just like my life something always fucked up happens. I just sometimes feel like the pot calling the kettle black cause i know how i was when i was younger and partying. There is a video of me on the internet of me running around in a giraffe head thong ( don't ask) haha. Maybe i will just have fun and get some free vacations out of it.

The dating scene is so bad this past couple of years and I am a magnet for retards. haha.

time2train · Apr 14, 2012

You've been dating this girl two months and your hurt that she did a video 3 or 4 years ago? Umm, dude, everyone has a past. If its someone your interested in, tell her you googled her name and this what came up. Let her explain it to you and you make your own decision. Jumping to conclusions without having all the info, isn't wise.

laxfan24 · Apr 14, 2012

time2train said:
You've been dating this girl two months and your hurt that she did a video 3 or 4 years ago? Umm, dude, everyone has a past. If its someone your interested in, tell her you googled her name and this what came up. Let her explain it to you and you make your own decision. Jumping to conclusions without having all the info, isn't wise.

:yeahthat:

If most women knew about my past, I wouldn't get a date. Take the time to get to know her and make an informed decision. We all do stupid shit when we are 20, I know i did. If you like her, give it a shot.

bm2611 · Apr 14, 2012

thats what i understand cause when i was younger i was crazy. damn still am occasionally. i did talk to her the other night and she was embarrassed and crying to me about it and also that she would be losing me over it so she did seem sincere about it. its just so hard to know someone your with has videos of them out there. and you know sometime in the future some asshole will notice her and say something and knowing me i would go nuts.

bm2611 · Apr 14, 2012

she did also say that since she was 19 or 20 they gave her drinks since they couldn't get their own and after 2 she was like not there so who knows if they put something in it or something.

AlphaMaleDawg · Jun 13, 2012

bm2611 said:
So I have been dating this girl for about 2 months. She is young just turned 24 I am 31. I know she was partying a little bit cause she was single no big deal we all do especially when young or single.
For some reason it came to me to google her. I found out like 3 or 4 years ago she was on girls gone wild totally naked and still trying to find the scene maybe even making out and doing shit with another girl on the bus!!!!!!
Do i say goodbye and just leave or try to deal with and move past as hard as it is. I will forever know that she is on a video out there and on the internet. It will never go away. I am so torn because I really like her and has so many good points to her. But this makes ya think alotttttttt.
She likes to go away alot to visit friends in miami and going to vegas next month. I told her I dont think I can deal with that and if you went away I would have to come especially now in the beginning and just finding this out. She comes form money and said fine I will pay for you to come every where with me. This is only cause I am back in school and all my money goes to the house and bills.
Can you trust someone after they did something like that?

Sorry if in wrong spot on this forum thanks t all in advance for advice

Honestly I would be VERY suspicious too. This post was two months ago so I am curious what happened since. A girl going to vegas and miami on a girls trip is not a fun thing to worry about. Then again, maybe she is good and faithful. No one knows but her and her friends

Roxi30mg · Jun 13, 2012

We all do crazy things when under the influence. Most hoes/girls fooled around with other women for attention when they were younger, most just weren't filmed. Just take this relationship day to day and just ride it out. The past is the past. I met a broad a few months ago too, I'm positive she was a very dirty girl, but I was a dirty boy so who cares we cant change the past. I dont care how many guys she's banged or vaginas she's licked back in the day because it doesn't matter, she has no STDs so we straight! We enjoy each others company in the present and that's all that matters. If she respects you and treats you with respect give her a chance.

KRAFTHAUS · Jun 20, 2012

It's a slippery slope with things like this - if you like her, I suppose it wouldnt hurt to give her a chance, but then again - if she is still a big partier and is going to places like Miami and Las Vegas constantly (presuming that's probably the type of "party" city where she made the video, right?), maybe it'd be best to find someone more mature and ready to settle down.

You never know though, life is about trial and error. Just protect your heart!

Don't wanna end up doing this because of her, lol:
:banghead:

cavdude · Jun 23, 2012

most ppls don't do this including myself but before you get too involved-i would suggest finding out what her agenda is or in other words what are the ~5-10 most important things in life to her?

example:
1) is into fitness--good/compatable.
2) respects for others and their property--good/compatable.
3) thinks its ok to have fun as long as knowone is hurt by it--good/compatable.
4) hopes to be gainfully employed someday and persueing an education to that end--good/compatable.
5) can't wait to be in another "Girls Gone Wild" video--errrrggghh/incompatable.

not trying to make light of your situation but you get the idea

best of luck,
cavdude

triathloncoach · Jun 23, 2012

I'm guessing you like her because she is very attractive. And she has a bad drinking problem. When you trail her like a puppy dog when she goes away (FYI - you were not invited no doubt) maybe you can video tape her and her friends and whatever guys they all hook up with?

She is a hot drunk girl. They are lots of fun. But they aren't gonna be fun with just one guy.

I think we need photos. Yes, photos please.

Barbie81 · Jun 23, 2012

bm2611 said:
ughhh yeah i think i am in just denial lol I know I should just leave. its sucks actually first girl i have liked in a long time. figures just like my life something always fucked up happens. I just sometimes feel like the pot calling the kettle black cause i know how i was when i was younger and partying. There is a video of me on the internet of me running around in a giraffe head thong ( don't ask) haha. Maybe i will just have fun and get some free vacations out of it.

The dating scene is so bad this past couple of years and I am a magnet for retards. haha.

Hey :-D kinda seems like you look for fuck ups before you even get anywhere... why google her in the first place if you know your the type to have issues with someones past?? you cant change it so my advice is dont google!!
Get to know the now...people change. Good luck x

Barbie81 · Jun 23, 2012

triathloncoach said:
I'm guessing you like her because she is very attractive. And she has a bad drinking problem. When you trail her like a puppy dog when she goes away (FYI - you were not invited no doubt) maybe you can video tape her and her friends and whatever guys they all hook up with?

She is a hot drunk girl. They are lots of fun. But they aren't gonna be fun with just one guy.

I think we need photos. Yes, photos please.

Your so silly ha :-D x