No emotion

[terrellopy]

I'm definitely not trying to be a dick here, but I cannot help the fact that when it comes to women, I simply do not care about anything but sex. I have connected well with a few girls...but mainly on an "I guess I can tolerate you" level. As a young man, I feel I have no interests she will understand or like as well. I like fishing, bodybuilding, guns, beer, hard rock...they like makeup, weed, horrible music, church, or some other hobby that I find to be shallow and mundane. I often find myself thinking: If we couldn't have sex... why would I even talk to you?

I've tried sophisticated girls, concert girls, bar girls, church girls, college girls, every kind almost. I am extremely independent and don't care much for emotions. I cannot be genuinely interested in just about anything they say. I'm tired of faking it. Like I said...if you didn't have a vagina I wouldn't even talk to you.

Anyone ever felt like this?

 

[carrierdome]

x2

I feel pretty much the same way. If the sex is great then ok, we can continue to see each other. Otherwise, I see no reason to even stay just friends.

I have been in 3 1-week relations in the past month. 2 were ok in the sex dept. but as always after a few rounds, I was able to find flaws that I didnt think I could live with.

I think it all has something to do with my wife of 20 years dumping me for another broad.

 

[hawkmoon]

I just have to chime in here to balance the scales.


Honestly - I could not care less about sex.
If I can spend good time with a woman, simply enjoying her beauty, and feeling the affection we have for each other I am truly happy.
Right now I am in a 'more than friends' relationship with an amazing girl and I need nothing more from her...


Maybe I am broken.

 

[notsobig32]

I just have to chime in here to balance the scales.


Honestly - I could not care less about sex.
If I can spend good time with a woman, simply enjoying her beauty, and feeling the affection we have for each other I am truly happy.
Right now I am in a 'more than friends' relationship with an amazing girl and I need nothing more from her...


Maybe I am broken.

I love sex with women and it is definitely a big consideration for a long-term relationship but i am with hawk. i would rather spend time with a woman that i can carry on a conversation with and whose company i can enjoy than some girl who i am just going to have sex with.

I have personally made the decision to not go out and hook-up with every girl that i possibly can but only sleep with women that are worth the investment of time and energy.

I don't think you are broken hawk, just in a different place in life. Our goals and all change=-)

 

[terrellopy]

I kinda see what ya mean hawk. I definitely enjoy spending time with a cool girl. I guess what I'm getting at is the fact that I can't stand the shopping, the girly movies or any other activity that makes my testosterone levels plummet. Maybe I'll have to just put up with it for the rest of my life?

 

[aeliop]

What is your age?

I'm definitely not trying to be a dick here, but I cannot help the fact that when it comes to women, I simply do not care about anything but sex. I have connected well with a few girls...but mainly on an "I guess I can tolerate you" level. As a young man, I feel I have no interests she will understand or like as well. I like fishing, bodybuilding, guns, beer, hard rock...they like makeup, weed, horrible music, church, or some other hobby that I find to be shallow and mundane. I often find myself thinking: If we couldn't have sex... why would I even talk to you?

I've tried sophisticated girls, concert girls, bar girls, church girls, college girls, every kind almost. I am extremely independent and don't care much for emotions. I cannot be genuinely interested in just about anything they say. I'm tired of faking it. Like I said...if you didn't have a vagina I wouldn't even talk to you.

Anyone ever felt like this?

If you don't mind me asking how old are you?

 

[terrellopy]

hey aeliop, I'm gonna be 21 in October. I would like to think I've had enough life experiences to warrant my current stance on my lack of emotions toward other people in general. Being in the army for almost 3 years has made me grow up alot from where I used to be mentally. What are your thoughts on my predicament aeliop?

 

[aeliop]

hey aeliop, I'm gonna be 21 in October. I would like to think I've had enough life experiences to warrant my current stance on my lack of emotions toward other people in general. Being in the army for almost 3 years has made me grow up alot from where I used to be mentally. What are your thoughts on my predicament aeliop?

I don't think anything is wrong with you. You seem like a perfectly normal soon to be 21 year old to me. Your military experience has given you a little different perspective and outlook on life but all and all you are a healthy, sex driven male with some wild oats to sew. We change and evolve as men, your not ready to settle down nor should you. Just be careful, honest, and respectful of these girls. Let them know up front of your intent and don't knock any of them up. You will change as needs, wants, priorties change. When that happens and the time is right you won't be able to stop the feelings when you meet that person and the feelings are mutual.

 

[EVERLAST]

bump

I'm with Hawkmoon and NSB on this issue, but
Aileop said it best..."dont knock any of them up"

 

[EasyEJL]

As a young man, I feel I have no interests she will understand or like as well. I like fishing, bodybuilding, guns, beer, hard rock...they like makeup, weed, horrible music, church, or some other hobby that I find to be shallow and mundane. I often find myself thinking: If we couldn't have sex... why would I even talk to you?

Have you considered that fairly likely the girls feel the same - that all of your hobbies are shallow and mundane too?

Relationships are something of a give and take long term, just like working. You are in the military and provide certain services to the US military in exchange for the training they give you, the pay, opportunities for advancement, etc. I'm sure that overnight gate guard duty (or pick your least favorite) is boring and sucks, but you don't go AWOL over it. No different in any other sort of partnership, like with a woman.

Plus honestly plenty of women like fishing, guns, beer and hard rock, you are just looking in the wrong places. First date with my wife was to a Queensryche concert 14 years ago, she can field strip a rifle, complains when there is no bud light lime in the fridge. She's not too keen on fishing in a boat, but is happy to chill surf fishing or on a lake/river. mostly she doesn't like small boats Oh yeah, and she still has a vagina So sometimes I have to go into the Coach purse store with her, she has to put up with plenty from me too.

 

[jm425]

hey aeliop, I'm gonna be 21 in October. I would like to think I've had enough life experiences to warrant my current stance on my lack of emotions toward other people in general. Being in the army for almost 3 years has made me grow up alot from where I used to be mentally. What are your thoughts on my predicament aeliop?

There you go. Your only 21 years old. It's quite normal at your age to go out and sow your wild oats so to speak. Shit, when I was your age, I was out at the bars and clubs banging hoes left and right every weekend. I didn't want a long term relationship back then. Go ahead and test the waters, nothing wrong with that. As you get older though, you will realize that railing different girls left and right won't have much meaning as when your younger. For some it takes longer than others. I would have relationships along the way but they never lasted long because I got bored with them. Your overthinking this. Just enjoy it while you can.

 

[number twelve]

im 22. im pretty sure i dont have a soul when it comes to women. im very selfish and i do what i want that makes me happy. im sure as i mature my mindset will change or if i meet the right girl but as of now all i care about is putting a smile on my own face.

12

 

[terrellopy]

Thanks for all the input guys-every post here suits me. I will enjoy this while I am still young, although I already have alot of "notches on my guitar". Thank you all for your inputs.

 

[RLara85]

I just have to chime in here to balance the scales.


Honestly - I could not care less about sex.
If I can spend good time with a woman, simply enjoying her beauty, and feeling the affection we have for each other I am truly happy.
Right now I am in a 'more than friends' relationship with an amazing girl and I need nothing more from her...


Maybe I am broken.

You're not broken, I'm a lot like you (Or maybe we're both broken haha).

 

[pumpt73]

Nothing wrong with you terrell. You're still young bro. There's no need to settle down with one girl right now. The way I see it, make sure you do what you want to do in life before you think you're ready to settle down. Im 31 now, and when I was in my early to mid 20's, sex was all I cared about. Most girls I dated seen where I worked at and looked at me as a "meal ticket" if you will. When the right one comes along you will know it. I know it sounds cliche, but it's true. At 29, I finally met the girl I wanted. She didn't give a crap about my build or bank account. She's content with just spending the night at home with me. The sex is great, but it's never been something I've put as a priority.

Don't worry bro, you're like quite a few red blooded American men and there aint' nothin wrong with that. On your next one, make her call you pumpt for me!!!! LOL!! Only joking my friend.

 

[bigduff]

im 22 and ive done that a lot. playing the field is fun fun fun and when your on and can pull down any girl you want its even better! but theres one thing ive learned so far, theres no sex better than sex with a woman that you have feelings for. it just puts in that extra bit and damn it makes it great!

 

[scott j]

I kinda see what ya mean hawk. I definitely enjoy spending time with a cool girl. I guess what I'm getting at is the fact that I can't stand the shopping, the girly movies or any other activity that makes my testosterone levels plummet. Maybe I'll have to just put up with it for the rest of my life?

me and my wife have great communication and i love being with her. but she knows the rules. #1 she shoppes with her sister and friend. #2 she movies with her mom on chick flicks, and when she goes to the scrapbook store i go to sports authourity to buy my clothes... we meet up after that 3 hour fiasco and i hold her hand and smile, and say I love you and miss you so much. This way i dont have to explain how i spent more than her on clothes!

 

[scott j]

I love sex with women and it is definitely a big consideration for a long-term relationship but i am with hawk. i would rather spend time with a woman that i can carry on a conversation with and whose company i can enjoy than some girl who i am just going to have sex with.

I have personally made the decision to not go out and hook-up with every girl that i possibly can but only sleep with women that are worth the investment of time and energy.

I don't think you are broken hawk, just in a different place in life. Our goals and all change=-)

the girl you can carry on conversation with and spend time with, you get her at work. The little dirty, party girl, keep her far enough away so you can enjoy both of them

 

[MissyM]

I can't relate. My wife's my best friend. I find it so easy to talk to women, harder to talk to men.