O/T Rough time, 26 years down the drain..

[Adammoretti3456]

new at this, this is great therapy

 

[daddy_lover]

My parents are getting a divorce after 26 years of marriage. Me and my brother are getting dragged in the middle of it. Basically my mom is going through menopause and having a break down, for which she blames my dad completely. My dad is freaking out because he has no idea what's going on or what he did. He stopped eating and all he does is drink beer all day long while my mom tries to start fights. He's finally had enough and is selling both houses (I live in one in a rent to own type agreement) So that leaves me broke, looking for a home for me and my dog, and a full time student, while trying to be supportive to my parents, and keeping things rolling with bodybuilding.... just a rough time guys, needed to vent.

Relationships are two way streets. It sounds like you blame your mother. That's probably not helping things with your mom, dad, and their relationship.

 

[wasp]

what sucks is that when women get like this they fuckin dont give a SHIT about their kids

dont i know it , im 44 and my mother is the worst example of a woman ive ever met..............and i wonder why i cant put up with womens bs, no man should have to, 16 or 45................

 

[Adammoretti3456]

the time my parents split was when she was menopausal, keeping ur brother, wife/gf/friend close and just look out for eachother bro

 

[daddy_lover]

Does anyone else find it funny that a bunch of men on gear are speaking negatively about a woman in menopause? I'm sure y'all are handling the mood swings and anxiety like champs (note sarcasm).

 

[SantiagoMuscle]

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[buschris]

Sorry to hear that Doc. My wife of 10 years and I going through exact same thing right now. I will say this, alcohol is not helping one bit but what else can a guy do? Pre-menopause is a bitch........ I don't even wanna get started. No Job, No Home, No sanity.

My life fucking sucks.

 

[J4CKT]

dont i know it , im 44 and my mother is the worst example of a woman ive ever met..............and i wonder why i cant put up with womens bs, no man should have to, 16 or 45................

This is very ignorant...

I don't know what happened between you and your mum and i won't
make any assumptions about it. If you were in some way mistreated then
it is very unfortunate and I feel for you.

I could say the very same thing about my grandmother as what you said
about your mother, who had the gall to sue her SON and use a child
as a weapon against him. I won't go into detail, but it takes a special kind
of person to do something like that IMO.

Your attitude suggests that any kind of dispute is somehow the woman's
fault. Some times it will be and sometimes it won't. Blanket statements
like that are just plain dumb.

IMO, we should refrain from passing judgements and simply provide the
support that this board's members are looking for when they come here
to vent and share whatever issues they may be having.

To the OP:

I don't believe that the time your parents spent together in their marriage
is not 'down the drain' just because they are having a falling out now. They
must have had some good times in there and of course 2 children
together who I am sure they BOTH love very much.

In times of heated arguments both people often become childish, simply
trying to hurt each other more then the last. As hard as it probably is, be
mature, be supportive of both of them, be neutral and most of all be
strong. You will cop a lot of flak from both of them, having someone to
talk to offload this burden will help very much.

Good luck, I hope that this ends as quickly as possibly for you and them
regardless if they stay together or go their separate ways.

 

[doc]

Alright guys it's getting pretty rough. My mom is doing well and a lot easier to talk to. My dad on the other hand is being extremely depressive, and it's getting to the point where I can't talk to him anymore. He just repeats the same things over and over again, and wont listen to advice. He talks like the whole world is against him. He went to the doctor yesterday and refused antidepressant medications, convinced the doctors he was having anxiety and got put on xanax. The docs were talking about admitting him for a while for treatment. He will call on the phone talk for 5 minutes, get upset and say he has to go and hang up. He started accusing me of not caring because I wont talk to my mom and convince her to get back together with him, saying that he has no one supporting him. It's getting to where I have no idea what to do anymore, so I just listen to what he has to say and he just gets more and more upset.

 

[wasp]

This is very ignorant...

I don't know what happened between you and your mum and i won't
make any assumptions about it. If you were in some way mistreated then
it is very unfortunate and I feel for you.

I could say the very same thing about my grandmother as what you said
about your mother, who had the gall to sue her SON and use a child
as a weapon against him. I won't go into detail, but it takes a special kind
of person to do something like that IMO.

Your attitude suggests that any kind of dispute is somehow the woman's
fault. Some times it will be and sometimes it won't. Blanket statements
like that are just plain dumb.

IMO, we should refrain from passing judgements and simply provide the
support that this board's members are looking for when they come here
to vent and share whatever issues they may be having.

To the OP:

I don't believe that the time your parents spent together in their marriage
is not 'down the drain' just because they are having a falling out now. They
must have had some good times in there and of course 2 children
together who I am sure they BOTH love very much.

In times of heated arguments both people often become childish, simply
trying to hurt each other more then the last. As hard as it probably is, be
mature, be supportive of both of them, be neutral and most of all be
strong. You will cop a lot of flak from both of them, having someone to
talk to offload this burden will help very much.

Good luck, I hope that this ends as quickly as possibly for you and them
regardless if they stay together or go their separate ways.

no man should put up with a womans bs, thats what i said..............it only becomes a blanket statement if every woman is dishing bs..............did i say that? most do however, the man that sits by and lets it happen is the ignorant one, a doormat i like to call em