I've never been in love
Love is just a chemical reaction that occurs in the brain to drive two beings to reproduce with one another.
I've been rather fond of a girl.. But she was very young (just turned 18) and I was entering grad school.
I was too focused on my education to keep the ball rolling.
There's certainly more to what the feeling of love is, it's not just to make people reproduce, and that has more to do with lust anyway. But I do agree it's largely due to various neurotransmitters, hormones, etc
Regardless, my question was when you last felt the feeling created as such.
I agree with the first point
Outside of religious belief, life is about pursuing pleasure.
I subscribe to the Epicurean style of hedonism wherein I seek a tranquil and simple life - free from pain and distraction. I don't pursue degeneracy or excess per se.
Inviting the government into your life is just providing avenues for pain to be delivered... And there is no upside.
It really is that simple.
Too simplistic to say "life is about pursuing pleasure". That definitely isn't what a lot of people's lives are about, it's your philosophical interpretation.
I'm going to guess you're not a fan of Jordan Peterson? lol
So in your hedonic life, do you have no intentions of a long lasting meaningful relationship with a woman (not marriage)? Do you apply the same reasoning to your male friends (i.e. that none should be trusted)?
Ugh side story for the thread. My now former employee is crazy and now in rehab. So other coworkers are now telling me stories. She was with this kind of loser guy for 17 years (she's no catch at all). Cheated on him with a patient who was married, would have him over while her bf was at work. Apparently that guy fucked his wife's sister when he was still with her "and they were all coked up". Despicable people. Cheating is horrible but to cheat with a family member, Dear God. My absolute nightmare would be for someone I loved to fuck my brother. Don't know how someone could get to that point where they do that. Best friend is close to as bad. So while I think Little Slice is extreme I am certainly quite jaded.
So whatcha gonna do with your girlfriend situation? It sounds like youre not sure yet.
I really don't know :\ I really do feel like this is what addiction feels like. Back in 2013 I was on thyroid drugs and came off a big diet and I was binging with 10,000 calories every 3 days. I remember we were planning on going on a cruise and I was talking about how there was just no way I wasn't going to binge, it wasn't even a conversation I was open to. Well now, I'm not on thyroid meds, not cutting etc...and that much food isn't even appealing to me.
Similarly, there are times I get so horny I feel like I can't even imagine not having wild sex with new young girls forever. I had a girl sending me videos yesterday that she liked and I got so into it. Me and my girl then had sex and afterwards I thought how ridiculous I was being and I really just wanted to have a nice night in with her, watch a movie, hangout etc....the discrepancy between horny me and post-cum me is crazy. Idk if it's the TRT or what but my brother seems to be similar and he's not on anything (except finasteride which would if anything bring libido down). When I diet my libido goes down and I prefer that.
I fell for another girl at one point, the shitty one I've mentioned here a few times who cheated on her ex with her boss. I have a history of being into girls who are a challenge. I never allow myself to date those girls seriously, but I've gotten infatuated with a number of girls who were "hard to get"....human psychology is a very easy thing to manipulate and I have often got caught up with girls I couldn't fully have (and the reason I couldn't fully have some of them is simply because
I chose not to date them seriously for obvious reasons). Like even not that long ago I had a
beautiful 22 year old nurse, unusually into me like would actually shake around me, smart, into lifting, didn't drink, etc....and while I enjoyed my time with her I wasn't even that into her into she cut things off (because she was still in a low mood after her bf of 3.5 years broke things off). Point is as long as I had her I was into her but not as into her as when it was a challenge. I'd call that a character flaw of mine, and probably part of why I haven't been as into my girlfriend compared to if she was more of a challenge. It didn't take much effort for me to get her, her ex boyfriends are complete chuds and she was drastically out of their league even at the time when she wasn't as hot. I don't want to hold that against her but again going back to my psychology I know that's in part true.
But anyway, to answer your question, I'm having a hard time letting go of my rampant sexuality. In part I suppose I'm enabling it by talking to these girls. Like guys who have porn addiction and it fucks up their psyche. I do wonder if I cut everyone else off for say 3 months how would I feel. Maybe it would slowly get better and I'd "recover". Though it feels like I'll always know I'll never hit those same highs again. Like a heroin addict knowing if he stops he'll never experience that level of pleasure again (I don't do drugs but I imagine that's the case).
So basically it's a question of "is this actually not the right relationship for me despite her being as perfect as anyone I've met" vs "this is the right person and I need to get help with my inability to stop flirting and wanting to fuck every reasonably attractive woman".
I also keep focusing on the age thing unfortunately. Again very superficial despite her being my age and attractive....thinking of all the younger women (and future younger women) out there.
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