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Ok guys as some of you may know this is a topic thats very sensitive to me. A friend of mine is currently in the ER from his girlfriend. I am starting to realize this is a far more wide spread issue than what any of us realize so I have been doing some research.
My boy was hit in the back of the head with a frying pan, he was knocked out... she then proceded to hit him repeatedly in the face with it. His entire face for the most part is broken and swollen beyond recognition. She has not been arrested as she claims he "pushed" her... she does not have a bruise or mark on her.
He is a big guy as well, around 5'10 220 pounds.
Some statistics for you... (from AP)
In cohabitation residences or marriage
9% of couples reported acts of EXTREME violence in regards to the female spouse (female causing)
3.5% of couples reported acts of EXTREME violence in regards to the male spouse
In 71% of cases of domestic violence the woman is the aggressor
86% of domestic violence calls/reporting are made by women
88% of all DV arrests the man is arrested (even calls the man makes...)
40% of serious injuries are on the male. 60% on the female as usually the male endures DV incidents for extended periods of time before eventually lashing out.
It is also estimated that as far as mental and emotional abuse women are the aggressors with the same rates of frequency.
Guys if your having issues please get help. Please leave whomever. She does not love you no matter what you may think. I am sure there are alot of members here that have to endure behavior like this. I did for nearly 2.5 years.... I was embarrassed to get the help I needed. I wound up spending over a month in a hospital bed, 7 trips to the ER, and over 200 stitches.
Please end the abuse before its too late...
Sorry sort of long I know but if this can open at least one members' eyes here its worth it to me.
My boy was hit in the back of the head with a frying pan, he was knocked out... she then proceded to hit him repeatedly in the face with it. His entire face for the most part is broken and swollen beyond recognition. She has not been arrested as she claims he "pushed" her... she does not have a bruise or mark on her.
He is a big guy as well, around 5'10 220 pounds.
Some statistics for you... (from AP)
In cohabitation residences or marriage
9% of couples reported acts of EXTREME violence in regards to the female spouse (female causing)
3.5% of couples reported acts of EXTREME violence in regards to the male spouse
In 71% of cases of domestic violence the woman is the aggressor
86% of domestic violence calls/reporting are made by women
88% of all DV arrests the man is arrested (even calls the man makes...)
40% of serious injuries are on the male. 60% on the female as usually the male endures DV incidents for extended periods of time before eventually lashing out.
It is also estimated that as far as mental and emotional abuse women are the aggressors with the same rates of frequency.
Guys if your having issues please get help. Please leave whomever. She does not love you no matter what you may think. I am sure there are alot of members here that have to endure behavior like this. I did for nearly 2.5 years.... I was embarrassed to get the help I needed. I wound up spending over a month in a hospital bed, 7 trips to the ER, and over 200 stitches.
Please end the abuse before its too late...
Sorry sort of long I know but if this can open at least one members' eyes here its worth it to me.