Staying Humble as the cars, houses, watches and girls get nicer and nicer?

[TheAnabolicFreak]

Lately as I approach 33 years of age I look back and I am grateful that I worked hard and despite not having a college degree I am doing pretty well in life financially compared to people I grew up with who went to college but all they have today after the fancy degrees are lots of student loans to show for it and jobs that dont even pay remotely close to mine. Not on purpose but sometimes I find it hard not to brag when I meet these old friends from back in the day. I realized I definitely DO NOT like doing that. I noticed on this forum there are very successful people who are extremely well off but are very humble. How do you keep yourself that way? I dont want to be that guy who I used to hate who had a fancy car, nice house, nice watch, trophy girlfriend but was full of himself.

 

[OutToLunch]

I think it's more of a personality / character thing more than anything else. If someone asks me a reasonable question I will give them a reasonable answer. But something uncouth as to how much money I make. I just say I am doing well or enough to keep the light on and go away a few times a year ...

 

[machomadness22]

Being humble is being humble. There's no need to brag about anything unless someone asks nobody likes that guy. I cant speak from experience about being rich but I'm more successful in different ways but I always admire the strong silent type. That being said I think every person goes through that stage of wanting people to know what they've accomplished and you should be proud of yourself. But I think the older you become the wiser you will become feel less of the need to boast about your success. Enjoy life man and be proud of yourself.

 

[devenidas]

Lately as I approach 33 years of age I look back and I am grateful that I worked hard and despite not having a college degree I am doing pretty well in life financially compared to people I grew up with who went to college but all they have today after the fancy degrees are lots of student loans to show for it and jobs that dont even pay remotely close to mine. Not on purpose but sometimes I find it hard not to brag when I meet these old friends from back in the day. I realized I definitely DO NOT like doing that. I noticed on this forum there are very successful people who are extremely well off but are very humble. How do you keep yourself that way? I dont want to be that guy who I used to hate who had a fancy car, nice house, nice watch, trophy girlfriend but was full of himself.

No disrespect here but you can not say u worked HARDER then the folks who got a high level degree and a big loan just because they are less well off then you today , so you kind of deserve it cos you worked harder 'in your eyes'. They could have worked equally or even more harder then you to get through the degree and achieve that qualification and earn that esteemed job. How do you know for so sure ?

I know pretty dumb people with not very bright IQ level who makes more money and are much more well off then educated people in respectable profession.

I would rather be the educated person with a job which brings me pride and respect in society ( less money is fine) then be someone who everyone knows is somewhat of an idiot who works like a slave in a job which commands not much respect and somehow got lucky and managed to make a ton of money.

My 0. 2 pence

 

[OgJohnSmith]

I have it going on in my little world as well, but I try to keep the mindset that it can all be taken away in an instant, so I don’t get too worked up over it.

One of the bros on this Forum has the quote in his signature; “Don’t be so humble – you are not that great.” - (Golda Meir) So I thought about it, and in the grand scheme of things I’m pretty much less than insignificant so why try to act humble, I’m far, far from great to even think that I need to act humble.

So anyway I just try to not act like an arrogant dick-head for the most part.

 

[get it in ya]

Being humble is being humble. There's no need to brag about anything unless someone asks nobody likes that guy. I cant speak from experience about being rich but I'm more successful in different ways but I always admire the strong silent type. That being said I think every person goes through that stage of wanting people to know what they've accomplished and you should be proud of yourself. But I think the older you become the wiser you will become feel less of the need to boast about your success. Enjoy life man and be proud of yourself.

Exactly bro! Keep it to yourself. I have learned over the years most people dont want to see you be succesful. People are jealous, even family. Keep your happyness to yourself and the few people that are the closest to you. People are haters, i dont like humans sometimes

 

[NEMSZ]

No disrespect here but you can not say u worked HARDER then the folks who got a high level degree and a big loan just because they are less well off then you today , so you kind of deserve it cos you worked harder 'in your eyes'. They could have worked equally or even more harder then you to get through the degree and achieve that qualification and earn that esteemed job. How do you know for so sure ?

I know pretty dumb people with not very bright IQ level who makes more money and are much more well off then educated people in respectable profession.

I would rather be the educated person with a job which brings me pride and respect in society ( less money is fine) then be someone who everyone knows is somewhat of an idiot who works like a slave in a job which commands not much respect and somehow got lucky and managed to make a ton of money.

My 0. 2 pence

I guess everyone has a different point of view, though I do agree with some of what you said..

To me freedom is the most important thing. I own my own business and I have no college education or degree. Just high school. And I make a better living than some of my friends that have a Masters Degree, and not to brag but I'm very business oriented and I can predict that if I make the right moves for my next business plans I can be living very comfortably and not only that I'm very stress free. I don't have anyone telling me what to do, I can vacation whenever I want and I'm still very young...

So to me, someone can keep their "prideful" job/career working for someone else and their honorary degrees, I'll take my freedom, comfort and stress free, adventurous life any day...

NOW don't get me wrong! That's my choosing, maybe the other person dreamt of accomplishing those goals as I'm trying and dreaming to accomplish mine. 2 different lives and I think each equally respectable..

But in the sense of education, though I think for those of us that live in the US our education system is flawed I think it's important to educate yourself DAILY... This is why I travel a lot, I read a lot, I self teach, I study... I LOVE learning. And you don't have to go to school to do so or be successful.

The worst thing I can be is ignorant. My biggest fear and the worst insult...

As far as staying humble, I think that comes down to personality and the situation you're in...

I stay humble for the most part but there are times I can be a real dick, but that's because the situation calls for it.

 

[get it in ya]

I have a friend who dropped out of school in 8th grade. he cant read to well and his spelling is awful, forget texting. he is a multimillionaire, owns a oil company and landscaping company. zero education but very smart in other ways. I know a few guys like this

 

[delhibelly]

Great post guys. Just what I needed to read today. Been through really bad ups and downs. What I've realised is that it's only you and you from the time you open your eyes to the time you close them.

Humility keeps you in everyone's good books.

My two cents


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[cubano]

A douche is a douche, rich or poor. Someone's wealth has no correlation with their level of douchebaggery.

 

[Big Slice]

I don't care how much money anybody else has,I'm not a jealous person.I consider myself upper middle class.I lost everything 6 years ago from a horrific car crash.Now my outlook on what's important in life has changed 100%..

1.My kids and time spent with them.
2.Health
3.Not stressing about things out of my control.
4.Enough money stashed for emergencies.

I will never own a 100k car or a million dollar home.

What I do have is a fine philipino wife,looks real good in her 40's.Great kids doing real good in school.Plus my health,and a great body for a old man.The face is kind of weathered though.lol. And plenty of free time to enjoy the short stay we have on earth.Be happy with what you have,get what you need.

 

[mytreefiddy]

Upbringing......

 

[devenidas]

I guess everyone has a different point of view, though I do agree with some of what you said..

To me freedom is the most important thing. I own my own business and I have no college education or degree. Just high school. And I make a better living than some of my friends that have a Masters Degree, and not to brag but I'm very business oriented and I can predict that if I make the right moves for my next business plans I can be living very comfortably and not only that I'm very stress free. I don't have anyone telling me what to do, I can vacation whenever I want and I'm still very young...

So to me, someone can keep their "prideful" job/career working for someone else and their honorary degrees, I'll take my freedom, comfort and stress free, adventurous life any day...

NOW don't get me wrong! That's my choosing, maybe the other person dreamt of accomplishing those goals as I'm trying and dreaming to accomplish mine. 2 different lives and I think each equally respectable..

But in the sense of education, though I think for those of us that live in the US our education system is flawed I think it's important to educate yourself DAILY... This is why I travel a lot, I read a lot, I self teach, I study... I LOVE learning. And you don't have to go to school to do so or be successful.

The worst thing I can be is ignorant. My biggest fear and the worst insult...

As far as staying humble, I think that comes down to personality and the situation you're in...

I stay humble for the most part but there are times I can be a real dick, but that's because the situation calls for it.

I can totally appreciate that mate. you are using the best of your mental capacity and making a successful living . You are obviously smart as you are doing well in business. There are certain set of skills needed for that to work and u seems to possess them so good on you.

A university degree is NOT necessarily the only sign of being smart & intelligent and be respected in the society. I only made that comment/ comparison in response to OP as he stated about his friends having studied ''fancy" degrees and not making enough £££ compare to him. Point being its not all about the money in life. Money comes and goes.

 

[maldorf]

Like someone else said, I think it is how you are brought up. If your parents are snooty and don't associate or talk with people of lower social standing then you are most probably going to grow up and be the same way.

I also think that when you are young it is good to work a job where you are working alongside people from all walks of life. Another thing that helps a person to be humble is to serve all the social levels of people in the job that you perform. For me I waited tables, taught, and was a repo man for rent to own.

 

[shearerr]

Lately as I approach 33 years of age I look back and I am grateful that I worked hard and despite not having a college degree I am doing pretty well in life financially compared to people I grew up with who went to college but all they have today after the fancy degrees are lots of student loans to show for it and jobs that dont even pay remotely close to mine. Not on purpose but sometimes I find it hard not to brag when I meet these old friends from back in the day. I realized I definitely DO NOT like doing that. I noticed on this forum there are very successful people who are extremely well off but are very humble. How do you keep yourself that way? I dont want to be that guy who I used to hate who had a fancy car, nice house, nice watch, trophy girlfriend but was full of himself.

Well, despite earning a lot annually and being pretty successful at the age of 28 as networking specialist. I consider myself as very humble person. I used to work construction 12 hours a day sometimes even 14 hours as junior carpenter 6 days a week; also I did work in car wash 7 days a week 12 hours a day. All of this to save some money, so that I can afford college. But none of the above was so demanding and difficult as actually years spent in college. NO offense to you, but going through college, obtaining degrees, certifications. Struggling through all those years financially simultaneously trying to keep up with good grades and provide for yourself. All of those things create character and change people making them humble in life. However, not only education, but most importantly what you actually go through and experience in life is what makes you respectful and humble.

 

[little slice]

it's called not being a piece of shit










for fuck's sake.. :banghead:

 

[richiec]

Outlook, that's what it comes down to. My mom busted her butt owning her business and was very successful, we never went without. I learned that from her and applied it to athletics, allowing me to earn college scholarships and even playing professionally. I did get a college degree, it was something I wanted to finish but it is a worthless piece of paper to me. I own my own business, but make no mistake I have a boss, hundreds actually, my clients.
I don't make a ton of money, now, but I'm not in the field I am to make a lot of money quickly, my industry is a long term wealth builder. I have no aspirations to have a $100k car or a million dollar house, I just don't see a need for it. That being said, my family lives comfortably, we are happy. I don't look down on others who don't have high paying jobs or don't have a lot of money, in the end you can't take it with you anyways. Having a great hob now which brings in a lot of money is great, but keep in mind that you can lose it ALL tomorrow. There are things we have no control over that can financially wipe us out if we aren't prepared. So while you may be doing better than them NOW, circumstances can change to where the shoe is on the other foot, remember that when you start feeling arrogant.

People tend to forget where they came from and how quickly it can go back to that way. I know many people who were multi-millionaires before the recession that now live paycheck-to-paycheck and others who were living paycheck-to-paycheck who are now doing very well for themselves. You can become and stay humble by remembering that this life is not about money and material things, rather loving each other despite what wrongs others may have done to you. There's nothing wrong with taking pride in your accomplishments, just don't become prideful about it knowing that it can all be gone tomorrow

I've worked at the bottom of the barrel many times and know that I could lose everything tomorrow and be right back there, so I take nothing for granted

 

[inspector200]

This explains it all. ..

 

[ericraven2003]

Just remember it can be gone in a flash. Happened to me in the real estate crash. I learned it the hard way. I came back great now, but it made realize the important things in life. Money comes and goes.

 

[devenidas]

This explains it all. ..

brilliant . very well demonstrated mate. I need to save this PIC . downloading it right away to my phone. just epic