Terrible sex life, don't know what to do.

[lauren33189]

i would definitely try the romance approach. women like to be complimented all the time tell her how beautiful n smart she is how proud u are of her run a bath for her candles with a back rub or massage just a thought maybe a different approach whatever works especially if u like this girl worth the try sounds like shes got her shit together

The last time he told me i was pretty was years ago. Never compliments me never does anything. when he gives me a "massage" its for 2 seconds and his penis ends up being involved. I DO have my shit together and i dont need this.

 

[Vin]

SO VIN maybe its walking in on him having sex with another girl, or him having sex with my best friend. or getting text messages from him that were ment to go to another girl. you think this would have something to do with a "mental block" thank you all for offically ruining our relationship and thank you "cito33189"/JOE for ruining the relationship once and for all

I was going with the information at hand at the time and he said he never cheated! What you're saying obviously changes things.

I can understand your anger but looks like your relationship was doomed way before he came here love.

Take care.

 

[hemipower]

WOW yeah I was identifying with him and considering the similarities in our situation but this NEW info certainly sheds some light on the reality of things!
Now...not so similar after all!
I always wonder when I read stuff like that anyway...what the OTHER half of the story sounds like! Got to find out this time...

 

[metroboy]

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When we met i was a senior in highschool 18 and she was 16 going on to juinior year. It really isnt a simple fix such as a vibrator weve used them shes used them and dosent like them. Its not like all of a sudden our sex life stopped she just was never into it shes just not a sexual person hates porn hates graphic material talking about sex. Ive never met someone like this. I think some of the guys are right about her hormones because some types of birth control shell have sex alot then others no. She hates to give head. I think ive just noticed this alot more because of my elevating testosterone levels. I debate with myself is this a legitimate reason to leave her other than the sex shes all i could ask for goes above and beyond for me and super supportive if i left her for sex alone i'd feel like it was a mistake

1st, i thinkin your maybe a bit of a liar or are vastly overstating some of the facts OR your overlooking something...cuz you say youve never met anyone in your life with such a low sex drive like your girl, yet youve never cheated on her?! so what other experiences do you have other then her, that you can make this statement??? i mean ive prob banged like maybe 100 females, and compared to my boys im on the low end, but even bangin that many rubbas, i dont even consider my sex life or my sexual experiences as alot of knowledge...anyhow, if shes so selfish as to not consider your needs, then you obviously need to get rid of this girl, and thats a no brainer...ive ran into a few females like this, and the reason they were so closed minded, sexually is do to a few factors, either they arent comfortable with YOU, or they have experienced some type of sexual abuse, OR they were taught when they grew up by thier parents that, sex is dirty, and isnt to be enjoyed...ive experienced all 3 of these...im a pretty romantic guy, so in all the cases, ive been able to get the woman to eventually open up to me and do what i want...but all situations take time, and a certain comfort level to get them to where YOU want them...the oddest part about the whole situation, is that she has breast implants, that tells you right there shes self conscious, which means she needs to be comfortable with herself first, before she can enjoy sex....good luck

 

[ericraven2003]

WOW yeah I was identifying with him and considering the similarities in our situation but this NEW info certainly sheds some light on the reality of things!
Now...not so similar after all!
I always wonder when I read stuff like that anyway...what the OTHER half of the story sounds like! Got to find out this time...

Yep. Sounds like she should dump his ass. Getting both sides always sheds some light.

 

[metroboy]

SO VIN maybe its walking in on him having sex with another girl, or him having sex with my best friend. or getting text messages from him that were ment to go to another girl. you think this would have something to do with a "mental block" thank you all for offically ruining our relationship and thank you "cito33189"/JOE for ruining the relationship once and for all

wow, afta i read all this, your more of a loser then first thought...u said the last time he did something nice, was 5 years ago, when you were 16?! and your still with him?! and he cheated on you numerous times?! lmfao! and you stayed with him, what a loser lmao...fuking white girls:banghead: lol

 

[BallBuster]

i am CITO33189's girlfriend I have no issues with sex, i dont like a vibrator, when he wants me to use a huge one and makes me feel like i am being raped sorry not a turn on. I have had a orgasm and i dont need a vibrator to have one sorry if your girlfriend does. The last nice thing this kid has done for me was when we were 16 and then he cheasted on me. he never EVER does anything nice for me. sorry romance is the way to my vagina, not to shove a fucking huge plastic vibrator up me and tear apart my insides cause it turns him on.

I'm not sure if you really are the girlfriend or if this is b.s., however I will still respond.....

If he really has mistreated u to this degree, y have u stayed with him? It's obvious ur relationship has more issues than a vibrator can fix... but let me address your response.....

If your experience with a vibrator has been the above, then no wonder u don't enjoy them. You are very young and TRUST ME there will be a day when a vibrator will be a welcome tool in the bedroom. I know plenty woman who in their younger years said "I don't need a vibrator, all I need is my man" and over time they become less intimidated by the use of one and realize the benefits. Also, there are many different varieties and not all of them are KONG DONGS! Many are tiny little petite toys, in girlie colors, marketed toward women. I do respect that everyone is different and you may go your whole life never enjoying one, however, when used properly in a loving relationship(it seems to me, u are missing the "loving relationship" part of the equation) or alone... they are great! Just ask Dr. Ruth,lol................ BTW sweetie, I am female.

 

[OuchThatHurts]

There's more to this story, you can be certain of it.

And remember: A close loving relationship can move forward without sex. But if sex is all you have, the relationship isn't going anywhere.

Does this ring a bell?

 

[BallBuster]

SO VIN maybe its walking in on him having sex with another girl, or him having sex with my best friend. or getting text messages from him that were ment to go to another girl. you think this would have something to do with a "mental block" thank you all for offically ruining our relationship and thank you "cito33189"/JOE for ruining the relationship once and for all

Sweetie, no one has ruined your relationship, you can not blame others for this disaster. His behavior and your response(or lack there of) to his behavior is the problem. You teach people how to treat you! With some maturity and experience you will learn... good luck!