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hey juiced,
i tried this for 7 years with my son's mother. We tried everything, counseling(individual and separate), church, romance, getaways etc. It just never seemed to work. We were just iincompatible sexually. She was my best friend ever, hell she still is, she grew resentful because she didn't see the need for me to masturbate etc. We tried the having sex when she didn't want to thing and she put forth one hellvua an effort BUT honestly i knew she wasn't into it and for me(especially with the woman i was in love with and married to) emotional connection plays a huge role in sex. I mean i still like to bruise the walls and knock the bottom out, but that kinda pales in comparison to making love to the right woman. Anyway, i digress. I feel your pain with this. We finally decided to go our separate ways and because we have a child together, i still get to see her for the rest of my life and i always feel remorseful that she is the woman i should be waking up next to each morning
So you need to be true to yourself and i applaud your perseverance, but i honestly think that today(and i am in the middle of a test cycle), if i could go back, i would choose being with her over the sex. Just my experience.
Thankyou
I need to be here for her, but i think i need to lose part of myself or leave her, im not leaving her , i dont care I WONT she has nothing, so im gonna have to loose part of myself, and hope i can deal with it and when i say sex, fuk one time a week id be happy. fuk 2 times a month even...
i wont leave though.....
anyway thanx to all.