venting about crap

maxsupplements · May 30, 2007

i swear, just when you think things are going to turn your way, it all fucking blows up in your face..

im so pissed off right now i think i could break down 3 walls.. some people just dont use the dang brain God gave them to make sincere and RATIONAL decisions.

some people... glad i am not on the dang maturity level of a 5 year old.

sorry guys. i am just pissed off like no other. just absolutely HOTTER than a motherfucker in a fucking incinerator.....

oh well. just venting..

oldfella · May 30, 2007

maxsupplements said:
i swear, just when you think things are going to turn your way, it all fucking blows up in your face..

im so pissed off right now i think i could break down 3 walls.. some people just dont use the dang brain God gave them to make sincere and RATIONAL decisions.

some people... glad i am not on the dang maturity level of a 5 year old.

sorry guys. i am just pissed off like no other. just absolutely HOTTER than a motherfucker in a fucking incinerator.....

oh well. just venting..

Well this is the counselling forum..........but you forgot to tell us why you are so upset/angry??????? It's allright to vent and it's ok to be angry, but what exactly are you angry about besides the mentallity level of people. I have a saying, gets used daily, "PEOPLE ARE STUPID". If you're gonna let it out, spell it out bro.

maxsupplements · May 31, 2007

well, alright then..

i complain too much about women on this dang counseling forum. hell, i am getting to the point of just throwin in the towel and being ASEXUAL. lol... nah, there is no way. i love women too much..

what this is about oldfella, is the simple fact that i had decided that it wasnt the time for me to be dating anyone. so, about 2 months ago or so, i decided i was just going to stop trying to make something happen, and just enjoy being single. i have been divorced for over 2 years now, and havent been able to find a woman that i felt that "connection" with. over the past 6 months, i have met 3 very nice women. all 3 were very good women. very much for me, lots in common, common virtues, hobbies, etc... well, everytime i would meet one, and go on a couple dates, each one tells me then they are moving away. like WAY away. first one, 2 dates, then moves to miami, second, 2 weeks of good times and dates, and promo at job, and off to S carolina, then the third, 3 dates, and bam, promo at job, and off to Phoenix. so, i had reached a point of just thinking, "maybe God is trying to tell me something?!?" so i quit trying to even meet women.

about 2 weeks ago, this amazing woman approaches ME. i was truly flattered, and totally blown away. so, we go on a date that nite. and it was TRUE CHEMISTRY. so, i ask myself. "wow. when i quit looking, see what happens?"

date after date, lots of them in that 2 week period pass. we really get close and gain some serious care for one another. good times. totally clicking.

then the best part happens, and you can guess what it is. . . . .

she tells me she got a call from CBS in LA to take a job. and she is definately considering.

that is what pisses me off. its like, WTF? i totally give up, and then BAM...

as if from now on i will tell women, STAY AWAY FROM ME UNLESS YOU WANT TO MOVE OUT OF TOWN!!!!!!
now, bare in mind, the city i live in is not that big. 500k people. so, the draw of big cities pulls at all the higher maintenance women that i am attracted to...

i mean what gives ehh?

sorry fellas. i just needed to vent. if you want to comment, great. im just so damn bummed.

oh, and just for the record. i dont do long distance relationships..

why?

Amazon Doll · May 31, 2007

You need to find women that have no goals & ambition.

This has to be a wierd fluke. It's just really a hard one to give advise on

oldfella · May 31, 2007

Well i think we've al been down the singles road at least once. And when you come out of a really serious relationship or marriage it is hard to accept being alone sometimes. So we search for a companion. lover, girl friend etc. it seems that no matter how hard we try, Nothing!! it's as though we give off a feramone that tells them we are on the hunt!! Am I right so far??? So then we get tired of the rejections, turn downs, being stood up at the last minute and just throw our hands in the air. We decide that we will be destined to a life of partnerless nights and time in the gym with the buds. No one is interested in me!!! That's all that goes throught the mind. Then one day while shopping or browsing for a video or something stupid like that............Smack!! right there in front of you there she is. Now your faced with a problem. But you do the right thing and smile and say nice things........but you said you wanted to be single.....right??? Wrong.......we all need companionship, this comes in many forms, beit a friend, girlfriend, lover etc. No one truely wants to be alone all the time! It is not in our nature. We are social creatures and need closeness of others. Now your situation sounds like a string of freakish coincidence....that's all. I would suggest you find out what they do for a living before you go out with them. if they are career girls then you may be faced with this dilemma again. But this may work for you as well. You need to find out if they are likely to be transferring for their work before you assemble a relationship. You can probably do this in one of two ways..............While out on a date if you feel the chemistry is working then you tell it straight. Hey I really like you and want to continue seeing you but, everytime I start to get involved at this level they seem to move away for their jobs. I don't want to continually get hurt in this way nor do I want to hurt anyone either. The other option is beat around the bush a little, find out as much as you can about her work and career path, this is not being decietful just smart. it also shows you are interested in them, what they do etc. Then if it all seems good continue with the relationship. If you suspect she may be on the move or up the corporate ladder and she may have to relocate then you decide when and where it stops. It is a tough situation for sure. Deciding you are going to be single and then princess turns up on the scene which pretty much turns your world on it's ear, then she up and leaves and you feel all down and shit is a big problem. But it is all a gamble, everything. We often have no control over certain stiuations that pop into our lives, so we must make the most of the cards we are dealt. If you are the type that likes having that special someone in your life........she will turn up. You just have'nt found her yet...........or she has'nt found you yet!!! Hang in there. You are frutrated not angry.......there is a difference. So lots of things will get to you now. Go and train it off.......you will feel better.

Future · May 31, 2007

I'm sorry man! You do need some Sexual Chocolate though... http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=p8UE6DzSjhs

Humor can provide that relief when you are ready. Until then its ok to be upset. There is a season for everything.

maxsupplements · May 31, 2007

thanks youall

future, amazon, oldfella, thank you all very much for a little support on this..

oldfella, you hit the nail on the head...

its just freakish events.. i went and trained it off. i was just really upset. its ok. im good now, i have calmed down.

i did mention it to her how ironic this was. she actually cared, and said that she may not be considering after all.

buffbabeca · May 31, 2007

Max- I feel for you and as everyone else said it just a fluke thing.. you just have to learn to be comfortable with yourself and in "due time" it will happen. No sooner then its supposed so dont try and rush it sweetie. You when know when its right , not only will you feel it it in your heart but deep in your soul. I understand that you dont do long distance relationships and I used to think that same way but when it came down to it , I realized if its "right" on all levels then I needed to give it a chance even it takes a little bit of extra effort. I firmly believe that we were put on this earth to love and sometimes it doesnt go as we would have planned or hoped. I would also suggest letting this new woman know that IF she turns down this job opportunity that it be for HER own reasons NOT because of you , and that is because what IF things dont work out and then she would have regrets because she stayed for you.. I dont know the extent of the offer she has rec'd but if this is something that she truly wants and has been hoping for , please dont hold her back.... give her your blessing to go and she will respect you for it in the long term.. just my .2

oldfella · May 31, 2007

buffbabeca said:
Max- I feel for you and as everyone else said it just a fluke thing.. you just have to learn to be comfortable with yourself and in "due time" it will happen. No sooner then its supposed so dont try and rush it sweetie. You when know when its right , not only will you feel it it in your heart but deep in your soul. I understand that you dont do long distance relationships and I used to think that same way but when it came down to it , I realized if its "right" on all levels then I needed to give it a chance even it takes a little bit of extra effort. I firmly believe that we were put on this earth to love and sometimes it doesnt go as we would have planned or hoped. I would also suggest letting this new woman know that IF she turns down this job opportunity that it be for HER own reasons NOT because of you , and that is because what IF things dont work out and then she would have regrets because she stayed for you.. I dont know the extent of the offer she has rec'd but if this is something that she truly wants and has been hoping for , please dont hold her back.... give her your blessing to go and she will respect you for it in the long term.. just my .2

Well put buff. Max there you have it from a beautiful woman and a wise one also. I can't add anymore to this. Nailed it min one. God one Buff!!

maxsupplements · May 31, 2007

buffbabeca said:
Max- I feel for you and as everyone else said it just a fluke thing.. you just have to learn to be comfortable with yourself and in "due time" it will happen. No sooner then its supposed so dont try and rush it sweetie. You when know when its right , not only will you feel it it in your heart but deep in your soul. I understand that you dont do long distance relationships and I used to think that same way but when it came down to it , I realized if its "right" on all levels then I needed to give it a chance even it takes a little bit of extra effort. I firmly believe that we were put on this earth to love and sometimes it doesnt go as we would have planned or hoped. I would also suggest letting this new woman know that IF she turns down this job opportunity that it be for HER own reasons NOT because of you , and that is because what IF things dont work out and then she would have regrets because she stayed for you.. I dont know the extent of the offer she has rec'd but if this is something that she truly wants and has been hoping for , please dont hold her back.... give her your blessing to go and she will respect you for it in the long term.. just my .2

thanks Buff. i really hope she doesnt leave. actually, i did talk to her about this. and told her my position last nite. and honestly, she said she really felt the same as i did. and thought that the offer wasnt really all that good. she actually told me about the offer. and i didnt see it being any better pay wise than where we live now. oh well, if she stays, right on. if not, oh well. its too late for anything else now. i was just a bit distraught about this. i dont mind being single, but if i am going to be, then i want to be left the hell alone!

oh well. whatever is supposed to happen will...