OuchThatHurts
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That's what I am talking about. Don't blame here for what happend because that is something you can't change and when you think about it, all the thoughts & emotions go around and around in a never ending loop, because she is a constant that you can't change, so the thought process never expands. Look at yourself and the possibility to resolve issues will be there, because you can change you.I think what I hurt about isnt even her, I think it is that I am not happy with myself honestly
some things are best left alone & you will need the distance between you two so you can grow & change. Do whatever you need to to sever the tie.i have no desire to see or talk to her.
Negative shit? Like what kind of negative shit? Moving on? You know she has the right to do that. This has nothing to do with her and everything to do with you as you said earlier. You were keen enough to see that yourself. You just need to get back or start to rebuild your self-esteem. Since you know you're not fully over her, you need to do one of two things. Decide whether you want to continue to entertain the ideas of what she may be doing or make a conscious decision to close that chapter of your life.You are right, I have not gotten over her! I cant explain what it is because for most of the relationship I wasnt happy. I think most of it is the small change of life I am going through, I hate being single and the thoughts of her being with someone else. I know she is not mine and I would never go there again, I just wish I could stop thinking about all the negative shit she may be doing.
Negative shit? Like what kind of negative shit? Moving on? You know she has the right to do that. This has nothing to do with her and everything to do with you as you said earlier. You were keen enough to see that yourself. You just need to get back or start to rebuild your self-esteem. Since you know you're not fully over her, you need to do one of two things. Decide whether you want to continue to entertain the ideas of what she may be doing or make a conscious decision to close that chapter of your life.
There's not enough room in this forum to help you with low self-esteem. Building esteem is a process but it can be done. You should see a professional and talk about that.
You can't stop thinking about her and you get all out of whack when she sends you message but you know you don't want to be with her and she knows that.The whole thing is that I am trying to move on everytime it starts to get a little beter she will send me some me some message saying how much she loves me and Im the best thing that ever happened to her. I dont wanna be with her and she knows that, she wants it to work. That is why I am so confused and not understanding why it hurts so bad. I guess time heals all wounds...
You can't stop thinking about her and you get all out of whack when she sends you message but you know you don't want to be with her and she knows that.
Something is not adding up here.
all things pass. try your best to sever the tie and just not be there when she contacts you. she will become more interested in trying to contact you as a first reaction but will give up... so long as that is what you want to happen. im truly sorry you are in a confused and hurting phase right now. it will pass i promise. you seem like a young guy with the world ahead of him. find a passion and follow it with relentless vigor! if you get down and out, were always here for you. give it a try and good luck.