It is rare for me to have those issues (I am 67.) Only ‘drug’ is testosterone, TRT, and it is normal high range now. I did get a small bump when I started at 50 but sexually, only at the start did I feel any sexual side effects.
Now, these two things can help. 1) don’t masturbate, 2) don’t watch porn. You can become desensitized over time. Trust me, I have spent some time in, at the time, the largest porn studio in the world, operating 24/7. The stuff I have seen . . .
I am not going to get all mushy and talk about love, finding the right partner, etc., but for me that is a huge part of it. Trust with no judgement and a sense of humor can take the pressure off so you can ‘perform’ if all other systems are a go.
Oh, almost forgot 3. Learn to meditate. That is huge for attitude and concentration and self control. Huge.
My problem, if you can call it that, if you believe me, is that I am multi-organismic. Was not that way when I was younger but developed it (lots of practice
) as I got older. Two in a row is pretty normal now, easy for me. Seven or nine, I can’t remember which, is my record if I was keeping score and that was just last year.
And I can have an organism quickly like under five minutes or go for a long time, like an hour. My wife, bless her heart, puts up with it (no pun intended), enjoys me, but sometimes she is like ‘are you finished yet?’ I go no, I got a couple more in me, hang in there, ha, ha. And this is without any ED drugs unless you count 5mg Cialis daily for prostate health but I was the same before, just lucky I guess. My libido is usually high to the point of it being annoying but there is not much I can do about that or for that matter would not want it to change with a willing, compassionate, and loving partner., which I do. But still, you both have to be on the same wavelength.
Now, all this is not to say I have never had any issues in that department, I have truth be told but it is rare and the key here is not letting it get into you head, then the monkey brain takes over and it is downhill from there.
In retrospect, I think meditation has played a huge part, not so much in my libido, but my ‘performance’ in bed. I can get in this zone that is hard to describe, it’s almost like a heightened sense of being, right
down to the very nerve endings. Fun if you can get there.
Hope this helps you, with me not coming off as a braggart.