Thanks alot guys for the kind words. I guess one of the hardest parts is we live six hours apart. I can't even be with her while she is going through all of this. And she is still going through it as we speak. I have been on the phone with her off and on.
She went to the hospital and one of her scores was 66. The doctor told her that the score was so low that either she had already passed the baby or was in the process. Well, a day later, today, everything started happening.
Now almost 24 hours after the hospital visit she is in extreme pain, and going through all of the stages of a miscarriage.
I just don't know what to do. I'm at loss. Walking around this damn house like a paced tiger, stomach is in knots. Horrible mental images etc... Just don't know what to do.
God will not come down and say "i'm sorry, here's another baby, we good?"
and what you're doing right now isn't gonna make anything better.
it's hard, i know. but you have two options here:
1- keep on blaming god as if he exists or whatever caused this... then just stay in the sorrow you are in trying to blame something where no is to blame on someone who you can't even see.
2- take action to move on forward... take a leave of absence from work if you can and go to your girlfriend... you're a man, and sadly culture is wired so that you provide comfort to your girl, and no one will provide comfort to you except yourself. tell yourself that it's gonna be fine and your first priority is to go to your girl and tell her it's ok. tell her the baby is in a better place now. tell her this happens more than you'd like to think and it's just natures way of saying "there's a genetic defect and the kid won't survive on the outside if it kept on growing"... Nature and evolution know these things better than you ever will. tell her that this baby is in "heaven" because this world would've been too hard for it to survive in. tell her you'll try again and next time, it'll be better. go comfort her. when you see she's feeling better, you'll feel better.
"god" won't wave his magic wand and say "abracadabra" and everything will just be fine.
you have to step up and take action.
you love her?
go make her feel better and comfort her...
if that happens and you truly love her, this burden will be lifted.
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