Hey this is Sherry, Vanilla-Gorilla's wife and I have to tell you my opinion. Back in January I cheated on my husband and I was caught because of text messaging. I have realized that no matter the reason there is NO excuse good or bad for doing this. I deeply regret doing this to him and there is nothing I can do to make it up, it's been 10 months and we are still working it out to get over it. I have to say I am glad I was caught( I am extremely lucky and I know it) Vanilla didn't have to forgive me but I am gracious he did. My suggestion to you is to talk to your wife and for one get rid of the text messaging if she has nothing to hide she will abide. After having the talk with her, she should realize how bad you are feeling and if she is not doing anything she will do whatever it takes to make you feel better. If she doesn't want to get rid of the text messaging I would think something is up. Grown women really don't have a use for text messaging if you think about it. If after having the talk and she acts like it's not her fault you are being insecure, bring up the answering machine message and tell her that had to come from somewhere, when you say this then she should realize where your feelings are comming from and she should be more than happy to do whatever it takes to get you over the bad thoughts and feelings. The other thing I wanted to comment on was I can see where you can trust your daughters godmother, but who knows nowadays (the story does sound a little weird) I would think maybe she wanted to be transfered because she broke it off with someone and she thought there was to much talk going around and it would be too risky for someone to tell you something or you to find out what happened at that store so she figured it would be best if she was in a new enviroment, a clean start sort to speak. Anyways, I hope she is not cheating but no matter what yall really do need to sit don't one last time and have the serious talk, and then go from there.
By the way, I would normally agree with the above posts about leaving it alone and forgetting about it, but speaking from experince I would really sit her down because if she did cheat it really needs to come out because without trust you really have nothing, believe me I know now. If she cheated and you never knew and did anything whats to stop her from doing it again? Now if she admits to cheating I would tell her what Phil said but you really need to get her to talk about it first to get everything out in the open, so you can start rebuilding your relationship. I really hope she isn't cheating, and I don't want to make you feel worse but I don't think it's post partum depression and I definetly don't think its's stress from work because why would she want a divorce if anything you would be the one she could talk with about things that are bothering her. Whatever you decide just make sure its your decision and not anyelses, It's your life so live it the best way you can.
Let us know how things are going after a while...and good luck.
Sherry
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