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Are they still delaying funeral services, or are they within a week now like they used to be in the past (where you live)?
The funeral home should help guide you. They will try to get you to spend $$$, but you don't have to.
Here's a few things to get done:
-Where to have burial/services
-Burial plot
-Casket type (you don't have to go Queen Elizabeth here)
-Flowers of sort. You don't have to go hog-wild here.
-A written Obituary if chosen. It's not mandatory, but i am big on ancestry stuff, so I went all out on my mom/grandmother's obituaries. It can be simple though.
-Who will be in the services, and how you want it done. Make appt with the funeral home to sort this out. If you are a part of a particular church, you may want to see if they can help with the service. You will need to work with them on an outline/order of how to give it....songs, speeches, Eulogy, etc.
-If you plan on being buried next to your wife, you may want to get a double plot situated. This will help other family members in the future...as well as secure your area so that it does not get taken by somebody else.
-The funeral home will need to know what and how to dress your wife. They will probably ask for some kind of dress or clothing to put her in, as well as a picture to help them with hair and make-up. They may ask for a make-up kit as well. If your daughter can help, or one of the wife's friends who is good with hair and stuff, they may be able to help here as well.
-You may want to call as many people as you/she know to let them know. Ask for help in this. Not sure how big your circle is, but if it is large, or if there is family you are close with or haven't seen in a while, call and let them know. It's easy to skip this when you have a 100 other things to deal with. If she was working, let her employment know.
-Get the financial stuff situated. Stop all her cards as soon as you can. Get the banking account situated. Figure out any bills etc. Also her retirement and other stuff...hopefully it goes smoothly for you and she had some of it situated.
Most funerals i've been to over the last 2 years, they have not had any services in a chapel/cemetery, they've all been outside next to the grave, and short/minimum, so it may be easy and simple to put together...compared to years back. Again, the church and funeral home can guide you on this, just let them know what you want included in it.
-The headstone. You can worry about this after all the above stuff though.
The funeral home should help guide you. They will try to get you to spend $$$, but you don't have to.
Here's a few things to get done:
-Where to have burial/services
-Burial plot
-Casket type (you don't have to go Queen Elizabeth here)
-Flowers of sort. You don't have to go hog-wild here.
-A written Obituary if chosen. It's not mandatory, but i am big on ancestry stuff, so I went all out on my mom/grandmother's obituaries. It can be simple though.
-Who will be in the services, and how you want it done. Make appt with the funeral home to sort this out. If you are a part of a particular church, you may want to see if they can help with the service. You will need to work with them on an outline/order of how to give it....songs, speeches, Eulogy, etc.
-If you plan on being buried next to your wife, you may want to get a double plot situated. This will help other family members in the future...as well as secure your area so that it does not get taken by somebody else.
-The funeral home will need to know what and how to dress your wife. They will probably ask for some kind of dress or clothing to put her in, as well as a picture to help them with hair and make-up. They may ask for a make-up kit as well. If your daughter can help, or one of the wife's friends who is good with hair and stuff, they may be able to help here as well.
-You may want to call as many people as you/she know to let them know. Ask for help in this. Not sure how big your circle is, but if it is large, or if there is family you are close with or haven't seen in a while, call and let them know. It's easy to skip this when you have a 100 other things to deal with. If she was working, let her employment know.
-Get the financial stuff situated. Stop all her cards as soon as you can. Get the banking account situated. Figure out any bills etc. Also her retirement and other stuff...hopefully it goes smoothly for you and she had some of it situated.
Most funerals i've been to over the last 2 years, they have not had any services in a chapel/cemetery, they've all been outside next to the grave, and short/minimum, so it may be easy and simple to put together...compared to years back. Again, the church and funeral home can guide you on this, just let them know what you want included in it.
-The headstone. You can worry about this after all the above stuff though.