Ok, ill get right to the point. My wife (who is 49, Im 35) has always been hot tempered. WHen she gets angry she makes all types of threats and never follows through. (like cheating, leaving etc) and having me arrested for DVD's. I ued to get scared, but after hearing the same old thing for over 3 years, I just got over it.
Tonight though in one of her angry moments she called 911 and said "my husband is beating me" and hung up. She then turned off the cell phone and went out for a jog. (mind you I never , ever have laid a finger on her. She is the one who loves to hit and throw stuff at me)
So after about an hour I hear banging at the door. I pretty much guessed right away who it was. I answered the door and they said they got a 911 call from my place. I played dumb and let them do a walk through. They were puzzled, I could tell. The phone was a tracfone in my name.
My wife walked up when they were there and said no one called, it mustve been someone else. They left but looked very confused.
AFter they left she went off like crazy yelling and screaming. Saying she;s leaving me finding other men to give her money etc.. I have a 11 year old autistic son who is used to this by now. She's been doing these screaming fits since he was born. All the neighbors are used to it as well.
But now that the cops were actually here, Im really spooked. I dont knwo what to do. Im really worried this time. I dont know what to do.
She uses them as well as me, and actually looks like she's on them (huge, thinning hair, manly face) but insists Ill take the rap for them if the cops end up coming.
I cant stand living like this. Ive been doing everything Im supposed to be doing. I quit drinking, and have stuck to it. Other tham minor annoyances, Im a pretty damn good husband and father. Im in college and am 60 credits into my degree. I dont know what to do.
I feel like a prisoner now. I feel so helpless and powerless when Im put in this kind of situation. I want to move the dvd's to a friends house, but if I do I'm basically calling all out war with my wife, and Im 100% sure she will have me arrested for domestic battery, even if it means hurting herself and saying I did it.
I really want to drink now, Ill tell you that. I wont though, because thats exactly what I think she wants. I cant even leave to stay somewhere else because I cant take the chance she wont throw all our DVD's out on the lawn of the parking lot (or something equally stupid and reckless)
I just need to vent, rant whatever becuase I feel like an emotional wreck inside, and I feel trapped.
I know there is no one here that can help me, and I feel pathetic. I just want to solev this problem once and for all, but another part of me is not ready for that.
I left 2 days ago. Its been crazy. She must have seen this coming because when I went to take my DVD's with me, ALOT were missing. Luckily she didnt get my best ones, but she took and hid a good amount.
Im staying at an acquaintances house. She's been trying to call me alot, and texting me to come back.
Im not sure what to do now. Im very uncomfortable here.
This guy has a fucked up lifestyle, and I get no sleep. I know I shouldn't go back, but my summer semester starts May 13th and I need to get 2 A's. I dont see how on earth Ill get any work, studying or sleep here. Plus the temptation to drink is huge!!
Drinking is the worst thing I could do now, and there's vodka all over this place.
She's telling me how she'll act nicer, and I know she will for awhile, then go back to normal. Im trying to find somewhere better to stay, but anything I can afford right now is not that good.
Anyway, I've been sneaking back everyday and grabbing things of value and bringing them to my fathers, so in case I do go back and have to leave again, Ill have nothing to worry about.
I also wanted to thank everybody who posted here. Your words really gave me the strength to realize that I am not the only one who has gone through this. It really helped me out alot.
also my son is doing good. I spoke to him in the phone and he said everything has been very calm.
I left 2 days ago. Its been crazy. She must have seen this coming because when I went to take my DVD's with me, ALOT were missing. Luckily she didnt get my best ones, but she took and hid a good amount.
Im staying at an acquaintances house. She's been trying to call me alot, and texting me to come back.
Im not sure what to do now. Im very uncomfortable here.
This guy has a fucked up lifestyle, and I get no sleep. I know I shouldn't go back, but my summer semester starts May 13th and I need to get 2 A's. I dont see how on earth Ill get any work, studying or sleep here. Plus the temptation to drink is huge!!
Drinking is the worst thing I could do now, and there's vodka all over this place.
She's telling me how she'll act nicer, and I know she will for awhile, then go back to normal. Im trying to find somewhere better to stay, but anything I can afford right now is not that good.
Anyway, I've been sneaking back everyday and grabbing things of value and bringing them to my fathers, so in case I do go back and have to leave again, Ill have nothing to worry about.
I also wanted to thank everybody who posted here. Your words really gave me the strength to realize that I am not the only one who has gone through this. It really helped me out alot.
also my son is doing good. I spoke to him in the phone and he said everything has been very calm.