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36 right now, dated a girl when I was 16.... it was intense, in a good way. I ditched her at the time and basically just went off the radar without properly saying goodbye because I was hanging with a bad crowd, into drugs etc. at the time and she had a really good head on her shoulders so as painful as it was I thought it'd be best if she moved on and found someone more like her.
Through the years I'd hear from her now and then, it was always very intense and just short to say hello and if i'm ok. I changed numbers multiple times, emails, even moved twice.... she still always found me.
I finally let her stay in touch with me for a bit, just the fact that she's been so persistent in knowing me for two decades, and like immediately all the feelings came flooding right back for both of us. I'm divorced so I'm fine, but she's married with kids and it's a lot tougher for her and I don't want to get too involved in that, she doesn't want to cheat either so we agreed to not meet as something will likely happen.
I just don't get why after 20 years it still feels like we are 16 the moment we talk, we've been through different lives, a bunch of relationships etc., and it's like the feelings are all still there on hold.... they should be long over, or at least not as strong.
The idea of getting rid of her has pretty much become obsolete, I mean it's been 20 years and i've done everything I can (including telling her we have to stay away from each other many times), she still finds me.
We had a talk and we're on the same page, we're both just as crazy about each other as we were back then.... but like I said she's married... i don't know what to do. The marriage is going very bad and lots of talk of divorce but that's a whole process.
Any advice in this situation?
Through the years I'd hear from her now and then, it was always very intense and just short to say hello and if i'm ok. I changed numbers multiple times, emails, even moved twice.... she still always found me.
I finally let her stay in touch with me for a bit, just the fact that she's been so persistent in knowing me for two decades, and like immediately all the feelings came flooding right back for both of us. I'm divorced so I'm fine, but she's married with kids and it's a lot tougher for her and I don't want to get too involved in that, she doesn't want to cheat either so we agreed to not meet as something will likely happen.
I just don't get why after 20 years it still feels like we are 16 the moment we talk, we've been through different lives, a bunch of relationships etc., and it's like the feelings are all still there on hold.... they should be long over, or at least not as strong.
The idea of getting rid of her has pretty much become obsolete, I mean it's been 20 years and i've done everything I can (including telling her we have to stay away from each other many times), she still finds me.
We had a talk and we're on the same page, we're both just as crazy about each other as we were back then.... but like I said she's married... i don't know what to do. The marriage is going very bad and lots of talk of divorce but that's a whole process.
Any advice in this situation?