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Ok, here is the scenario. My big brother came up to me and told me a few things that are going on, he is involved with a younger woman, they are engage, soon to be married etc. They have been together for quite sometime. Anyway, so here it goes. He informs me that his soon to be wife decided to come clean about her past, and all her mistakes, wrongdoings etc. He said she needed to come clean and decided to be honest with him because he needs to know a few things about her, at one time my brother came to me for advice about some suppose male friend that his fiancé, or gf back at that time and he felt highly uncomfortable about this friendship, he said that the guy is married, kids but seems to be a lil too close to comfort and it's hitting him hard. He said that he had asked his gf if anything f had happened between the 2 of them in the past because something wasn't adding up. She said no, defended the guy, said that this guy is a good friend and that their friendship is nothing to be worried about because she is not that type of person, etcetera blah blah blah..
Well, just recently she decided to be honest just 3 months before the wedding, and I feel bad for my blood because I don't know what advice to give him. I give the girl credit for wanting to come clean with him, speak the truth and be honest. However, she admitted that she had slept w this suppose friend before and the times that they had sex they were both under the influence of alcohol, etc that certain things had happened between the 2 for a few times, more than 4 times or so she claims, that she know that she was wrong and felt embarrassed because she knew his wife personally, his kids, and felt horrible about this whole ordeal. She also admitted that when she was younger she was very promiscuous, having sex with random guys, going on vacations and hooking up w strangers, having one night stands etc etcetera. He came to me in tears heart broken, sad and destroyed. I honestly didn't know what to say because after all he will make the ultimate decision after all is said and done. He obviously love this woman A LOT. He wants to confront the guy that had sex w his fiancé, talks to his wife because he felt cheated by this guys action who apparently is living his life happy meanwhile my brother is sad and very heart broken. Now my brother doesn't have the best of patience and he tends to be a lil hot headed, he is a professional boxer and MMA practitioner and I know personally how dangerous he is. For example, and I saw this personally. My brother was attacked by 3 dudes, and I don't mean to brag about my brother but he took care of business and even sent 2 of the 3 to the hospital. At one time 6 police officers were trying to arrest him, I never saw police officer flying in the air, being body slammed, and overpowered by just one guy. It took 13 coppers to finally subdue him. So as you can see, my brother is nothing to play with.
I told him to follow his heart and to atleast give the girl some credit because she did come clean, that her past is her past and that they both need to work things out because after all quitting is always the easy way out. That what she did was wrong by denying her past that came into question but that sometimes people tend to lie about stuff because they don't want to lose what they have in front of them, I eves shed a tear for him because I know that my brother is truly a good hearted guy, hard workers, dedicated, educated and he hasn't had the best perfect past either but overall he is still my blood.
So what do you guys think? Would recommend, I truly wish to offer him more but I'm not the best men to give advice... Thanks in advance!
Well, just recently she decided to be honest just 3 months before the wedding, and I feel bad for my blood because I don't know what advice to give him. I give the girl credit for wanting to come clean with him, speak the truth and be honest. However, she admitted that she had slept w this suppose friend before and the times that they had sex they were both under the influence of alcohol, etc that certain things had happened between the 2 for a few times, more than 4 times or so she claims, that she know that she was wrong and felt embarrassed because she knew his wife personally, his kids, and felt horrible about this whole ordeal. She also admitted that when she was younger she was very promiscuous, having sex with random guys, going on vacations and hooking up w strangers, having one night stands etc etcetera. He came to me in tears heart broken, sad and destroyed. I honestly didn't know what to say because after all he will make the ultimate decision after all is said and done. He obviously love this woman A LOT. He wants to confront the guy that had sex w his fiancé, talks to his wife because he felt cheated by this guys action who apparently is living his life happy meanwhile my brother is sad and very heart broken. Now my brother doesn't have the best of patience and he tends to be a lil hot headed, he is a professional boxer and MMA practitioner and I know personally how dangerous he is. For example, and I saw this personally. My brother was attacked by 3 dudes, and I don't mean to brag about my brother but he took care of business and even sent 2 of the 3 to the hospital. At one time 6 police officers were trying to arrest him, I never saw police officer flying in the air, being body slammed, and overpowered by just one guy. It took 13 coppers to finally subdue him. So as you can see, my brother is nothing to play with.
I told him to follow his heart and to atleast give the girl some credit because she did come clean, that her past is her past and that they both need to work things out because after all quitting is always the easy way out. That what she did was wrong by denying her past that came into question but that sometimes people tend to lie about stuff because they don't want to lose what they have in front of them, I eves shed a tear for him because I know that my brother is truly a good hearted guy, hard workers, dedicated, educated and he hasn't had the best perfect past either but overall he is still my blood.
So what do you guys think? Would recommend, I truly wish to offer him more but I'm not the best men to give advice... Thanks in advance!