How do you know if your spouse/fiance/wife has an addiction, problem, or dependency on alcohol?
Im sure we have all been in relationships or are in relationships with significant others that drink. While I do not drink regularly, I do enjoy a glass of wine for special events or when going out to dinner, however it is not a part of my daily or weekly routine.
I believe that my fiance has a problem/dependency with alcohol. Most of the days of the week, she drinks after work to wind down and de-stress. This can include 2-4 glasses of wine a night or a couple cocktails of vodka and water mixed with some flavoring. Since we have gotten together I have made it a point about my feelings that it bothers me as she consumes a too much and a majority of the week.
There are times after work when she gets home where we will go grocery shopping and she will bring a "sippy cup" of wine. Or when she is getting ready to go out she will start to have a glass of wine or cocktail when she is doing her make up or hair or something. Then when we go out lets say to dinner or out with friends, once she starts drinking she usually does not stop until she goes to sleep. There have been numerous times where we come home after she has already had 3-4 glasses of wine or multiple coctails and she will make another one and have it at the bedside as she watches TV before going to sleep.
After multiple talks about it, she has cut back in how many days a week she drinks. It seems she went from almost 6-7 days a week to now about 4-5 days a week depending on the week. So far this week she only took one day off from drinking. My problem is that I have never see her have just one glass of wine or one cocktail and then call it quits, which goes back to what I said earlier that once she starts it seems she cant stop.
I have talked to her multiple times about my concerns and have never once called or labeled her an alcoholic but she always gets defensive when i talk about this subject. At times she will she is more then capable of taking care of herself and that she is smart and has a good head on her shoulders and doesn't have a problem. She also states that she enjoys drinking and that she is an adult and can do what she pleases. She has also stated that this is who she is and that she will no change who she is and has already made adjustments. She also thinks im a prude and that my issues with her stem out from the fact that my mom is a high functioning alcoholic.
At this point in time I am not quite sure if I am over reacting or have valid concerns regarding her drinking. I will have to say that the town I live in here, all her friends, family and everyone I have met here in this town display the same drinking habits. I am always a person of moderation and balance in life and my gut tells me that this is a problem.
That being said, I am interested if any of you out here on PM have encountered something like this, are in a situation like this and what your opinion is reading this. I would appreciate any feedback.
Im sure we have all been in relationships or are in relationships with significant others that drink. While I do not drink regularly, I do enjoy a glass of wine for special events or when going out to dinner, however it is not a part of my daily or weekly routine.
I believe that my fiance has a problem/dependency with alcohol. Most of the days of the week, she drinks after work to wind down and de-stress. This can include 2-4 glasses of wine a night or a couple cocktails of vodka and water mixed with some flavoring. Since we have gotten together I have made it a point about my feelings that it bothers me as she consumes a too much and a majority of the week.
There are times after work when she gets home where we will go grocery shopping and she will bring a "sippy cup" of wine. Or when she is getting ready to go out she will start to have a glass of wine or cocktail when she is doing her make up or hair or something. Then when we go out lets say to dinner or out with friends, once she starts drinking she usually does not stop until she goes to sleep. There have been numerous times where we come home after she has already had 3-4 glasses of wine or multiple coctails and she will make another one and have it at the bedside as she watches TV before going to sleep.
After multiple talks about it, she has cut back in how many days a week she drinks. It seems she went from almost 6-7 days a week to now about 4-5 days a week depending on the week. So far this week she only took one day off from drinking. My problem is that I have never see her have just one glass of wine or one cocktail and then call it quits, which goes back to what I said earlier that once she starts it seems she cant stop.
I have talked to her multiple times about my concerns and have never once called or labeled her an alcoholic but she always gets defensive when i talk about this subject. At times she will she is more then capable of taking care of herself and that she is smart and has a good head on her shoulders and doesn't have a problem. She also states that she enjoys drinking and that she is an adult and can do what she pleases. She has also stated that this is who she is and that she will no change who she is and has already made adjustments. She also thinks im a prude and that my issues with her stem out from the fact that my mom is a high functioning alcoholic.
At this point in time I am not quite sure if I am over reacting or have valid concerns regarding her drinking. I will have to say that the town I live in here, all her friends, family and everyone I have met here in this town display the same drinking habits. I am always a person of moderation and balance in life and my gut tells me that this is a problem.
That being said, I am interested if any of you out here on PM have encountered something like this, are in a situation like this and what your opinion is reading this. I would appreciate any feedback.