Okay here we go.
My wife and I have been togather for tears. She was 15 and I 17. We have been through some very rough times .
After our second child was born I went of the deep end and cheated on her with a few differant wemon. I couldnt live with myself so we split briefly but reconciled.
We worked through it. Now after years had gone by Things had gotten bad agin just in the relationship mainly money. We had filed banrupcy and were struggling. I was working as a trainer 40hrs a week and as a Cardiac care associate in the hospital another 35 hours a week. She also had a job making 15 dollars an hour.
She handledd the bills and after christmas she let me know that the power was getting turned off ,the phone and our house was being put into forcloser because the payments had not been payed for 3 mths.
I left. Simple as that. We were tring to work things out when I found out that she had been sleeping with my bestfriend ,this guy was also the best man at my wedding.
Now all this happened along time ago and we have been back togather and good since January.
Last night we took our kids to VBS at our church(which I do not attend anymore). And when we came to pick our kids up he was standing in the front of the church .
I flashed back.
Here is my problem. I love my wife and I know that she loves me. Do I trust her again HELL NO!!!!
My problem is that I think about this m'ther f'cker every day. I truly hate this guy.
I still on a dayly basis think of waht transpired between them.
I love here but still think about this.
WILL IT GET BETTER?
WILL I BEGIN TO THINK OF THIS LESS AS TIME GOES ON?
IS IT HEALTHY FOR ME TO STAY IN THIS MARRAGE ?
At this point I dont know if I have forgivin her for this.And dont know if I ever will. He was as close to family as one can be without beinb blood.
Thanks for the help. I need to get some therapy but I have no way of affording it at this point.
Finding a section like this on a board is great .
A big thanks in advance.
,CHAP
My wife and I have been togather for tears. She was 15 and I 17. We have been through some very rough times .
After our second child was born I went of the deep end and cheated on her with a few differant wemon. I couldnt live with myself so we split briefly but reconciled.
We worked through it. Now after years had gone by Things had gotten bad agin just in the relationship mainly money. We had filed banrupcy and were struggling. I was working as a trainer 40hrs a week and as a Cardiac care associate in the hospital another 35 hours a week. She also had a job making 15 dollars an hour.
She handledd the bills and after christmas she let me know that the power was getting turned off ,the phone and our house was being put into forcloser because the payments had not been payed for 3 mths.
I left. Simple as that. We were tring to work things out when I found out that she had been sleeping with my bestfriend ,this guy was also the best man at my wedding.
Now all this happened along time ago and we have been back togather and good since January.
Last night we took our kids to VBS at our church(which I do not attend anymore). And when we came to pick our kids up he was standing in the front of the church .
I flashed back.
Here is my problem. I love my wife and I know that she loves me. Do I trust her again HELL NO!!!!
My problem is that I think about this m'ther f'cker every day. I truly hate this guy.
I still on a dayly basis think of waht transpired between them.
I love here but still think about this.
WILL IT GET BETTER?
WILL I BEGIN TO THINK OF THIS LESS AS TIME GOES ON?
IS IT HEALTHY FOR ME TO STAY IN THIS MARRAGE ?
At this point I dont know if I have forgivin her for this.And dont know if I ever will. He was as close to family as one can be without beinb blood.
Thanks for the help. I need to get some therapy but I have no way of affording it at this point.
Finding a section like this on a board is great .
A big thanks in advance.
,CHAP
